So i recently got into a relationship with this cute girl i met through a friend. She's my first actual girfriend (been playing around ever since i got into this PUA stuff and thought id give this a try).

Might sound silly but my question is how much should i see her? According to 60s method the mindset i should have is that "I dont want to lose interest in HER" as aposed to "i dont want HER to lose interest in ME". I'm aware there is no specific number, but is once a week good? I got to University and she works

I have gathered from reading other posts that you should keep it to a couple times a week. Definitely not every day as she might thinks you are too accessable and easy. I've been thinking I'll see my gf on the weekends and then try once during the week.

I've recently got into a relationship and I was wondering the same thing. I agree with Anon, you do not want to be seeing each other everyday. You need to leave a long enough amount of time for you to miss each other.

If shes not missing you because you're seeing each other too often, then it's going to be harder for her to connect with her feelings for you. If however, you're only seeing each other a couple of times a week, and she has time to be missing you, and thinking about you between meetings, you're more likely to keep her interested.

That doesn't mean you can ONLY see her twice a week, every week, just try to avoid seeing her daily.

i see my gf every day if we dont see each other we text/call we are always in connection no matter if we see each other or we do something else

That's cool. Keep it up and find out the hard way where it leads you.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Agreed.

Too much contact with your gf (e.g. everyday through calling/texting) is going to ultimately destroy the relationship (it happened to me).

I say once a week is good. And during that one time, you're damn right you're going to have sex.

I see my girlfriend most days when we're at uni, why shouldn't we see them everyday, apart from losing interest?

It would ultimately depend on how close you are to the girl. The closer you are, the more time you will both want to spend together.

Agreed ^^^
Stop generalizing how often you see your girlfriend too each their own,
UM what happens when you two get closer and you move in together, you hide in the
damn bathroom, so she won't see you everyday, and lose interests
What happens when you get married and you see each other everyday?
Marriage done?
If two people really do click, their is no point in trying too run away, or find some other bullshit too do, if you genuinely have feeling for that person, and not just lust and infatuation seeing them everyday should not be an issue. If it is you guys probably won't be worth of shit in the longhaul.
There's a difference between being a needy fag, and hanging with your girlfriend while still having other life goals and interests.
Don't just hover over her all day and smother her, you do have too give her some space, go out and do what you like, but if you miss your girl and wanna see your girl go see her.
Like the guy above me said, the closer you guys are too each other the more you will want to see her, and likewise her see you.

There's not really a set amount of time you "should" see your girlfriend. Anyone here claiming you'll ruin your relationship are simply speaking from their own experiences, which is fine, but the fact is that it will be different for everyone.

Like someone else said, it all boils down to your specific situation and how close you are with her. For example, I have 2 classes with my girl so we are kind of forced to see each other every day. Aside from that, we rely on each other as study partners, and to top it all off we have to make time to have fun together and put school-related things on hold. When it's all said and done, we see each other 5-6 times per week and if anything, it has helped us grow closer.

Just let this kind of thing flow naturally. One thing you should try to tone down is how much you text or call her phone since that's the easiest element to control anyway.

Personally I think the best thing to do, rather than worry about whether or not you're seeing someone too much is to get into a hobby, that way your time naturally divides itself and you're not always (too) available, but you are always having fun

Ding - Ding - Ding

We have a winner!!!

Instead of "acting like the ball" we need to actually "be the ball".

Mimicking versus Evolving.

Hobbies are great, they give us:
- things to talk about
- a schedule which must be observed and respected
- a distraction from oneitis feelings
- time away from each other
- confidence and social experience

It really is a win-win-win-win-win situation.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I see her every day, generally. However, we go to Uni together and live 30 seconds away from each other. Keep in mind, my GF and I were best friends for THREE YEARS before we got together - I know her, she knows me, and we're not about to get sick of each other.

The key is not that you need to arbitrarily limit the time that you see her. Rather, you need to focus on controlling the situations when you do. As long as you are challenging every time you see her, that's fine. The issue is that it's often exhausting and difficult to be that challenging if you're trying to do it every day!

In today's world, texting pretty forces you to be in communication every day. Keep the texts short, and brief; keep pauses between responses. You need to show her that you have a life beyond her.

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"I want to stand as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all the kinds of things you can't see from the center."

"I'm going to give you a definite... maybe."

I live w my GF and we do our own thing. She has girls night and i do guys night, we both even have our own little "sanctuaries"...hers includes her art stuff and mine is a 360. So even living together, you can still not be up each others ass all the time.

Yeah, I view it as Her/Me/Us. There needs to be an appropriate split between this in all things in any healthy relationship.

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"I want to stand as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all the kinds of things you can't see from the center."

"I'm going to give you a definite... maybe."