Hi! I need advice about my ex. Like if I wanted to get her back how should I do that. I'm 25 my ex is 22.

The short story is that we spent 4 years together. During those 4 years I read lots of PUA material and I was wondering if I could do better. The funny thing is that I was never a 100% comitted in this relationship, except for now when she dumped me. Now I even feel like I wanna marry her! Total mindfuck.

She was so into me and totally in love for about 3 years. But than last summer she went abroad to Holland for 6 months to study. We spoke on SPAM every single day. She used to mention having kids together but I always wanted to wait with that. In November she asked me on SPAM if I wanted to move togheter with her once she comes back in December, I hesitated and told her to wait a bit. Than in December she did come back home and I decided to give her a test: I didn't initiate having sex and I wanted to see how long it takes for her to want me. It took her 3 days when we were both drunk.

Than after Christmas she said she needed some time alone because I was so cold with her and she wasn't sure about this relationship. She even told me that I could have sex with anyone during this temporary period! I said ok. (it later turned out that she wanted to end this relationship forever but she didn't say, I thought it was only a break for a few weeks).

So than I gave her a total feezout for about 3 weeks and than I finally asked her to meet me. We had dinner at a resaurant and than went back to her place, but she didn't let me fuck her. Strange. I told her that I picked up and fucked 1 girl but she didn't seem to care she said that she was kissing with one guy in a club... BTW she figured out that I wanted to get back together with her even tho I was gonna cover it. I still thought that is was only a temporary break and I might have a chance. Than I didn't contact her for another month again... but now I asked her to spent the weekend together to see if we still wanna be together and how we felt for each other. I picked her up on Friday night from a bar and went to her place to sleep. She was drunk so we had sex 3 times durning that night till the morning. Than once more later that morning, she came like 2-3 times. Than she sobered out and no more cuddling. I told her that I still love her and we might had a chance if we both worked on this relationship. She said that she didn't feel like working on it and wanted to be alone. But let's just be friends she said. She also said that she regreted having sex with me and it will never happen again! Also she wants to move to England at the end of this year. I left on Saturday night, we didn't spend the whole weekend togerher as planned. This happened just yesterday.

Additional info: I got her fb and email password now so I just logged into her email and facbook account so I partly know what she did and thinks. Here is what I know from her messages: From October-December she was meeting other guys while being abroad. She probly slept with 1. Than she asked for a " temporary break" on Chsristmas. In January she met a guy and asked him if they could be fuck buddies but I don't know weather or not they are actually doing it. In an email she wrote to her best friend that she knows that I wanna get back together with her but she doesn't want that. She wants to be in love with someone and wants a new relationship. However she wrote that I matured a lot and I'm making a lot more money now than before. Her girlfriend replied that I might just be 'showing off' and don't be fooled.

What can I do now? How can I get her back? What should I say if she calls me for any reason? How can I make her want me? Any help and advice is really appriciated!

sorry you ether need to man the fuck up and propose or kick rocks. i'm never really harsh on guys but im going to talk to you like you my best friend or brother she have love for you she wants you to man up. if your not stop wasting her and your time.

she did fuck other guys and she wont stop your not together, man up show your serious with out being clingy add pop the question

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Thanks for the comment... well i was actually thinking about it but than I thought it wasn't a good itea.

In a conversation (messaging on facebook on 10th January) with her best friend she wrote that this stupid guy (me) tried to call her and he (me) still think that we have a chance.

She actually broke up with me in December but she called it a "temporary break".

Yesterday she told me that our relationship had so many problems and she didn't feel like working on it, she doesn't want to worry about me anymore and wants to be friends only.

Are you guys sure this would work? If she says no, she is lost forever! Any other option?

There must be something that works. Please help! I was thinking of 2 versions:

1) showing a super apha side of me and partying with other girls (however she didn't seem to care when I told her that I picked up and fuck a girl a few weeks ago)

2) Or sould is just pop the question and show that I'm super comitted. If she says no, than I'm fucked.

my answer remains pop the question.

its a win and lose situation, yo create this problem now put o you big boy draws and see if its meant to be just have a recite for the ring if she says no.

but how you discribe he she should say yes if you do it right

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rozedavoice, Hobbit, thanks a lot guys, you convinced me! I will do that. I'm moving into a new flat on Tuesday, I will invite her there and tell her that I want to live my life with her. I'm not sure about the ring tho...

you need the ring its the icing to the cake. dont have to buy something expensive but it would change her mind from begging her back into taking a leaping chance with her

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I'm fucked now... I went over to her place last night and waited for her for about 3-4 hours in the car. Then she finally came home drunk from a party at 4 am so I met her. She was surprised at first. I told her that I'm totally in love with her and I wanna move togerther with her and live my life with her. I also told her that I'm totally comitted and we can make it work.

But then she told me that she got over me, and she was sorry for sending mixed signals. She said that it would be better for both of us if she never contacted me again because she does not want to fuck my emotions. She wants to be alone she said.

I checked her mailbox again and it turned out that she has been seeing other guys for 9 months.

What now? Please help!

What more advice can you possibly want?

You said you wanted to get back with her, she doesn't want to. End of story. Go out there and game other women.

As a side note, you noticed yourself that you only really wanted her once she broke up with you, but whilst you were in the relationship, you weren't really that committed and thought you could do better.

Doesn't that tell you something? This isn't about losing HER specifically - this is about YOUR EGO getting hurt and your limiting belief that maybe you can't do better or maybe she was the one for you.

Well guess what, you CAN do better, and she WASN'T the one for you. Now draw a line under this, take the lessons from it, and go out there and find an even younger, hotter, smarter, funnier girl that'll be even more into you. She's out there somewhere. I GUARANTEE IT.

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bro..man the fuck up..
its hurts like a bitch..but damn...u wana wed her after a few months of being broken up??thinking that its gonna get her to change her mind??

POINT:
you cant change some1s mind...you change how they feel and they'll automatically change their mind..

especially girls...


MOVE ON!!!
as a pal..im telling you MOVE ON!!!

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marriage is never the answer

that's the risk you made i told you no ring it well make you come off creepy. she wanted to marry you and you were to blind and let her go.
if y'all meant to be let fate fixi ts self

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yes indeed. I know people been married 5 times, its not supposed to work that way but it does, have to face reality.

you said "I was never a 100% comitted in this relationship, except for now when she dumped me."

dude, you don't know the difference between dependence and love. You liked that girl , you liked having her as a girlfriend, but you were not really in love with her. It would have been a disaster if you married her. She moved on pretty quick also, so what does that tell you about her ? she just wanted progress in her life , that's all.

Screw that cunt, she was cheating on you anyway when you were with you

Man, no offence but that is SERIOUS chode behaviour. Still wanting to be with a woman who fucked other men while you trusted her not to, obviously doesn't hold your emotions into account and has no respect for you? This IS NOT love anymore, that part's long gone, it's OBSESSION that's getting to you, the fact that you lost her. Woman are by nature mindfucks! Not to be vulgar man, but you can't shine shit, and shit isn't worth shining.