so to be perfectly honest i am a virgin but i have had a few chances. when i get into a bedroom with a woman i am rock hard but then when we get naked and things heat up i think i get nervous because i lose my erection. i usually just go to oral sex but not actual sex yet. do any of you know how to overcome this anxiety or is it just one of those things that just happens with experience?

Viagra?

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What exactly is making you so nervious? If you can isolate the causes of your nerviousness and work on those that'll do that trick.

Otherwise maybe more foreplay... Are you drunk when this happens? Or is it while sober? You don't get it back while your performing orally on her? If your taking any medications some may have an effect on your libido... also alot of recreational drugs have a very negative effect on libido...

You lose your erection because you are nervous, not the other way around. You need to make yourself confident. I highly recommend reading The Secrets of Female Sexuality by David Shade. Its really really good and I already knew so much about sex that people come to me for advice.

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Hey man, I've had the same problem. I'm 38 and it's worse now than it used to be, but I even had this problem in my early 20's.

What always happens is, just as you described, while making out and stuff, I'm fine, then the clothes start coming off and the next thing you know, limpy shows up.

One common denominator with mr limpy: Didn't get a second chance with either girl. I've been killed by limpy with 2 women on the first attempt. I'd like to believe in Disney and all that bullshit, that the "relationship" is more important to them than sex, but at the end of the day, the truth is, women want to be fucked long and hard. You show up with a problem the first time you try to fuck them, you won't get a second chance. End of story.

I've identified the problem for me. First time sex, alcohol and a few fresca's during the day and if I'm tired, there's no way I'm gonna perform. First time sex is a tough one. Often, that's the only thing that's needed to kill me. The ingredient in nutrasweet is a known cause. Being tired will cause it. Also, drinking too much will cause it.

The thing is, when I'm with my favorite girl, it doesn't matter how tired or drunk I am...I just don't have this problem with her. I think being a little nervous, even though I honestly don't feel nervous, with a new girl is the biggest problem for me.

My doc wrote me a script for Cialis, but the problem is, Cialis takes hours to kick in and then it lasts for a couple of days. I don't know if I'm gonna even be able to get into the seduction location, much less get past LMR until I get past it. I don't wanna be popping a Cialis if I'm not gonna get any. That shits not free. Next time I go in to see the Doc, I'm getting Viagra. I think this stuff starts working immediately. I'll only need it the first time or two with a new woman and then I should be fine.

Basically, with Viagra, I can wait until I've got her in the seduction location, then go to the restroom, pop a Viagra and things will be fine.

I'll never take a chance on limpy with a new girl again. Either I've taken my meds before I take off my clothes or I'm not attempting seduction. They just won't give you a second chance on this issue...at least I'm zero and two on this...small sample. I don't want to gamble on this again. It's too much effort and time to get past LMR only to get dumped because of limpy.

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With viagra, you still have an hours wait I think.

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Looks more like its in your head, you have assumptions that it will ALWAYS happen the first time you are with a new girl. I think you are just putting a lot of undue pressure on yourself. If you are having problems at the point when clothes come off then try doing it with clothes on and just partially stripping down, making out the whole time while you tear into each other. A lot of females love this as you don't have this period of akwardness of seeing each other completely naked.
Like making out on the couch and having her sit on your lap and start from there... use your imagination and forget about your penis. Definetely don't call your manhood "limpy", you are shooting yourself on the foot. Try your very best to just worry about her and you won't have time to worry about what's going on with you, the more you work her the more she will be willing to work you up and give you a hand if needed.
I had this happen before but I just thought to myself what would a lesbian do and continued on with fingers, tongue, feather, a lot of gentle touching and by the end she was so hot and bothered she had climaxed multiple times, by then I was fine.

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I'd say approximately 45 minutes if its just nerves, it might be more if its a physical problem. I have tried both Viagra and Cialis back in my "acting" days you might say. I found Viagra to be very unpleasant, because it makes your face get very hot and flushed as well as making you thirsty and it lasts about 4 hours (not the erection, the ability to get one easier). Cialis on the other hand hits peak at about 2 hours after taking and then generally only works strongly for about 16 hours.

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try a bit of oral then stick it in

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Ever heard of a blow job? How about 69?

Kiss her, then stick it in her face and grab her hair (gently), she'll get the idea.

Absolutely don't be self conscious about it. In case you haven't noticed women aren't perfect either.

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Well, I took the "Sex God" link above to the sexgodmethod.com. I ordered the e-book, which still hasn't arrived.

But yesterday I read some of the free stuff on this guy's website for about an hour and a half or so. I met my girlfriend for lunch. Afterwards, we went back to her apartment. I implemented what I'd learned on the website. Amazing! She had 3 orgasms and she says it was the best sex of her life.

Then, last night, I met some friends at a bar to watch the BoSox game. A women pretty much threw herself at me. I took her back to her place. Now, this woman was pretty aggressive and normally, since I'd been drinking since noon, I wouldn't have been able to perform. Last night, in the car ride over, I'm thinking to myself, "There's no way I'm gonna be able to get it up." Anyway, We get back to her house, we're standing in the kitchen, and I start following the advice from sexgodmethod. Amazing! I've got good wood. I go out to my car to get a condom and come back inside. Limp again. Get back to her bedroom and I'm paranoid as hell that I'm not gonna be able to perform. Anyway, I start doing some of the things from sexgodmethod and I'm good to go.

One thing I can say, I have NEVER made a woman cum TWICE the first time I fucked her. This woman came once and then again. Her second orgasm was one of those you'll remember forever. So warm and wet...very powerful. She also said it was the best sex of her life.

That's two women in under 12 hours telling me I'm the best fuck they've ever had in their lives!!!!

I totally recommend the sexgodmethod. Amazing shit and it works!

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you can buy this shit at General Nutrition called "horny goat weed", get some and take it an hour or so before gametime and be prepared to hammer the poor girl into the mattress... my dude in high school took some and he said he had it up for 3 hrs...

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