I've known her for a couple of years but we havent really spoken much. So I started text gaming her on FB maybe 6-7 weeks ago, I was in another country so I kept the flirting low at start. She was always texting me back and showing ioi's (long messages, asking me questions etc).

I knew there was no point in flirting too much at that time but i returned home a few weeks ago and started flirting with her a week ago. So she is under the idea that I have a lot of girls going on and gave me alot of shit tests wich I think I handled pretty well. Bottom line, she was flirting back and I throwed out the idea that we should hang out this weekend.

I called her on friday (I don't know how I did on phone, cause I hate speaking to strangers by phone, in fact I find it much easier face to face), she said the usual crap about she wasent sure if she was going, I said something along the lines of "ok, well I'm going out anyway, lot's of options". Next time I called her she said she was going out with some friend and I told her to text me on saturday to let me know where she was.

She did not text me, I dit not text her either, but we ended up at the same party anyway.

So I was there with two friends. I would say that I'm better looking and a LOT less AFC than these guys. The party was shit, a lot of underage kids and shitty strobe lights. The girl that was my target greeted and hugged my two friends (one of them is a long time friend of her, the other one just added her on fb like a week ago), basically ignoring me. I did not care, so I started talking to other guys at the party and sort of ignored her for the most part. After about an hour I confronted her and said she should say hello, so we shook hands and she told me her name and I told her my first name AND last name. It was kinda funny. She kept ignoring me after that, however.

We were leaving (me and my two friends) and she was sticking around us since my friend told her we were going. I put my arm around her and she put her arm around me as we was heading for the front door. My friends left first and me and my target was isolated. I went out the door and she said to text her if I knew of any parties. I said come here while gesturing with my arm. So I put my arms arond her, made eye contact and said I was going to kiss her.

-Blah blah blah why?

-Because I want to.

-Blah blah blah there is another guy in here that wouldnt be to happy about it (she is listed single on fb and I did not see her making out or making much kino with anyone in there).

So she looked away and I turned her face toward me and said hey I'm over here. She said we should just hug and i kissed her cheek. I left, not looking back. Texted her shortly after with something along the lines (translated) of 'Crossed off in the "book', implying that she had lost her chance.

So what do you guys make of this? Now I know I should kissed her cause she was not leaving me, it was more like keep trying. But my time was limited cause my friends was already in the car waiting.

Ok, so for some reason no-one ever responds to my questions...

I'll try to bump this by saying that I found out today that she is sort of halfway into a relationship with some guy at her age (she's 19, I'm 24).

I do not care about this, I just realised that I want to be the "bad" guy for once and not care about him at all. She is obviously interested in me.

So how do I show her that I don't chicken out because of this while not being needy. I was thinking that a freeze out is in place, however, she has not initiated contact so far, but she always keep conversations going.

From what I gather, I think she is keeping you open as an option but you're not her priority. If she is about to get into a relationship, you need to give her a reason not to. If you ask her out, she will probably say yes, but then if she is really into this other guy she will flake out on the date.

Thank you feller. From what you are saying I think she might have flaked me already.

I do not have any feelings for this girl, but the whole situation annoys me a little because I do not know how to deal with this part of a game, yet.

So let's say she text me someday, what would be a good response?

Texted her today, trying to do 2 things.

1: Showing her that last weekend didn't throw me off
2: Trying to get the upper hand

I don't care for the outcome, so this is more for science/experience.

Me: So, when are we going to make out?
Her: Why do you want that?
Me: It's fun. You should try it sometime
Her: You weren't disappointed last weekend, or were you?
Me: Weekend was good, but why were you so rude and turn-off? It's not a good quality.
Her: Rude and turn-off?
Me: lol
Her: Ok

I did not answer, so after about half an hour I got another text.

Her: You don't want to answer that one, do you.

So this is starting to turn around. What do you think? Ignore her or text something clever back?