Went to applebees and was eyeing a waitress hb8 she even made a couple of eye contact and I gave her a smile. She knew i was on her and as I was leaving she even made it a point that we cross path and I gave her a smile and she was smiling back. I knew I could of number closed if I just ask but I didnt I dont know why.

So now heres where I need some advise should I go back the same day I saw her and try to get her number or take it as a loss

I was thinking of a simple opener like
"How you doin you remember me? I saw you here last week and been kickin my self cause I didnt even ask for your number. I was wondering maybe we can hang out sometimes maybe I can take you out to applebees? (saying it in a playful way since she works there)

So help me out man I usually dont have problems talking to girls but she had me on hush mode and its prolly the reason why I wanna go back to close

thanks in advance guys

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I've tried those kinds of approaches before, and they usually end up creeping the girl out.

See if you can arrange another "chance meeting."

That is surely going to backfire.
There are so many wrong things about that approach (and trust me I was a junkie for that approach a couple of years ago)

Going like that you are telling her:
-I am interested in you
-So interested that I came back for your number
-So desperately interested that I may kick myself
-But I don't care what is going on your mind
-So, do you want to date?

Altough I gotta admit the applebees line is quite good.




A very fundamental thing about pickup is a term called "buying temperature" (actually I think it is a sales term but I read it first in a phone game book, so fuck off sales world!!).

So the point is, what you want is secondary, the most important thing is what she wants. Make her want you!!
So you go with this formula:
-Approach
-Give her stimuli (make her laugh, make her happy, make her feel sexy)
-Propose what you want


Going from "HI" to "lets date" in less than 100 words is like skipping her.
It's not something you should rely on.

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Ohhh, and by the way, waitresses are hired guns, their work is to make you feel comfortable.

Think twice before asking one of these on a date, those IOI's may be fake.

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how els can I do that other than goin back there?

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He didn't say not to go back there. He said not to cold approach like that.

Go to the same Applebee's, see if she is still giving IOI's, and make the approach when you're leaving - except this time don't be a pussy.

As for the guy who said she's a hired gun - while true, waitresses aren't hired to give flirtatious IOI's from across the room to someone they aren't waiting on. I think you're taking that a bit too far. She isn't, say, a stripper or some other hired gun that involves giving IOI's to anyone with a pocketbook.

You ARE going back there, just not to see her. I mean, you ARE going back to see her, but you can't let her know that.

Bring some friends, and get something to eat. Have a good time. Make sure that she sees you. Establish a connection. Read her IOIs. Wait for an opportunity, or create one of your own, and make your move!

cool thanks guys will be back with results good or bad at least I wont be a pussy no more

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Closed mouths dont get fed and Im fuckin STARVING