So, currently I am in a relationship with this girl. The problem, is that she is shy, so she doesnt "come to me" like most girls do. However, when she is with me she doesnt know anything else is going on around her. So its not worrisome on if she is into me or not. So how do I still let her know that she is tagging along and isnt my world, yet let her still know that i appreciate her?

same for me would love to hear
usually what i do is i give em attention one day and very little attention the next day
kinda like a routine lol
or i can also basically ignore her when shes talking to me and look away but give little attention to that(sorry if its confusing)
good luck bro

jjunius9,

Let me see if I understand, forgive me if I am confused or wrong.

Are you saying that you've got this girl who never initiates contact with you, like YOU always have to be the one to contact her, call her, go see her, etc?

Also, but when you are together she is all over you the entire time? And you are reading this behavior as her saying she is your entire world?

I was kind of confused by your post.

mack 2.0, basically that is how it is, however confusing it may be. but moreso just how much attention are you supposed to give your girlfriend so that she understands that you care about her, but shes not all that you care about. i was thinking that id talk to her every once in a while not talk/text over the weekend, but when we hang out give my undivided attention to her, btw we go to school together, so we see each other every day anyways

read some of blondguy's posts on this topic, how much attention to give, the "type" of attention to give.

how can i find "blondguy" because i cant use the search thing

profile.php?mode=viewprofile&u=11809 Blondguy

profile.php?mode=viewprofile&u=87870 Fuze

...both of these guys have posted some really good stuff about giving girls the right amount and type of attention. You might want to read some of what they have written, or PM them and ask them to respond to you here.

alright, thanks mack

Have you had sex with her?

If not, you are NOT in a relationship and can't expect her to give you any more of her time than anyone else. Girls will be especially likely to play games and test you initially, during the time before you have sex, to see how long they can just get validation and comfort out of you. The longer you keep doing this without escalating, the more you're putting yourself in the friend zone.

If you are having sex and she's still doing this, then you're probably not leading in the relationship - telling her what to do, where to meet you, at what time, what to wear, etc. If you lead correctly, a woman will follow - it's not domineering or controlling, they like it and consider it a sign of an attractive, confident man. At the moment it doesn't sound like she respects you enough. You have to change that. When she does start showing you more respect and follows you, then show her more affection to reinforce that positive behaviour.

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