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I work directly with many ladies of varying attractiveness.
They are not attracted to me. This is based on my performance, or lack there of. I know this rather certainly now that I've been reading and learning about this craft. In addition, my job often involves being subservient to customers and so I don't get to display many powerful masculine traits.
I know it's very unprofessional to do this sort of thing when it involves your job, but I don't give a damn about my job. It's only a paycheck until I further realize my career dreams.
I may have completely struck out with the hottest of all of these women. We went out to a nightclub under the pretense of being in a large group, but the entire group bailed out at the last minute. It was she and I in the club plus some random rude friend of hers. Shortly after entering the club I was alone and she was off hitting on dudes having nothing to do with me.
Now that I have a slightly better understanding of how an attractive woman perceives men, and a growing understanding of how to attract such women, is it plausible that I can still turn things around with her and get her interested or re-interested in me?
Can a man who displays weakness at first make a comeback on the same female if he turns his lifestyle around?
I don't think that I'm hung up on this girl, but rather I'll just kick myself if I don't get somewhere with her.
Hard to say Murdoc.
May just not be your time or the right girl.
Something I learned along time ago. If a woman acts disinterested, she probably is. Maybe she doesn't do the work thing either. Or maybe she just isn't kind. There are certainly people in this world that have lost or never acquired the ability to care about anything or anybody but themselves. Sometimes the mating game seems so senseless and counterproductive. Misery likes company.
Unfortunately, unlike some guys here state it's not all about displaying masculine traits, busting through bitch shields or intimidating her into going along with your program. Different girls are attracted to different guys. Part of it is called social mapping, and is developed in childhood, and is biological in nature as well. It also involves scent. Women also tend to gravitate towards guys that have a certain genetic makeup for reproduction. Being intelligent creatures they also have the ability to make choices as well. Sometimes to the detriment of everything else, or even what appears to us as common sense.
Don't let it get you down. That's why it's a numbers game. You need to learn which numbers not to waste your time with from the start. It's hard I know, when you see a girl you think you might like and she just wont respond to you no matter what you do. Keep trying and have faith, your time will come. Then you'll have to run 'em off with a stick.
In the meantime do the right thing, get some when you can. Be honest, etc.., don't take shyt off of anybody and in the end you'll be a better man for it. And women will take notice.
Like the old Kenny Rogers song, the 'Gambler'..
"You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, and know when to run.
You never count your money when you're sitting at the table, they'll be time enough for countin', when the dealings done."
http://youtube.com/watch?v=iXRq4L4BcbQ
Beyond all that you'll never really know until you try. Just beware of creating an awkward situation with those you work with. It can make the workplace difficult. And I can guarantee your attractiveness in the eyes of the vast majority of women will cease to exist if you derail your career just because you couldn't resist pursuing a problem child that thinks the rest of the world owes her something, at work.
CHAT
