Don't have any pickup lines or conversation starters memorized, I'm doing all this on my own personality and instincts.

Did the newbie challenge, day 1 was an utter failure just said hi to an old lady janitor. By day 4 I'm saying hi to everyone, even hot girls, but not groups of hot girls that still intimidates me.

I'm looking for guidance on whether I'm doing the right thing here. Today I chatted up a girl that was walking next to me, not someone I found attractive but I was still nervous. Just talking to someone randomly on the street like that feels awkward to me. So it was an awkward, short convo. But if I keep doing it, it should be the same as the newbie challenge yes? Is repetition the key? Until I get comfortable just randomly talking to people, even on the sidewalk?

I'm basically asking for guidance on continuing conversations after saying hi, because I'm feeling comfortable saying hi and approaching anyone, but I fall on my face and get nervous when the conversation begins. Am I going about this the right way, just keep striking conversations and I'll get better?

I'm working on street interactions because they're the toughest for me. If I get good at that I feel like I could talk to girls in any situation. At work, in a club, the setting makes for easier openings and conversation.

Ok, you're going about this a little hap-hazardly. Your gonna need a little bit more structure to learn and to see real progress.

Yes, repetition is key, but if you dont have a little more structure in your learning process, then when you get results you won't understand why it worked, and when you're not getting results, you won't understand why it isn't working.

So for where you're at, you need to write down a few things you can say when you get stuck after you start a conversation. You don't always have to rely on the things that you preplanned, but they're there if you need it. And if the things you decided to say dont work a bunch of times (once or twice doesn't count) then you can take that thing out of your game and replace it with something else. That's what I mean by structure. Only really working on one or two things at a time, so you can clearly see what's working and what's not working.

As far as approaching goes, it's mainly about you're state. You just gotta get the ball rolling. Starting out small with things you're comfortable with then building it up until you're in a talkative mood. At that point you'll pretty much feel comfortable talking to a girl in any situation. You might have to do that everytime you go out, but that's fine. I still have to do it and so do a lot of the most successful people i know.


Does that answer ur question at all?

Yea I get what you're saying. I will definitely follow your advice, after all I need to pick up on what works for me and what works best in getting girl's attention.

Today I asked a simple question walking around, where good places to eat were. Out of the four girls I asked, 3 of them had such beaming eyes and smiles, definitely raised my confidence. Never really thought girls wanted to or were willing to talk to a stranger on the street for 2 minutes about where good places to eat are.

Anyway I'll toy around with things, take things slowly, get confident with small talk, then slowly start trying to actually flirt and once comfortable with that start trying to get numbers. I will keep you all posted!

Awesome dude. I'm glad you got a good start.

Lemme know how it goes next time you go out