At my work, I have this one lady showing me lots of IOI's. For example she will come up to me and give me passionate hugs, finds ways to isolate me, touches me, introduced me to her family as her boyfriend and general flirtation with me. I've been flirting back playfully and giving her some kino but not escalating to kissing or anything like that because of the professional environment we are in.

I have this one co-worker who now deliberately starts touching her and tries to kiss her on the cheek. She definately appears to not enjoy it. Then he says "Don't get jealous". He also tries to find situations where he could atempt to make me look bad or stupid in front of women. He also likes to touch me a lot and plain ignores any requests to keep his hands to himself.

Usually I'm the alpha at my work but this guy is definately trying to challenge me. Being his supervisor, I could exercise my authority and write him up or suspend him but this would make the situation sticky as I would have to justify it to my boss. How would you go about dealing with a person like this without getting Human Resources Involved.

One clarification, both the lady and me are supervisors of equal rank so it is not a situation where the women is attracted to her boss.

Don't get involved with a person at work.

Heres why. It can only end two ways. With you breaking up or married.

Also, you are already trying to think of ways to punish someone because of the girl. Not the most professional approach to supervising.

There are way to many girls out there to need this one.

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I totally agree with valence. Don't shit on your own doorstep. I prefer to try out new openers and routines on HB's I work with. It makes for good practice. All in all man, you think it would be better for him to get humiliated by your HB. If she doesn't enjoy it, like Mystery said She's probably being polite by not making a big seen, until she snaps!
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I see two things. First of all, I could be wrong, but I don't think you're a true alpha, but that you're position of supervisor makes you feel alpha. Second, this other guy is obviously just trying to make you jealous. By ignoring what he's doing, that takes the excitement out of his ways. If you don't make a big deal out of what he's doing, if you don't look jealous AT ALL then what fun is it anymore? If she really is showing you all these IOI's he probably thinks it's funny to see you squirm.

As far as hooking up with a girl at work. I personally don't see anything wrong with it. But that's me.

i agree with Tripp. He's prolly interested in the HB too - ignore him. ur the boss and ur alpha supposedly. She'll see that.

and with hooking up with people at work- if ur in PU u should be able to handle the after effects of a break-up easily (if u plan on keeping the relationship casual - gf LTR is a diff story i think).

i also agree with JackOfNoTrades in terms of practicing game.
then (if u dont wanna hook up with them) u can make them into good friends and GREAT PIVOTS for the future

cheers

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Never sarge at work and never sarge where you hang out at. There are to many other girls out there and if these are the only places you meet girls, then you are not doing it right.

Get your ass out there and discover new places. Its called the field and that is where you should be.

It is the only way to get even close to being IN pua..... Running game at work, school, people you see all of the time, is NOT the field.

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When he starts touching you, put your arm around him, act like you REALLY like the guy and you're good buddies. It will piss him off and make him feel uncomfortable and probably stop doing it. Or you can pre-empt him and just walk up, start talking shop as you're his supervisor and toss your arm around his shoulders and put a bit of weight on him so that he ends up slouched a bit and feels like you are in a position of physical power over him.

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When he came into work today, I just took him aside in private and sternly told him that I don't like how he is constantly touching me and to keep his hands to himself. He said ok and did not touch me once all day. As for the flirting and touching of the HB, that seemed to become even more intense than before but I just flat out ignored it. Acted like nothing even happened. She will probably snap eventually as she clearly does not like it. Interestingly enough, he did not attempt to make me look bad once today just flirted like hell with the girl playing me attention.

Question . . . do you flirt back or pay her extra attention when she flirts with you?

She sounds like a moron.

So does he. Don't let them drag you down to their level. Because it sounds like the guy's trying to bait you to get you to do something stupid, perhaps she is too. Which could have employment implications.

It's a jungle out there, and there are a lot of shytbags that wouldn't think twice about taking your place and watching your squirm as you're packing your shyt after being accused of unsavory conduct either towards your employee or a fellow supervisor.

Absolutely don't use kino, or get into alpha male pissing contests with other guys at work. It's just not necessary. Take it outside of the workplace or better yet not at all.

Besides that, Valence makes a good point.

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Seems simple to me. As far as the AMOG'er goes.

When he touches you say something like.

YOU; "Hey buddy, i dont usually swing that way...but in your case...er no still nothing."

or

YOU:(to her)"WoW! He must really like me, because he cant stop touching me." (then give him a nice heafty slap on the back like youve been pals for 100 years)

When he is touching her, act indiffirent or neg her!

YOU: "Hey (target), you guys look sooo cute together, weres my camera when i need it." (confident laff, dunt over due it then walk away)

or

walk away laffing without saying anything.



As far as "to sarge or not to sarge"...thats your call. To handle the AMOG'ing just counter with confident funny lines that cripple him, and when hes pushing himself on her either make comments to her about them in a positive light, or ignore it.

NOTE: While its nice to think about using your social status at a company to AMOG, or bully the bully...If it gets turned around on you, especially after you do start some kinda relationship with the target ( he says you only suspended me because i was talking to his g/f, or b/c he thought i was a threat to his relationship), you will LOSE your job. Not worth it, win the fight in the open social ring and feel the power of being a PUA

One other suggestion here. You said you talked to him about his touching you and that worked. Have you taken her aside and talked to her about his flirting with her? I know you said she obviously doesn't like it, but have you ASKED her how she feels about it?

Nope I did not ask her directly, just got that idea from her body language whenever that AMOG tries to hit on her. She tenses up and tries to pull away from him. I am not going to ask her if it bothers her since that would DLV me by making it obvious that I am noticing this and bringing it up.

Right now I'm freezing out on her. No kino whatsoever, and pretty much ignoring her other than a hello and a goodbye but only if she greets me.

Not true man. You just have to come up and be at her level, make her feel that you are equals, then say, "Man, that [insert name here] is quite a guy, eh?" with a smirk so that she sees you aren't serious. Then she'll tell you how she feels about him and you'll know where to go from there. Possibly tell you that she likes you better, then you can play it cool.

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Exactly. Yes, I'm agreeing with you . . . AGAIN Rye, lol. *sigh* lol.

Anyway, for example, when I pick a girl up and she has other guys either hitting on her or blatantly feeling them up, I'll usually tell the girl "hey, if you want him and his ass/hand w/e, go for it." I raise my hands up, back off a few inches, and show with my body language that she can have him. Usually she looks right at me, in my eye, says "NOOOOOOO" and pulls me back to her.

This very thing happened to me last night with a virgin I picked up. From that point on, she was grinding on me hard all night. I swear she almost came on the dance floor.

It's all in HOW you bring it up to her.