If so what can I do to get her back without looking desperate.

Bascially been seeing this girl for about 5 and half weeks and we work together and have seen eachother about 2 times. We spoke on the phone for a month and she called me most of the times plus we txt but they started dying down more so on her side. 2 weeks ago on Monday she started ignoring me and telling me it was because her mom kicked her out.

She had to go to her sisters and told me that she felt she had no were to go. I never offered her to stay with me because I live with parents and then I never heard from her for a week and then she said it was because her phone was in repair.

Seemed a bit over the top. Anyway with that in mind we start talking again this Wednesday after I freeze her out for two days and she gives me a txt with 20 kisses and we chat and she loves my natural cocky and funny jokes and flirting etc everything is alright intil Saturday morning.

I had my phone off and she always calls me at 8 am in the morning, this time though my battery died. So she probably called and then thought it was really odd and must of thought I was with some girl. She has been cheated on so I'm sure she will.

Then she called me at 11 and I missed it cos I was eating. I call back 10 mins later no response and then 3 hours later same thing. She often does this but I felt that she probably thought I was with another girl.

I txt her explaining myself even though she herself ignored my calls for 7 days straight. I told her the my batt died and I fell asleep and I was busy when I got her miss call. I then mentioned it would of been nice to hear her voice and that I found someones travel card with lots of money on it lol. Now she won't txt back or phone.

Anyway I can see her avoiding me again and we both said we would be free for eachother on Tuesday, what can I do without chasing to much. I've not seen her in 4 weeks so attraction is slipping I think. What can I do guys? I might txt again but not sure what to say.

Well, first of all, you must know that if you occasionly ignore her calls because you're busy she just has to accept it. If she doesn't, well then it's her fault. You can't be too available at any time, because it will bore eventually.

And if she ignored you, well accept it and forgive it. She must have had reasons like you. I think you're next step has to be something like: I'm gonna go to the mall tomorrow to pick out new jeans/shirts and maybe grab a drink, wanna join?

If she doesn't answer it at all, then just fuck it. Don't think about her, don't text her, just leave her, it's her choice not to be with you. Go out and meet other girls then!

Greeeetz

I've been there and it sucks mate.

I agree with the above poster; to hell with it. At the very least a person needs to show some respect and that sure as hell isn't respect.

Get on out there, play and have fun.

She txt back eventually.

She is fun. Really good looking Italian 22 year old and she is like a tomboy in some ways but dresses slutty alot. It was really cool and we played COD for 2 hours tonight she was good and got more kills than I did lol and I'm a decent gamer but don't play COD that much and in between she was txting me kisses and things it was sweet then her phone kept cutting out like it does all the time when we spoke after the game finished and I said something that she slightly didn't agree(to do with our relationship at work) with so when it cut out this time she lets the phone ring and turns it off twice. More games....

I know she doesn't mean it but I can't tell if she really wants to see me. She recently come out of a relationshiop but I tell her that it would be nice to see eachother because we just keep talking and it's not helping the attraction. I like her alot and don't want to push her away so what do you lot think?

LOL SHE PLAYS COD?
Keeper. I love game-chicks. =)

But...
Dude, please stop talking about your 'relationship' with her because some girls just don't want it to be verbal. You just keep throwing out your bait while she doesn't even wanna see it. So stop it.
Just make sure you show her that if she 'dumps' you, she lost something fun in her life. Her contact between you and her has to be like you have a fun life, or better, an attractive lifestyle, read more on how to get that on the forum. Chicks want a guy that handles their own thing and don't need chicks. So stop throwing your emotions on the table with her. Or yourself for that matter. Release them and just LIVE!

And if it works out eventually, congrats. If not, literally millions of other options!

Tonight I txt her and then she tells me she is going to come around and see me a bit. I txt her saying what time and call her because she doesn't answer the txt.

She calls and then says she wanted to play a few quick games on PS3 with me. We spent 3 hours f***ing about on the PS3 playing GTA IV and decided she wasn't going to see me but instead of telling me just quietly vanished from online mod i.e standing still.

Before that she was asking me some stupid question about why I never fancied her friend when I first saw her, I said her friend was pretty but I didn't fancy her and I prefer you and she was like "oh yeah but she is a very good looking girl though" and I was like "you wouldn't want me to fancy her though would you" and then her tone was angry even when I complimented her saying she was different to the other girls and this other girl I had used to bore me by talking about houses and money on first date and she was like "you could agree with her"

I was like "yeah I did but we just didn't get on" and then her phone cuts off and she doesn't pick up both times and ring her and ignores me online then appears suddenly and just f***s about on the game. I'm pretty pissed off right now.

I must say that to me, you sound like a pussy.
To me the whole conversation sounds like a big mess. If a girl really is that way, then if you want to bang her, you've gotta deal with this. I, would never want to be with a girl that is so... weird? (To me she sounds weird/retarded/not 100%)

When a girl hangs up on you, fuck her.
When she's not acting the way you like it, even if you are acting nice to her, fuck her.

And no, with fuck her I mean ignore her. Or fuck her. Whatever is easiest.

Not even about being a pussy she can make an excuse her phone cuts out because it always does. It's just she is random and thats why it's hard for me to figure out how to be. My tone isn't that nice even if I am joking with her.

Ahhh, Okay bro.

Firstly, shes afraid. She had a shitty relationship and got cheated on, shes a gamer girl, not some HB 10 (or w.e.). That said, her self esteem is probably on the rocks, she is TESTING YOU, and she doesnt trust you very much, hence she is "playing games."

