ok so heres my story, I worked at a sub shop and this girl there was friends with one of my friends from another job. we all hung out together, she was pretty into me at first( bout 3 weeks ago). everytime me and her have hung out since then , we have met at a mutual friends house and there is always like 8-10 ppl over.

SO ANYWAYS! I was dieing to know, and asked her if she liked me, to find out yes she does, and that my friend had got with her and screwed her over like a mnth ago.

I feel like now that we've been hanging out and I havent made a move she may have lost interest, and I can't exactly kiss her with all these people around.

the other night she was resting her head on my shoulder n we were holding hands. now since then, she will txt me, il wait a bit, txt back get a quick reply. and then it always ends. she just quits txting back mid convo.

srry for the long post. but how should I fix this, she is almost acting anoyyed so maybe im trying to hard, or maybe its because I havent kissed her.

but im going to just play it cool for a few days and not txt her til she txts me, and probably not try to chill with her til next weekend.

ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP IMMENSLY.
one last thing, I have 3 other girls on standbye right now, but I just want this one haha. thats why im so frustrated.

more info.-> Whenever I try to sit by her she moves, or turns on a cellphone game. whenever I ignore her she trys to get my attention. Im just really scared of dropping into the friend zone. so what do I do next time I see her?

ok well since your taking the time to read this, can you take a min of your time and tell me which forum I should repost this in plz?

Ok, basically I feel that you need to be more aggressive and spontaneous with her. She gets bored with the conversation via text because you don't have enough energy or perhaps aren't being alpha enough. Next time she initiates contact with you via text do something unique/crazy. For example, tell her that she must meet up with you and go on a walk to check out the stars. Something romantic. Try it!

Thats what it feels like. only I feel like it might be too late for that. today she was txtin me tellin me she went skating and is going to her friends. I replied back, "wanna have a skate sesh this week" forgot to put a question mark. two hrs later no reply, so I txt to her lol that was a question not a statement, to which she replies" lol i figured, Yeah I'm definately gunna skate today". havent txt her since, so should I wait for her to txt me? i might just hit her up around wed/thurs out of the blue and be like hey im free for work lets chill.

not tryin to obsess just trying to figure out my next move. so here is my current thought, read something similar in a another post.

I shred on guitar(I know she likes that) I do a little bit of cigarette slight of hand when I smoke. but I threw her way off with this oldschool david blaine twist my arm around twice trick, she almost started crying. If I can get her alone, Im going to say to her " hey so I learned a new trick" "close your eyes and count to 3" then when shes focused on that, just come in with a nice sensual kiss to the lips. is that smooth or creepy?

You can escalate the situation without kissing her in front of people if it's a big problem. You can also move her.

Your hand is face up here. You've been much too weak and she is losing interest. Asking if she likes you isn't masculine.

Close your eyes kiss is a bit of a cop out. It could also make things worse if it's uncalibrated. It's better than doing nothing.

Your immediate next move is to take a step back.

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thanks man. yea I asked her through a txt, just if she was into me as a friend or other ways. so take a step back, check. then im guessing next time I see her, be more outgoing and whatev. idk usually girls dig my whole idgaf you exist Im a musician thing and then bam sex. but with this one she is just difficult, how do I demonstrate the right DHV to get her back to wanting me again?

Isn't there any place where you can isolate ? I mean... can't you tell her you need some fresh air and get out of the house ? Or maybe there is an empty room to "help you relax from all that noise" ? Make sure to leave the conversation opened for topics, and if that is the case-it's not your fault.

I have read never asked her if she likes you. I never have. It is alot of pressure on the girl... it will turn her off quick.

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Thx for the advice everyone. I'll probably txt her very little throughout the week and try to get her to chill this weekend. I screwed up a bit, but I'm hoping I can salvage this, I actually like this girl and don't just wanna play her and I think that's why its been harder for me. I mean how often do u find cool ass girls who smoke ganj n drink with you, that listen to the exact same music haha, where as with other girls I'm just tryna get in their pants.

UPDATE!- so I waited 2 days to txt her, n this is the result.

Me- knock knock!
2:29

Her-who's there?!
2:42

Me- Oh its just me sry to dissapoint lol
2:45

her- Dissapoint?! Nahhhh lol whassup?
2:47

Me- just enjoying the beautiful weather( haha it was cold as shit outside),wondering what to eat. How bout yourself?
2:49

her- This weather sucks lol just staying after school gettin caught up
2:50

Me- what class? Man... I gotta get this taken care of. ( was trying to get a why response from her, I was gonna reply with something like " well i have this problem I dont seem to know what your fav food is, and id like to take you out to dinner this friday "

never said it though.

anyways , I decided to have a get together at my house so I inv her a few hrs later

Me-Having people over at 6 for hookah, feel free to stop by ( sent as mass txt to everyone.)4:29

her- haha maybe I gotta see what im doing today
5:19

Me- well if you wanna stop by, its just me and some friends from highschool smoking hookah and other things lol.
6:30

HEr- Lol fun stuff! il see, I got Kicked out so I gotta figure out my plans for tonight
7:27

( thinking to myself aww shit)

Me-Oh man, well i hope your doing alright. Ive been in that situation, so I wish you the best.
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ok really dont know were to go with this guys. what would you do? Im pretty sure im at failure status now, i dont think she will be inv me or accepting any inv soon, maybe im wrong.
maybe she got kicked out for real, but idk.