Pretty much what this guy said, remember the number one rule of The Game.

1. Leave her better then you met her.

If it comes to that, I know I've upset a lot of girls in my time, but I'm trying to take it more slow now, especially with this girlfriend I've had for the past few months.

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Thanks for the replies. Sorry for the delayed response, I've been helping my buddy move.

I didn't reciprocate... actually, I didn't even bring it up but she did. She asked if I got the e-mail. I said yes and she didn't have to do that because I trust her. I forgot to mention there were only like 7 guys on the list, only guy that made me feel a little threatened was the neighbor and that could be because he has the same postion as me in the same company, just at a different location. So, he's competition in more than one way.

She said she did it because she wants to be open, she doesn't want to hide anything, and I know all about her. She said she doesn't want me to do the same thing... that's just the way she is (in her words).

Since then, she has started opening up quite a bit (knock on wood). This isn't enough for me to cut ties and walk away especially since she hasn't shown anything that has really turned me off. I'm going to take it as it is and see where it goes.

Right after making my last post we went bowling on a double date with her friend. We were in this old bowling alley but for some reason, sparks were flying. In the bowling alley, in the car on the way home, everything. She went me texts about how she's finding herself thinking about me, the dynamic is changing and she wants to have a "relationship". For the next few weeks things were HOT. She had a GMAT exam so I didn't get to see her for about 2 weeks but we spoke all the time. After her exam she invited me over to her place for dinner (first time being there). Things finally felt like I wanted them to feel.

Now for the problem
Recently, she mentioned how she's having a hard time with "the spark". It's not there but she wants this to work so bad. She said she wants me in her life and asked if I can hold her hand through this to maybe eventually get the spark again because without that she can't make the 100% commitment again. She mentioned this to me two weeks ago. We were supposed to meet up yesterday but she called me and said she's got a lot on her mind and she's not feeling like herself, she doesn't know if she wants to see me. Immidately after she said to come over, bring a bottle of red. I went over and she was definitely not herself. We sat down and she said she was feeling pressure because she wants this relationship so bad but with the spark not there its hard to and she feels like its because of her. She's frustrated because she's having sexual urges and here I am but there is no spark. The bottle of red is almost done as this point and she invites me to her bed. I'm massaging her, she loving it. We start making out, things are heavy and we end up just chatting on her bed. I didn't fuck her, I didn't have a condom, plus with her talking about not feeling the spark a few minutes before, I didn't want to screw her up even more. But God damn it, I wanted to so bad. She was so hot! Maybe I should have pushed things to see where the resistance level was. Maybe I should have fucked her. I don't know. I just know I don't want to ruin what I had with her.

I left her place, headed home and grabbed some dinner. She sent a text saying she loved the flowers I brought and loved the fact that I cut the stems and put in the vase for her when I got there. I called her before bed but she cut me short. I sent her a text saying, "Everything didn't sound OK, but good night" she replied "It's not so bad, thanks for noticing Nothing to do with us, sleep well, sweet man".

I don't know what to think or what to do. The beast inside wants to go balls out and just tell her free up your Friday night, we're going out. I'm going to fuck your brains out and just give her everything I've got. But I'm not thinking straight.

Any input you've got is more than welcome.

I didn't reread everything, but as I recall she is being a flake, and you're wanting something more stable than she is willing to give you. If so...
Why not just do this? If you give it your best shot and she is still flaking afterwards you can hardly blame yourself.

If she doesn't respond the way you want (and I'm already thinking she probably won't) then accept it, tell her, "I want this to work but it doesn't sound like you know what you want--when you're ready give me a call," and go get some new numbers. Whatever you do, don't spend a whole lot of time and effort trying to bag the girl that doesn't want to be bagged. She either knows what she wants and is doing this on purpose (MAJOR RED FLAG) or doesn't know what she wants and is causing you a lot of grief (MAJOR RED FLAG).

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I wouldn't say she's being a flake. But it's at the point where she wants a relationship but she needs to recreate that spark we had. I would like to find away to do it and I'm not sure if banging the shit out of her will do it or if there's another way.

You`re being manipulated! She hasn`t gotten over her break up. She`s using you as an ego boost. Let her heal alone. By being there for her and trying to work it out, you are actually loosing ground. Leave now. I can already feel that you are starting to resent her for what she is putting you through. And you don`t want to bring that type of energy into a relationship...if it ever happens.

We broke up. It's over now. I feel fucked up but it's for the better. This relationship was sucking the life out of me, way too many ups and downs. My buddy even asked if this chick was bipolar or something.

Good to hear that you ended it. You don`t need that old baggage in your life. The bright side of the matter is...now you will be able to spot those kind of women from a mile away.