We've been hanging out for 3 times. At the end of the day, she asked the time we spent together was just hanging out not dates. She said she didn't want I told her that I like her but she said she wanted to be friends with me. I told her when we hang out next time together I may or may not attempt physical contact with her.

She left a message on my FB and this is the message:
"Any physical contact will result in utilization of my cute pepper spray gadget. As always, that was a joke.

On a non-joking note, thanks for letting me know. If those are the conditions, then I will not be able to meet up with you on Wednesday.

I do, however, would like to hang out with you as a friend but without worrying you may put a move on me. I think the best way to do this would be for us to hang out with more people than just the two of us and my pepper spray.

So what do you say? Think you'll able to hang out with me and my friends or with me and your friends without you attempting to make a move on me?"


Is there any way to get away from this friend zone next time I see her?

When a girl tells u she just wanna be friends you have to make it as if it was your decision to be friends. If shes telling you she just wants to be friends and you are not allowing it, it will just make it worse. Basically look at it as a test, stay low and show her attention as only a friend, your chances to getting out of the friend zone will increase.

Also you could use her friends to your advantage, if you decide to hang out with her and her friends, you can flirt with one of her friends and she will most likely get jealous.

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If a woman said that shit about pepper spray to me I'd tell her to fuck off in no uncertain terms. No ifs, ands or buts.

My reply would probably be something like quoting what she said about pepper spray, followed by "Fuck off."

Then don't talk to her again.

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oh wow.

I would probably not even respond. Let Wednesday come and go. Fuck that.

You could tell her you'll be wearing goggles and be as shameless as possible until she stops talking to you or gives in to your overbearing confidence and sexuality.

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Bro take it as a learning curve of how noit to get in the friend zone next time.

Dont go hang with her on her terms, but you could ask if she will tag along with you where you can let her know you want some tips of how not to get in the friend zone, practise kino if shell let you, practise routines etc.

She sounds fucking loopy. Drop her.

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Basically what the other men here said is pretty relevant. Just remember that actions speak louder than words with women. She clearly doesn't see you as a threat, or things that came out of her mouth may have been a bit different

Best thing you can do is show that things are on your time, prove to her that your a sexual person, and absolutely hang out with her friends and game the hell out of them too!!

so I know this is kinda gainst forum rules. but can you guys check out my newest post and help me asap. me n this girl have chilled like 5 times. so now I rlly need to make a good next move.

Tell her to fuck off. She's looking for a GBF.

And next time, don't tell the girl that you "may or may not attempt physical contact" with them. That's creepy.

I concur

It's interesting how often the advice here (and elsewhere) boils down to "Move on and forget her."

We design our own lifestyles.

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When in Doubt, Freeze Her Out.

If 100 guys come on here asking the same question, then you're going to see 100 similar replies. Trying to pursue a girl like this is like banging your head against a brick wall, and to advise someone to continue pursuit is immoral in my opinion. You're better off going through a whole bunch of girls with the hopes of finding at least one prospect than you are wasting your time and energy on a lost cause.

To the guy who made this thread: tell her to fuck off, and then find someone(s) else with whom you actually have a chance at getting with. [\b]

What I mean by lifestyle design is this-- we furnish our lives with people the way we furnish our houses with beds, chairs, electronics, tables, etc.

If we fill up our lives with broken stuff, we won't have room for stuff that works. I think the vast majority of the time, with people it's just simpler to get a new one than to try to fix one that isn't working right.

Throw it out and go shopping for a new one.

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Now I don't know what will happen next, but you should learn from this experience :
Escalate faster
Some guys fclose in the same night of the pick up, you did not escalate in 3 dates at all. Study escalation-give it as a reward to compliance-and with the next girl escalate at the first major sign of compliance. Example : when she tells you about her life in depth, or when she laughs at your stupid jokes ESCALATE, DON'T JUST SIT THERE. Wasn't that intuitive ? Well...in your case...no. But it should be, you don't have to tell her. Do you think that will keep her intrigued ? If a girl told you that...would that keep you intrigued ? If you apply this like the Bible, but the chances are low anyway...
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You came on to her stronger than the Tsunami that wrecked Japan... Just my 2 cents.

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