So for anyone that was working with me in the "text messaging" situation I had....I am at a point where this chick is telling me she wants to hang out, but never actually following through with arrangements. Personally (since I am fairly new) I have been just investing my time in several scenario's at once. I know a lot of people would say approach, practice, approach, practice. I feel that if I focus, I can work things out while focusing on a select few.

Anyway, so in my opinion I have been doing just alright with this situation. BUT in order to make physical contact I am pretty much forced to visit her at work. If I do this, will it come off as AFC or DLV?

I am thinking about popping in and rolling off a story, get some kino in (which is hard because she is behind the counter and gets 0 breaks), and then just saying I have to go off and do something. Thoughts??

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I wouldn't visit a target at work unless I was gaming a hired gun. Otherwise, why is her job the only place you can make physical contact with?

well I am going to assume thats the only way; she still has not called nor will she answer my calls. but through texts she says things like "I'll hold you to that cup of coffee."

and not to be a complete noob, but hired gun = hot babe who is at work?

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Does she work anywhere that you normally would go to? Just stop by to buy something, if you need it, and if she is working start talking face to face.

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that is another problem. she works at starbucks, and she already knows (through long drawn out fun toned sessions) that I hate starbucks. So if I set foot in there, she will also know why I am there.

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Then definitely don't go. Would portray too much interest.

Easy:

Bring a friend.
Go during a normally slow time.
Talk about how he can not get enough of starbucks.
Tease her about not working at a place you would visit
invite her to join you somewhere else that you are already going (do not ask her to go with you)

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(This will work on your outer game)

So.....say I bring a friend that is a female (I do not have any guy friends that I would want to wing with me). I go, she gets some coffee blah blah blah I tease this other girl a little.....then how would I fuse that into a "hey, i am going..."
a.) I would have to get the other girl an excuse why she is leaving
b.) the target (hb7.5) would be working....by the time Starbucks closes, everything else (but the bar) would be closed. Could I turn it into a "hey, I am headed to a real coffee shop tomorrow, you should stop by and entertain me for a while"

works?

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Freeze her out, dont talk to her, dont call her, dont text her...open as many other sets as you can...

after a few days, or a week...then respond casually as if your indiferent. If she asks why you havnt been responding then say something like...

YOU: "Ah, just been kinda busy lately."

YOU: "Just been hanging out with some new friends, kinda got caught up with them."

thats about all i got, gl

Edited: I take back what was said here. I would freeze her out if not just drop her all together. If she keeps breaking plans, dump her.

I say this because imo hes headed to or already in LJBF zone, freeze her out to get out of it.

You know what, I missed this part for some reason. So you keep making plans and she keeps breaking them or not following through. Fuck that man. You are chasing, which is what she wants you to do. Hell no do not go to her job in that case. FUCK NO. (with friend or not) You are in control here, not her.

Take that "i only want to focus on a few" crap excuse somewhere else. The more sets you hit up, the faster you learn. This way, you won't even care about this one chick because you'll have 10 others to game. Trust me, the way you are going about this is wrong. Game, game, game. She is not special, she is not a unique snow flake, she is but of one in a million that you can choose from.

Yeah, I missed some key points in that paragraph. I edited my last post.

I should have been more specific in my answer because there is a lot of other poor advice.


Then next time you see her, it should appear that you were not thinking about her. Wait three weeks. I am not sure what sort of time you spent with her in the past. Take whatever normal time frame that you used to and then double it.

When I 'freeze' out, it becomes three weeks or more.

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(This will work on your outer game)

You have no idea how much I loved reading that. That's a great attitude. It is often very easy to get stuck on a few girls that you find really appealing, but you need to focus on just working every set you see, that way you can get those ones that you get stuck on later.

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