What are the qualities a man should posses to have a successful relationship. I'll list a few that I've heard, but please share. (And if you've never had a relationship that lasted a least a few months, don't bother posting what you THINK would keep a healthy/successful relationship)

- Sexual Tension (60YOC says this is the main thing to have)
- Having a life outside of your girlfriend
- Being wanted by other women
- Having fun with your girlfriend (Not just sex. It could be playing basketball)
- Help your girlfriend with personal problems/insecurities (Eg - Acting like that nice guy who always gets friend zoned. However, you can't get friend zoned because you are already her girlfriend. I think this really had my ex attached to me)
- Trust (Not being over protective of your girlfriend. Let her have her own life)
- Communication

Those are the first few that come to my head. I also heard Gambler saying, "I'm not the one to brag, but I really believe that it is not possible for a girl to dump me." I think he was saying because he keeps her attracted throughout the whole relationship, and not only for the pickup. Hence why many guys can pick up women, but fail to have a relationship with them. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think Gambler was referring to "Having a life outside of your girlfriend". I'm sure "Being wanted by other women" also helps too. But if you know the exact answer Gambler was referring to, please let us know.

A solid list.

I recently started dating my best friend of three years. We've always had fun together, so I've focused mainly on driving the sexual tension through the roof using a lot of the things that 60 recommends. I don't think there's anything more important in a relationship than knowing that the two of you are seconds from ripping each others clothes off. It's what really separates you/her from other guys/other girls.

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Scratch being wanted by other women, it does not add anything to the relationship

Add in communication skills. Being able to open up and talk to your partner about anything without fear of her being hurt/offended will prevent problems from getting out of hand. If you find you cant talk to her about issues no matter how hard you try, then its a good sign your relationship wont last or wont be a very happy one

I agree with Tiger, communication is key. It sounds like a corny line, but often one or both partners stop saying things that bother them just to avoid a fight or feeling uncomfortable. I believe it was also 60 who said you have to get used to this uncomfortable SPAM and stick in the situation until it is resolved instead of just leaving to cool off or whatever. And being able to say anything, really anything to your partner will also lead to a better sex life. Many couples have crises in their sex life because of other issues which then translate to a loss of libido and similar. It's easy to talk about keeping attraction at the beginning of the relationship. But what happens after 5, 7, 10 years? If the communication isn't completely honest, there is nothing that will keep attraction alive then.

I disagree with the bold. No girl wants to date a loser who can't get women. She should know that if she's out of line, she will get tossed and replaced.

I added communication on there.

Most of the stuff are good, but for example 'being wanted by other women' is not a necessary factor in having a successful relationship. You're not in a relationship together because other people must have your partner.

It's not a necessity. However, it contributes as a bonus to a certain extent (until one of the partners gets madly jealous and the the other end of the spectrum takes over).

Also, 'sexual tension' can be a little vague. Having a healthy sexual life is definitely a necessity, but going around building constant sexual tension in itself is not something that's absolutely necessary to establish for your relationship to be counted as 'successful'.

A lot of the threads created in this section are all about how 'girlfriend goes cold', 'girlfriend is having a male friend and I don't like that', 'girlfriend doesn't wanna put out' etc etc, and the solutions to those problems seem ridiculously retarded. They start believing the girl is playing tricks on them, trying to deceive them, trying to cause paranoia and jealousy. So they respond with playing games right back at them. FREEZE HER OUT! THAT'S THE SOLUTION. Or, or . . . DO A LITTLE PUSH/PULL AND DISQUALIFY YOURSELF . . . Uh, uh . . . REFUSE SEX FOR TWO WEEKS.

So I would say that the two most important key factors for a relationship to be successful are trust and communication, like mentioned in the given list already. I felt the need to emphasize on that point considering the fact that most 'problems' that people have, and come to these forums to cry about, are in fact not even problems and/or problems that were raised in the first place because of the ^above mentioned stupidities and games played by the crybabies themselves.

The opposite of not being wanted by women isnt necessarily "being a loser who cant get women". Knowing that she will get tossed and replaced if shes out of line doesnt strengthen the relationship either.

If the girl is out of line, you tell her and resolve the issue on the spot or as soon as it is appropriate.

Once you are in a relationship, most girls are generally not really interested if you are 'wanted' by other girls. I dated a very hot girl for a while (HB10), and the first few months it was really enjoyable that a lot of guys were into her while I was her boyfriend, but it gets boring and annoying eventually.

There are a lot of things that are completely opposite when you actually are in a relationship (be the friend who would have got friendzoned before, do not wait 2 days before you text her back, et cetera).
But on the other hand, keep your relationship exciting, do a lot of fun stuff, and be reliable and unpredictable at the same time

the rule to successful relationships:

1. Don't be pussy whipped! Whip that pussy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-4QFYZzLPg

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LOL, I was just waiting for your comment, Mack 2.0

One of my first few g/fs was an HB9 for 2 weeks. For w/e reason, she told me, "You're a loser. You've only dated chicks like x"...

I told that bitch, "No... sorry but no." And looked at her like she was retarded. (Bitch had a point back then though. It was fact) Few days later we were over lol.

Actually she didnt have a point. If shes that shallow to judge you on your past relationships then do you think your relationship would have been any better if you dated more/different girls? No, she would still be the shallow retard bitch that she is and sooner or later she will be picking on something else

yo!

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Where's the like button on this. Yeah she's very immature. Not girlfriend material... more fucking material. Too bad she won't give it up. Word around town is that she might still be a virgin... stupid cock tease.

I second that, Kobe. Jealousy is where gina tingles are born. The mere threat of the man going elsewhere for affection creates a chemical reaction in a girl's brain. It also raises the relative status of the man above the woman, which is ultimately what she wants. Women do not want to date men no one else wants.