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How to keep her on her feet always wondering what you’re going to do next
When you're planning a date or something, leave some info out, either without telling her and surprising her or by saying there'll be a surprise at the end. For my valentine's date, I left flowers and some folded animal towels on my bed like cruise ships have so that when she went into my room, she got extremely excited.
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How to keep it fun and exiting
Always look for new things to do and try. Not just a new restaurant with new good food (my girlfriend is vegan so options are limited there) but fun new activities she may not have tried or has always wanted to try with you. Rock climbing, outdoor activities if she's into that, concerts, dancing, etc. Especially if you're in a city, there should be a plethora of things to do.
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How to keep the attraction
Same advice that PUAs apply for building and maintaining attraction throughout a night for a ONS or a LTR is the same advice you can use to maintain attraction in the longterm for a relationship. I tease my girlfriend but also show her how much I like her with various instinctual push/pulls that come naturally from knowing her.
For example, when she was leaving after a few hours of sex, I remarked that, next time, I'd beat her orgasm record of 7 in one night (by me) and she teasingly said it'll come with practice, so I replied "That's true, I'll have to call up some of my lady friends for that" and I got a slap to the chest and smiling eyes. Anticipation is key.
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How to have a healthy sex life
Mix up the old and the new, and make sure to fit sex into your time together, even if it's brief. Foreplay can make even the shortest sexual encounter feel longer and better. I used the valentine's day date to simultaneously build anticipation and create foreplay by role-playing that I was picking her up at a bar. I even did a "boyfriend destroyer" which she played along with, and that was what made it fun.
Very Important!: Make sure both of your needs are being satisfied. I only see my gf once or twice a week at most, but every time we see each other, I make sure she leaves satisfied but also wanting more (like a good music concert) and she leaves me the same way. Even now, I'm thinking about what we'll do when we get together next, and she even told me that she's had trouble concentrating in class thanks to me. Once, she said she accidentally let out a sigh of pleasure just thinking about me. If there's an imbalance in satisfaction, it will definitely lead to problem, so make mutual satisfaction a priority. I always give her at least one orgasm first so she knows what to expect with me. As long as I do this, I never have to worry about her thinking of me in a negative light.
One tip that a sexual newbie came up with my own, but also see as common, is to tease her with the tip of your penis but don't enter. Going just past the labia makes her wonder if you will or you won't which builds the tension. You can even put her hand on your dick and control where it is. Chances are she'll be pulling you in very quickly. It works wonders.
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How to stay in control Alpha Male
1) Giving her space to hang out friends is very important and gives you time to hang out with your friends too. Multiple social circles is very helpful for this. I don't like to text or call every day, but I will spontaneously send a text just for fun letting her know what I'm thinking about, usually some innuendo about her. Once she didn't respond for hours, but I resisted the urge to send another text or call and later she called saying she was out at a birthday celebration at a restaurant so she didn't have time for a text convo. I'd have seriously shown desperation if I had sent anything more. Not only that, but this experience reinforces that I can totally trust her.
2) You must never be desperate or ask for sex. The stereotypical boring husband has this problem because he thinks his woman owes him sex if he just asks for it. Instead, he needs to initiate it by creating interest. What does she get out of it? How does he excite her? As long as she knows you are able to excite her, you will be the alpha.
3) When doing different things during sex, actions speak louder than words and telling is better than asking. Another post detailed the dominance aspect extremely well but the point is to use your hands to put her into position or tell her to do something rather than ask. Not sure how to link it but it's title on this forum is "Dominance"
Ex: "Want to do it doggy style?" vs "Get on your knees and bend over" vs
turning her over and putting her on her hands and knees then going for it
Which do you think she'll respond to the best? Pretty simple. Porn can even provides good examples of this.
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How to keep yourself from being jealous and controlling (Big one)
I've thought about this since I'm wondering why I never got jealous or possessive of my girlfriend, even when she was went on a date with another guy shortly before we became exclusive. I didn't even have any other prospects at the time, so it doesn't make much sense, especially in the PUA mindset.
It was because I knew within the first few dates that she thought I was the shit so I was pretty sure she would go out with this other guy once or twice before LJBFing him. How did I know? She was telling me all about their date and things she didn't like, even without me prompting.
One way to prevent jealousy that might be a little controversial is to make sure you are a viable sexual candidate among other females you know, even though you'd never pull the trigger and cheat. I feel this is important because jealousy stems from wanting something that someone else has, i.e. seeing your woman talking to someone else. To counter this jealousy, make sure you keep up your flirting skills, even if it could never be serious. Hanging out with your other lady friends is also good because you don't want your whole experience with females to be through just one woman. This has all been said before, I'm sure, and will be said again because it bears repeating.
About me: I've been in this relationship for 5 months and it's the longest relationship I've been in. Despite the fact that I had very little dating experience and was a virgin when I met her, I maintained my confidence and didn't behave like I was one. Hell, she didn't even believe me because of how smooth I was and how good I was at foreplay. I'd never read anything about PUA to get this far, but I can definitely see how applying different lessons to keep the relationship alive.
CHAT