What I would do, for your sake and hers, is give her some time. Dont talk about your relationship, just say that if you wanna hang out we can hang out. Put the pressure on her, make it her move, youve done a lot it seems. It aint about being a pussy, you could charm her up all you want, but if she is testing you then she doesnt trust you, which means its HER problem, not yours.

If she has trust issues and is already asking you stupid questions like "how hot are my friends in relation to me" then its time for you to tell the girl where the door is. My first real GF did this and I now in retrospect, I realize its because she had TERRIBLE SELF ESTEEM. Anyway, thats my 2 cents

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chill the fuck up

She told me she went to work today and then was trying to get me jealous telling me all the guys walked in the ladies locker room and were looking at her taking a peek at her ass in her g-string.

I tried not get to jealous but I felt it and then I said "what if they said it in front of me should I stand back because I would want to say to them back off"and she was like you can't it's work I can handle it" Anyway this ugly dude she knows and speaks with on the phone sometimes and she told me it's him asking for advice about his girlfriend.

She also says he goes around telling people that she is his girlfriend and it's annoying. Well the guy kind of knows she likes me and told me how much she kept talking about me and then today and walked up to me and started saying "how is your girl, I have 10 missed calls from her on my phone, I call her on my break too" I said nothing because she doesn't want the work to know about us and then he asked me if I speak to her and I said on FB sometimes. Then he goes "I won't take her away from you don't worry"

Well I want to told her but she was already upset with people at work. I should of known better really. During the conversation she was like "I don't have to explain myself" I said what you mean you don't have to explain I'm not asking you. I told her I paid the guy no attention and just said I see yuo on facebook sometimes that's it.

She is like "you should of said we are just friends and nothing else" and I was like "I don't even entertain the guy and I would of said more to him but know you don't want anyone knowing anything" she was like "I'm just saying to you" then phone goes off and when I call back she doesn't pick up.

Okay so I'm new to this pua thing and have read a lot of posts etc. I'm still in the learning process, but I have never had a problem meeting hb8's or better, and it wasn't until I joined this forum that I figured out what I was doing right, and or wrong.

I read this thread and had to chime in, I have 4 sisters and have had the opportunity to overhear them or had them talk to me about what guys do right, or wrong. so I think I can offer some advice.

You gotta keep it G man. What I mean by that is if you text her and she doesn't text back, fuck it. If you call her and she doesn't call back, fuck it. The last thing you want is her leaning over to her gf or showing her gf how many times you called, or your multiple texts to which she did not respond. You will be devalued in both her eyes and her friends eyes, and of and when you have the opportunity of meeting them they will have no respect for you and just be considered a stepping stone for their friend until she finds something better. Thats If you even make it that far.

And by texting and calling multiple times She will KNOW you are either lame or needy as expressed here in this forum a bazillion times.

Lastly never ever explain yourself in-depth to a chick you have no established relationship with, it makes no sense... You are a grown ass man, I mean tellin her your phone died, maybe, and leave it at that period. Who is she for you to send a 3 part SMS message explaining the long version. NOBODY that's who.

And never EVER let her know you're jealous because that's shit chicks do, not alpha at all. She's throwing out a bear trap in the middle of a wide open field man, walk around it...not into it. you think Jay z got beyonce by texting her a bunch times and blowing up her phone? Nope, he knows how to fall back and see what happens.

So with that fall back and see what happens, and don't jump every time she throws out some bait, be cool and be busy, notice I said BE busy not pretend to be busy. always keep it movin, go out with friends, post the pics on ur Facebook if she's one of your fb friends shell see you keep it movin and either want to be part of your movement, or get left behind. And with that movement you are bound to encounter other options, other friends and a whole other perspective on not taking shit from her or any other girl for that matter.


Apologies for the long post...had a lot to say. And I'm not downin you man, just read your post and seemed like I should say somethin.

keep it G

She told me last week she wanted to be friends and nothing more, then phoned me days after sounding interested. Monday she was ok again, ringing me 5 x one the day, gave me a lift home and was flirting but wouldn't kiss me, and started saying I was rushing things in a joking way. Next day she called me alot too, we went to work(she doesn't want people to know about us) and she started flirting with a guy in front of me and IGNORING me at the same time.

Stood next the guy and made him think he had a chance over me. She got on the bus and sat away from me and asked him to sit next to her. I felt so much anger and pain because I tried to counter this behavior(her making me look stupid) and the guy noticed. She was acting like she liked this guy, talking to him and being distant to me around him, the guy was really girly though.

Later she told me she started talking to her ex boyfriend, she wanted to see him and he came around her house. They were together 5 years and broke up a few months ago I think. She said that she is still single and doesn't want a relationship. She said he has her new number now.

She gets jealous when I talk about other girls and acts like we are together. On Monday when I tried to kiss her goodbye in her car she kept moving her head not letting and laughing saying I'm rushing. She kept putting her head on my back and kissed my forearm though lo I've kissed her when we first started seeing eachother but now she doesn't let me. l.

STILL WORTH IT OR FORGET? she seemed really nice. I guess I was a 2 month rebound.

I think maybe you should decide for yourself.
How did all this make you feel? Shitty, I guess.

If my ex would start flirting with someone else and ignoring me, I'd literally erase her from my head, and start thinking: If she's moving on, so should you.

She enjoys your attention and maybe she see's you as a pathetic back-up plan. Don't give her so much attention, and if you NEED to be with her (like driving to work), DO NOT show anymore interest, just enjoy yourself and the conversation.

Personally I'd say that you need to tell her that she needs to think about what she's doing with you. But that's the man's POV and chicks are far from logic. So just go with the flow and be the MAN, don't let your emotions lead you.