ive had a hb8 ive been talking to for about half a year, she had slight interest but she had a bf the whole time.

after a while of no contact i text her *last night* some random shit. outta nowhere she offers to take me to a certain movie thats comin out the 15th. i agree *knowing movies are horrible date locations*. then asked her how everything was going, she says her bf left her and shit. talks about how fucked up the situation was without going into any deep detail. she told me "id text it but id rather explain it all in person." so im kind of in a cluster fuck. i think there is interest since she invited me out, but she brought up the bf news. how the hell can i stimulate serious attraction when we hang while avoiding being an emotional tampon? especially at the movies?

thanks VERY much in advance!

decline the movies..take control and take her somewhere else..something she normally doesnt do..dont mention BF..

-talk good about BF like "he didnt mean to" bs like that
-dont bash him

I agree. Verbally decline, and if your interested, then you make plans randomly with her at your convinience. Keep her on her toes and be unpredictable, last thing youd want is to be that "rebound guy." Play it cool and she'll develop more feelings for u.

don't panic mate, don't put in too much pressure

there's no problem with going to the movies as a date if you stop looking at it like that, it's just hanging out and seeing a movie together, pretty cool if you ask, plenty of room for fun stuff to happen


don't be so afraid of listening to her... make her talk while not offering advice, use the opportunity to physically escalate and don't let it stall the conversation, make some joke bout she's finally seen the light and therefore is totally desperate to be with such a cool guy like you, but unfortunately you're unnavailable, cause you've got a cat to take care of.

Keep it fun, don't be in this just to fuck her, actually be something that improves her life in every way, "be the man that made her never see another man".


cheers.

Push/pull is IMO the most powerful strategy ever.

It works at every level from kino to physical position (on a bench or whatever) to "hard to get" games.

that's the only way to get through with a girl tho... 2 steps forward one step backword... without that you can't go anywhere..