i'm not a complete newb to this game, but this is the first time i've done anything directly online. mainly i've just been tutored by a friend.

i need a little help with my ex:
using all my skills for the pickup i totally got this girl obsessed about me (i never even asked her out. we made out one night and afterwards she asked if we were "together", just to make sure)
a couple weeks ago she, started losing interest and in the space of a week, she dumped me altogether, though she was really nice about it.
when we were dating we didn't go out much because we were both on a XC team together and between that and all the other stuff we had to do, neither of us had time or energy until the weekends.
i never bought her anything. i'm pretty sure i handled it well, so im not sure what happened exactly.

my question is this: am i supposed to change my behavior when i start dating a girl or what? we had plenty of fun. i was plenty entertaining. i let her know i loved her but never acted like i felt like i needed her.
so what gives? i think she's probably just immature but still. i lost the attraction somewhere in there (and i was stressed like none other)

so yeah.
right now she is trying to make contact with me. she told me she was really sorry for all the crap she's ever put me through (i've known her for a while and yeah, she's put me through a lot of crap, before we started dating)
part of that is because her best friend is a really good friend of mine and has been for a while, so that probably makes her feel guilty.

so questions are:
-what do you do after you attract a girl and ask her out (or she asks you out, however that works)
-and how do i deal with her wanting to still be friends when i would rather either be together or just get rid of her (w/o being rude--i'm still friends w/ her best friend)

and yeah, i still love her. she's a pretty special girl (all the other girls in my school suck). and chances are i'm going to be seeing her a lot whether i like it or not, so either i have to get over her and be friends, or start dating her again, but neither one looks to good.

that was a long post. thanks for reading this far.

and yeah, i still love her. she's a pretty special girl (all the other girls in my school suck). and chances are i'm going to be seeing her a lot whether i like it or not, so either i have to get over her and be friends, or start dating her again, but neither one looks to good.


You said it all yourself friend. Do what you think is right pick an option and stick with it. untill something else has you attention what a crazy game it is.

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BRENT AKA "HOLLYWOOD"

This is that whole "Don't shit where you eat" thing. You'll get over it. And better yet if you play it cool like it wasn't any big deal it will drive her nuts. She sounds like a HS girl thats trying to play games with you. Be above it and find better girls. Outside of your school cuz not only can you game a wider variety but you can game multiple girls at the same time from the same school. And chances are she'll still want you more.

I've been through this kind of thing twice now. There are just some girls in the world, especially when they're in high school, who just can't stay in a relationship. For whatever reason, mostly family issues I've found, they are very chaotic and fickle and will play with the relationship like it's play doh. And as the guy, you end up paying the price. She strings you along, keeps up the illusion that she's special and she thinks you're special, but in the end nothing changes. The best thing to do is to stay away from these girls. Ignore how attracted you are to her. Find a girl who can actually handle a relationship and you'll notice the difference is like night and day.

As for the questions. Don't change your behavior from how you were in attracting her. Unless your attraction behavior was totally fake. Keeping up an act to keep her attracted can work, but at some point she'll notice. Get to know her for who she is and start making a connection with her that's going to give the relationship strength to last past a week.

I agree with Ziggy, this never happened to me but a good friend of mine has a similar experience, the girl broke up with him (actually it happened twice with 2 different girls) and then a while after she calls him to get back together.
Freeze-out, dont be friends or anything, besides it better if you move on anyway and if in a month she wants to see you again then good for you, but move on.

I kind of get the feeling that this girl didnt want to feel slutty, because she made out with and you she needed to feel that you werent using her and wanted a relationship. Shes probability not ready for a serious relationship.

I had this happen to me when I found out my friends sister had a crush on me, so I called her to ask her out, she was excited, we talked for a bit on the phone and when it came time to go out, she panicked and gave me a speech, shes younger and wasnt ready for a relationship, havent spoken to her since...

you shouldnt have agreed to be together with her the next day after you only made out. let her be crazy about you and keep it at that. go out with her once in a while and keep it spontanious. she was probabally testing you when she asked if you were together. she got the answer she liked, but not what she wanted. she wanted to hear no, and that would have proved to her youre more of an alpha she thought and she would be even more crazy about you. and you could have justified your NO decision quite easily as well