Hey guys, well I've posted about this chick before and I know it might be a case of one-itis but I do have some other chicks lined up so I have other options ; ) here is the problem:

I have been friends with this chick for about 10 or 11 years, when I was in high school we had a little thing for each other but nothing happened. Since then I have dated other girls and she has dated other guys, but about a month ago her boyfriend broke up with her and she confessed to me that she has had a thing for me for awhile. Now I would definitly like to hook up with her but she seems a little flakey. Here is what happened so far.

- Made plans with her a couple times and she bails on me at the last minute.

- Went with her one time to the mall to pick up some clothes for myself and she ended up bringing one of her friends : (

- Told me that she really liked me and was scared to hang out with me because she is worried that she would get attached to me and we would end up in a relationship which she did not want right now, she wants to be single for awhile. I was cool with that because I am not wanting to jump into a relationship either.

- Yesterday, I was talking with her using C+F and she seemed to respond to it really well. She even asked me "So, when are you going to ask me out on a real date?"

- Thought it was pretty much done with until last night. I got out of the shower and I had a text message from her asking me what I was doing? I told her that I had a long day and I was just going to stay in and watch a movie and that if she wanted to she could come over and watch it with me. She came over about 20 minutes later, looking real good : ) We watched a couple of movies and the whole time she was sitting on the opposite side of the couch lol, I tried to close the distance but she was having none of it! At the end of the night I walked her out to her car and went in for a kiss and got shot down : ( she said that she just wasn't ready and she was sorry, felt really bad..blah, blah, blah!

-This morning I talked to her and she said that she wasn't really looking for a boyfriend right now and she was enjoying being single because she has never been single before. She said that knowing me for so long makes things really hard and she thinks we should just be friends for awhile and let her adjust to things.

What the hell is going on!!! LOL, should I even waste my time with this chick?? She shows me IOI's like crazy but then when I try to act on them she flakes out. I mean, I really like her but not enough to put up with this bullshit. Does anybody have any advise to give me on what my next move should be? We have plans to go out on Friday night but now I'm not so sure I should even go through with it because I feel like it's a lost cause. Let me know what you think, thanks in advance guys!!

Summation:
You guys make a bunch of plans which she flakes on
She seeks attention and you become available
On the couch you try to advance which she rebuffs (twice)
You call her the next day in which she states that she wants to be friends

Is this correct?

You are chasing her and she knows it. You are presenting 'I want to be your boyfriend' to her at every opportunity. It is scarring her away. Inviting her over to something you were already doing was the best thing. That is why she came. Once she came though, it was back to 'I want to be your boyfriend'.

Stop calling her. Make her chase you. Stop asking her out... Only invite her to things that you are already doing with friends or by yourself. Use push-pull (search for it in the archives). You need to turn around the tables and make her chase you. Quite presenting a 'I want to be your boyfriend and smother you with attention even though you just got out of a relationship' front.

Be the prize. As with any prize, if you get it all of the time, it is less desirable. Make it hard to come by.

As far as friday goes, cancel it. Tell her something came up. Do not offer any more information. Do this on Thursday. Tell her 'I will talk to you later'. Wait for her to call.

In the mean time, go talk to other girls. Doing this becames much easier when there are others.

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Yes you are correct with your analysis of the situation. I was thinking that I should cancel Friday. I will try push-pull and invite her to things I'm already doing. What should I do when I stop talking to her and she finally does call me and asks if I'm mad at her?, which I know she will because we talk quite often and it will be out of the norm.

Your right I'm scarring her away with all the "I want to be your boyfriend" crap lol. I'll try a new approach and see what happens, thanks man.

when she calls tell her that you have been busy.
Tell her 'we should hang some time soon'

Make her offer a time. Anytime she offers, decline, say you are busy. Do not answer any details (ever really, with any girl)

Then suggest that she come join you and your friends with something.

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Recommended reading list.

Double Your Dating by DD
(This will work on your inner game)

http://www.freewebs.com/xfman/
(This will work on your outer game)