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Well, I understand what you guys are advocating. Honesty usually is the best policy, but not always. To every rule, there's an exception. For example, honesty with government and corporate america is often NOT the best policy.
As I see it, heartbreak is a combination of two feelings: missing someone who was in your life and no longer there AND a feeling of rejection...both emotions at the same time = heartbreak. Missing someone is probably the smaller of the two ingredients...the rejection is what really hurts, in my opinion.
There aren't many feelings worse than hearbreak. Rejection by a girl you dated a few times is almost as bad, but when you were close to the person, and they reject you, it's really bad.
I guess what I'm saying is, if she rejects me because of something I do to totally creep her out, she gets out of it without the major ingedient of heartbreak, which is rejection. She might miss having me around, but she's lost sexual attraction for me because I creeped her out.
I don't know if this makes sense to anyone else, but if it were me and I'm totally smitten with a woman, I'd rather her run me off by doing something really weird than to tell me the truth and reject me pesonally. Lke for example, if she shows the really horrible side of herself that I've never seen before, like SCREAMING at her children and calling them names while she's on the phone with me. Or maybe if she just takes up smoking cigarettes out of the clear blue. Those actions would repel me and I'd choose to dump her and I'd get out without any feelings of rejection. I'd much prefer a chick dump me that way, but then again, that's just me.
I hate feelings of rejection and I can't imagine anyone would want to experience that if there was another way out.
Besides, there are SO MANY ways to blow it with a chick. It shouldn't be that hard to get her to reject you when in reality you're rejecting her...maybe both parties can get out of a relationship without heartbreak this way.
Dude, being an asshole around her will only make it harder for both of you.