Hi guys, well I had quite a heavy game week (read my FR) this week but now I REALLY need help people.
Well on thursday 31/03 I went to some of the wild student parties we have in Belgium every week day from monday through thursday, and well had 0 kcloses that night, (probably still shellshocked by the LMR I got at that same venue 48h before), but then at 2:50 AM when going back home with my wing we spotted an HB (redhead I love em')
she was going back alone, we opened her, but my wing had lots of work the next day so I ended up walking with her ALONE, well we talked a lot, and it emerged she is learning russian which I speak, (we were both slightly drunk) !! It built massive rapport, a couple
of times she said "guy you are so interesting I must take your phone" well we kept on walking and at last arrived at her place , she said "Hey would you like to come inside ? we can carry on our conversation" well we went into her room sat on her bed and talked for about an hour, apparently she's from a small rural village.
(might explain her being so open/naive as to let me in so fast ?)
Then she said "I'm tired I must go to sleep now, I have classes tomorrow" it was 4:30 AM
well it's true we were both tired, I didn't dare escalate too fast after the LMR bomb I got 48h before with another HB I pulled at the same venue (read my FR), I was trying with a non-sexual conversation to build comfort, she said "you can sleep on the first floor or on the sofas here" I just ignored it and kept talking, she repeated, I ignored again and the she said "Come here, WE'll sleep together" pointing to the other half of the blanket and said "NOTHING will happen, I'm tired I fall asleep very quickly that's the disadvantage with me" (what the hell should I read into this ?) and well we slept or rather she slept, the physical contact was quite intimate I had my arm around her chest(breasts) she was not nude or anything, she slept in the same clothes she came with, just removed her shoes, I wouldn't fall asleep thinking "f*** you are sleeping right now with a superb chick and you can't seem to find a way to escalate to sex !" well she got up a couple of times going to the bathroom then came back and we were sleeping with our faces 3mm apart, still I hadn't made a move, then dawn came and she asked me to
go; saying "I got classes in less than an hour" (which was true) and I was the one to ultimately take her phone, she took mine as well but worse she had forgotten my name !!
But she said "I'll probably send you a message soon"
I said "Well we should talk some time soon."
She said "I'd like to see you again, but not tonight I haven't got the time"
I said "Me neither I got stuff to do"and we parted ways.
It happened on friday morning.
Well that's the story, I need your help, this chick seems amazing I think given our convergence of views on many issues we could have who knows a LTR ! or is it me just
being intoxicated once again ?
Well I still haven't sent nor received any message, what should I do ?
I mean there is at least some comfort she knows I'm safe and seems eager
to practice Russian with me, but I fear it will or (already has) dissipated, was I wrong not try to escalate ? Or was it the best thing to do ? Or is she simply not interested ?
Please HELP me organize another meet-up with her ? Please I really want HER !
I was thinking about sending her an sms like
"Hello, how are you doing, have you recovered now after the party ?"
or is it lame boring shit ?
Please help me ! She's MY TEN !
Thank you

Don't obsess over her or you will fuck it up...

Just send a normal text. If she's interested it really won't matter, she'll text back even to boring texts. Next time you sleep with her, escalate. Unless it's a very serious "no" when you're actually escalating on her, do not listen to a word she says about sex. "NOTHING will happen". Bullshit. She wanted you to escalate. That was why she invited you back to hers, and invited you to sleep in her bed. It was just ASD talking.

Thanks for this lightning response, but do you think she's still interested ? Frankly ?
Haven't I excluded myself as a lover by failing to escalate when the time was right ?
And well I know she likes to go these student parties, wouldn't talking about meeting
here there be a good idea for a text ?
Spring break comes soon I won't be able to see her again for a couple of weeks at the very least that is if I manage to see her again !
Please give me some more advice and thank you !

No problem

It's hard to tell, the only way you'll find out is to just be persistant and try to shag her. Don't overthink it. Try and get her on a one-on-one date if you can rather than a student party.

Well,
I sent her a text saying more or less

"Hi how are you doing ? Not too tired after the party ? A busy week's ahead : more parties and a student demonstrations for our rights"

about 1.5 hour later her answer

"Oh yes very tired, not you ^^ But this week I got too much work for school,
I can't do anything :/ kiss good evening "

Well it sounds she's not interested or do you think it might be true she can't? I'm a student as well I know how heavy the workload can be...at least she answered...we are not in the same Uni that sucks, but she herself told me she goes a lot to these student parties...what the fuck ? Is it some sort of shittest to see my reaction or what ? What should I do ? Anyway I'll go to these student parties I might stumble upon her who knows, but if she's not interested is it really worth it ?

I'm thinking of replying tomorrow something like
"We are one week before spring break and you can't do anything ?? lool I don't believe you, stop playing fool and come to the demonstration for our rights !
it's gonna be fun."

the demonstration is probably a better place to meet here than the student party no?

Or I should forget and remember that my failure to escalate blew it all ?

But you say and rightly so to be persistent, what should I do ?

Please give me some advice, thank you.
It would be so sad to loose her.

Hey people !
I sent her my text yesterday night 11:37 PM:

"loool I'm no fool, we are one week from spring break and you are telling me
'I can't do anything this week' roflmao But hey I just stumbled upon your
twin sister except that she had spike heel stilettos, goodbye "

And well she answered today !!! 9:44 PM:
"Hey guy, it's true ! I'm in language studies, the translations done in the
regular school year also count! (here in Belgium usually what counts are exams)
You've seen my look-alike ? What she was a redhead ^^ "

Well that's her text, good news at least she answered twice now, but bad news
she's apparently busy for real this week. What should I do ? When to answer and
WHAT to answer ? I'm thinking about trying to meet friday, but I fear she'll get back to her village or might make up a story about going up to her village before the week end out of fear of getting intimate with me, but hey we slept together no ? I'm hot but confused, please experienced people help me !

You're overthinking it way too much. Don't try to read her mind or figure out whether she likes you or not, or try to always say the perfect thing. That's how you'll fail. Just get her out ASAP.

Ok thank you again, but HOW do I get her out ?
Student party ? won't make it I think or just directly call her
and say "I'd like to meet you and have a chat" and then shut up as
60 YOC recommends for the tension to build up, what would YOU do ?
In such a situation ? I'm thinking of thursday
(before friday when there is less work usually)
I'm trying not to overthink it...
Please help !

mate mate mate

honestly, she seems to be interested in you layin' some pipe, that really is all

that or she's a clueless girl, avoid these please, they'll only waste your time


if you like her try to go see her while she's busy studyin or whatever, be there with her for 15 mins, get her interested then leave