So one day I'm with some friends and they tell me what's up with POF and OKC. I decide to join just for sh!ts and giggles - figured I would try something different.

I hit the ground running, and get at a lot of girls. Get some numbers, sometimes they don't lead anywhere, other times I've had dates and some fun.

Now enter stage left. Red head, beautiful, great body, independent, and cute profile. Game on.

I message her, and get an immediate response which showed all kinds of interest with a bunch of smileys and calling me handsome.... we message back and forth for a lil bit, I'm gaming her hard - she mentions she has reservations about going with a guy a year younger than her, but I maneuver through the obstacle successfully. Get a phone #.

I text her immediately, instant responses, cute and cuddly talk - she mentions how she wants to cuddle me half to death (right on)!! This goes on for a few days with heavy interest on both sides of the fence...she was recently out of the hospital after a surgery and I said "If I was there, I would give you a hug and melt all your pain away". She says, "maybe you should!"

We arrange to meet up that night and lay low, watch a movie since she had to take it easy. She gives me her address and everything. About an hour before I was supposed to go over, she apparently got a call from the hospital saying she had to be monitored by a relative overnight and she had to cancel and that she might have to go back to the hospital and she would "ttyl" So I wish her well and leave it at that.

Since she mentioned she might have to go back to the hospital, I decided to text her the next day and ask how she was feeling. Probably a mistake to text back so soon, but being the caring person I am - I texted anyway. No response. Letting my excitement that she had built up get the best of me, I call her/leave her a voicemail asking her how she was doing and if she wanted to meet up the next day. Probably a mistake to call her, but whatever. No response, the next day I ACCIDENTALLY send her a text meant for someone else, no response.

I decided at this point to freeze her out. I had checked her profile without signing in so that she could see that I had viewed and saw that she had been online in these days of no response and there was a message at the top of her "about me" description that I can only imagine was intended for me: "Constantly talking isn't necessarily communicating". So I freeze her out for about 6 days and today I try calling her with my caller ID blocked, no answer so I just send her a text, "You'll never believe what happened to be when I was out of town this week..." No response. WTF is going on here?!?!?!? ANY IDEAS????

Now, I am a little confused. She is obviously ignoring me, but why? There was so much action and interest. Buyers remorse? Persistence is what allows me to be successful in business and that carries over into my personal life. I am not one to give up, especially for flakes, I don't tolerate that. I want to either pick this thing up again or at least confront her on POF (since she won't respond to calls/texts as of late) ask her why is she ignoring my calls and say let's not waste each others time, just let me know what is going on either way, and that a lack of a response is rude and in bad taste. Good idea/bad idea? Should I just call her and leave her another VM talking about how amazing my week was (which it was) and that I want to hear back from her or what? What do you guys think I should do about this situation?

I apologize for the short story here, but I feel that with these types of situations to be tackled properly information and stories need to be provided. For those that are too lazy didn't read, that's fine, but for those that do and offer and respond - you have my gratitude.

PS: I have found through my travels throughout the world that American women are just the worst, classless, and most unnamable women ever. Oh well :/ And I live in America too...

who knows, maybe she reunited with an ex boyfriend? Sounds to me like she's just no longer interested.

get over your "one-itis" and move on
game other girls
send her the occasional text once a week or once every two weeks or so and see if she ever responds. no skin off your back if she doesn't, but who knows.

That's what I was afraid of, but I guess it's so. I would send her texts, but I don't want to waste my time and DLV myself and I also don't want to act a fool and be "that guy" that she never responds to. I'm sick of this whole texting BS. Why can't people just have a normal conversation over the phone? Would it be going to far just to ask her on POF for a reason of what's going on and closure?

Yeah, I guess I am kinda getting a little too into it here, but lately I have been dealing with nothing but flaky women. I know women are flaky creatures to begin with but damn.

If you start to check to see if she's online and what she were doing, then it's oneitus already, you're giving too much attention. But yea, it's how online game is, she can be completely head over heel for you over the txt, but she flakes on the real dates.
This could be because of million reasons, she don't trust you enough, she has some sort of flaw that will reveal in person, etc ....
My advice is don't put too much thought on it, just move on, and game others.
I've had girls that I went on day 3 with, gave me a BJ and for some reason completely flaked out for unknown reason.
Just be aloof, think online dating as practices for your day 2 game.

Late reply, I've been without computer for a while, but here I am!

Yeah, it's just my tendency to not give up easily and see things through to the end. I've just got to break my usual behavior of persistence and determination with women and not give a f*ck as much.

Honestly reflecting back on the situation, there really wasn't enough investment in the situation to warrant the concern I was putting into it. I'm not going to bother with the follow up, she ain't worth it. If she's too cool to return my previous calls/texts then she can get the f*ck on. HAHAHA.

Where she flaked, 4 more took her place that are actually steady and into me. I want to thank everyone that posted up here and offered advice and comin through. Means a lot.

Just a quick question: From your initial contact with this girl until you set up a meeting, did you ever phone her, or was this all done by online/text? Talking to someone instead of texting builds much more comfort, and therefore i think it might lower the chances of getting flaked.. just my eightysix cents..

I posted my final thoughts in the post above yours.

But, she was one of those types that as SOON as you call them, there was no answer but 2 seconds later there was a text from her. Gun shy I guess

Seconded.

There's nothing to add here. Follow the directives.

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