Hi guys,

I picked up this smoking hot asian girl in a club, got a K-close, and she gave me her number. I would have tried to take her home but she left in a rush.

Anyway I've been slowly trying to get into her comfort zone and ask her out on a date, but its backfired. Pleease can someone tell me what I've done wrong and if I can rescue the situation

Me: hey, did you have a good time last night?

HB:Yes #(lame response!)

Me: good so did I! Dont think we exchanged names I'm ******, what's your name.

HB: **** **** . How was your day?

Me: Quite good, spent half the day staring at a computer screeen and the other half enjoying the sun. Nored now though, all my SPAM have left for easter hols ! Got anything good planned this week/

HB: Aww, haha, planning a BBQ , been sun bathing today too!

Me: How's the barbie going?

HB blahahahahahahaha. friends gossiping blahaha

Me: Haha sounds liek you had fun! I'm bored again I think you should entertain me!

HB: Lol thats not my job, are you in final year? No coursework?

Me; Haha well im less bored now! Yer im in my final year and ive got loads of coursework but ive been doing it all day! What year are you in?

HB: Second year, but changing course blalahahaha

ME: Ah kl, want to stay here a little longer then! What are u changing to and from?

HB: From ***** to *****, it was too stressful doing ******

Me: Is that based in ***** department, thats where I've pretty muhch spent the last 4 years!

HB: No way! So youv been in here for 4 years?

Me:Yep I'm a bit of a veteran now. I think we should meet up, do fancy going out sometime?

HB: haha, why? Where to? I don't go out with strangers lol!

Me: Lol, why not we could go anywhere you want and I'm a friendly type fo stranger! But if you dont want to thats fine.

HB: I see, I think you better go pick up another girl in a party!

ME: Ah well, boring u

HB: Really? I have a good life, so I dont have to find a stranger to entertain me lol
#(BOOM WTF!!)

ME: WOW, ur very defensive!

HB:Perhaps I am :p, Do you fancy me? What do you like about me? I thought you were drunk?

ME: I thought you didnt need to be entertained by strangers?

HB: I though we could just chat, well then..

Sorry for the lenght of that! I don't weather to continue chatting to her? Is she just playing with me or is she actually interested?


Cheers guys!

Good job for the KC
I think you should have been more flirtatious with her if you KC'ed her - do some C&F, make jokes about her, etc. She just didn't have enough fun texting you.

And you should never have said you're bored.

And about the asking out part:
HB: haha, why? Where to? I don't go out with strangers lol!

She asked you where to - she was interested. You weren't persistent enough, and you left the decision to her (an alpha male should be decisive). I think you should have ignored the "why" and told her when and where you're going, mentioning that you're a very special stranger and she doesn't wanna miss that date.

I don't think this conversation leads anywhere now. But why not text her the day after tomorrow with:
"Hey [some funny nickname] I'm going shopping, wanna join?" or whatever - but make sure it's concrete and fun!

Good luck

Thanks Sundog, some really good tips! I'll follow ur advice and wait a few days, dnt care too much if it goes nowhere, I just want to practice a bit!

I frequently fall into the trap of making the convo boring, but equally i dont want to scare them away by asking to go out within the first couple of text (or god forbid first phone call!...I know im a coward!). Should there be a balance between making them comfortable talking to u and being spontaneous?

Thanks guys.

I think you should have been more C&F..

you open with "have u had fun?" if she was with you she had the time of her life, and you should remember her that.. "I bet you've never kissed such a hot ass like me, huh? "

"i'm bored"?? "I'm spent half a day staring at the computer"??
geez.. this is some bad game you have here..
try to be more sure of yourself..

Ok, i see now that i shot myself in the foot a bit! Definately need to think about how the girl will interpret what i say and up the C&F. Thanks guys.

Any communication with a girl that you have just met is ONLY to make the second date.

If I have just received her phone number, I make a plan. Before I even pick up the phone, I decide where I want to go, when I want to go, and who cares about the why? My dates with a new girl are usually on a Tuesday or Wednesday and late afternoon or Happy Hour time.

Where: Dave and Busters
When: Tuesday, 6:30ish or 7.

Place that has drinks, food, and entertainment. Spend about an hour or hour and a half, and I'm still in bed at a decent time for work/school. If things go really well, I'm in bed with her at a decent time for work/school.

When I contact her, I don't want to be rude, but my intention is to setup the date. I'll send the initial contact. The second will be my fluff. The third is the point. The fourth is my goodbye. I don't bother with anything else. Long drawn out conversations is something she can have with her girlfriends. I'm on a mission. I won't even bother contacting (and by contact, actually calling) her again until the day of the date and that's only to make sure we're still on. I'm too busy with other things. Do I need to tell her this? No. If she contacts me, cool, but again, I'm still too busy with other things. I won't hold a long drawn out conversation.

Bottom line as someone else pointed out, be more Alpha. May be a little too late with this one. Seems like she busted you up pretty good. Good luck though. Hope this helps.

nice touch thumper.. I like that style.

Hey guys,

Right i text back a few days later trying to be C&F

Me: Miss me?

Her: Yer so much I've been crying all week. Your cocky.

Me: Wow I know I'm amazing but I didn't think you were that hooked on me! Your easy.

J carried on the sarcasm to make it seem cocky playful. She didnt text back so I thought i went too far. oh well i screwed up, be better next time.

Last night she text me 'How are you?', this is like 3 days later.
Is she interested,or just trying to play with me?

Shall i be direct and try and ask her out again, or try to build up the attraction?

Cheers pros

When she said "You're cocky" you should have said:

"I know. I'm really really bad for you! You should find a nice guy you can play cards and read the bible with. "

build up some attraction. and don't dlv anymore. When she asks 'how are you', reply with a c/f dhv + question. u can go with Peddle's routine to ask her out ("that's the 2nd thing i like about u" - "whats the 1st?" - "I'll tell you in person. Can you cook?").

Use this on a high point in the text conversation.