Hey all, I want to keep this short and sweet but there's just a little bit of background information to the story:

1) HB8 I met at one of my cousins friends parties (I'm 19, they're 18)
2) Noticed that she's a playful girl, and cousin tells me that she's a serial flirt
3) Additionally, cousin notifies me that she's a virgin.

So two days after I met/hung out with her at the party, I add her on facebook with a message saying: "So I thought you were cool enough to have on my friends list .. "

So she adds me, we flirt, I run some game on her and eventually get her to give me her phone number (this is through FB), even though she said she doesn't give her number to randoms. If it makes a difference, she OFFERED me the number the 2nd time, rather than me asking for it again. ("Just tell your cousin to text me when you get there... Or would you like to?)

Anyway, we kind of 'arranged' to meet up at this specific club on Saturday night since apparently "I was going to be in that area". We get there, greet the girls and meet them inside as the bouncers check us.

When we get in, I notice that this girl and her friend have a bunch of around 5 guys just orbiting them, and it's evident what kind of girl this is - virgin, extremely flirtacious ... just stringing all these guys along.

Anyway, the night wasn't as successful as planned because I had to leave early because of a fight that broke out involving my family... By now I have a nickname for her (Coolio, and kind of a neg at the same time) but we ended up texting that night, and here's how it goes (cutting out the non-important ones):

Me: You usually this shy? (she's not shy at all, stringing along all those guys)
Her: Lol I'm sometimes shy but not with you ... Well I wasn't tonight
Me: Haha not with me? Not sure what that means
Her: Lol means im only shy with boys I want/want me .. and we are friends so its allll good
Me: Haha cute ... Nite (Trying to display my lack of interested anymore)
Her: Night

I tell my cousin what she said, and I told him "Now I'm going to wait...however long it takes, for her to reply"

2 AND A HALF WEEKS GO PAST - I pretty much forget about her, and then I see an inbox message on FB from her.

It says: "mmmnlmnln" Obviously her trying to get back in contact with me, playing it off as if she sent an accidental message (I knew it from the beginning)

I reply: "Care to elaborate? "

Her: Ha sorry I didn't mean to send that

Me: Haha I've heard that one before you can just say hi you know , jeez !

her: Hahaha sorry ... Hi

And Finally, you're all updated. I don't know what to say next haha, So if some more experienced members could help me out of a pickle here, or even if people want to discuss / shed some light on the situation, It would be more than welcome

Thanks in advance Gents!

PUAlexander19

Ended up replying with

Me: Apology accepted what you up to nowdays? getting into much trouble?

The intention here was making it out as if she was qualifying by saying sorry and I'm "accepting" the apology, in a joking way of course. And tried to keep it light and friendly, and slightly cheeky with the "getting into much trouble" part.

(I know a bit over-analytical, but hey.. why not)

OK, so basically I think you did wrong at the texting part, instead of displaying lack of interest, you should have negged her about the friendship part. Like "Stating the obvious [name], good girl! Nah, but being seen anywhere alone with you in public is obviously out of the question, so for now you can call me your friend!"
If you have some kind of funny episodes together, wrap it in there aswell!

Personally, I thought this was really good. You called her out and got her to admit it. I think that she's certainly into you, but is not going to make it easy for you. She certainly knows that you are not interested in being "friends" since you ignored her for two + weeks.

Now she's testing the waters again and seeing if she can get you to jump - I think you are playing it perfect so far.

imo, you're never going to get this girl to admit she sent that message on purpose.

Think about it. If she sent you that message accidentally-on-purpose, that means she's trying to game YOU, which means you're on easy street. So just play her game.

If you hint that it was deliberate on her part, she'll become defensive. Just go with it.

Example:
"I'm teasing. Listen, it could have been a lot worse..." and then you tell her about your cousin who accidentally forwarded a sexy message to the family priest or whatever. Make up some related funny story, wait for her to respond and go from there. If she's trying to seduce you, hang back and let her work her magic.

gourde its obvious you are not on the same page as this chick and OP.

her saying "sorry, hi" IS admitting that she wanted to talk to him.

well played alexander.

to that i would of said something along the lines on "okay apology accepted, any other confessions for me while we're at it?"

now she has made it obvious that shes interested in you. just keep doing what you're doing.

keep in mind that shes used to being able to string guys along, let her know you'
re aware of the fact that she plays these games, and warn her that it will never work on you, because you can be anything but an average chump.

I think you're done for unless you do something about it FAST.

''Breaking out of a Friend's Zone, is harder than breaking out of Alcatraz.'' (The Tao of Steve)

Tell her to slow down and you don't really think that you both are 'friends' and tell her guys and girls have just too much different to have that friends understanding.

Playfully tell her, that not being friends opens a world of possibilities.

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Really good advice from everyone, appreciate it.

I should of gotten back quicker, but after i replied with the whole "apology accepted, wats going on" thingy she pretty much sent me a reply in the next 30 min saying:

"Of course, I always get into trouble, haha nah I have a bf now so I'm being good, what about you? Also I am now a promoter for room
So use my list next time you and the boys are there "


Huge throw-off lol, could be true although I havn't heard anything about it (this girls straight out of highschool so I should of got the gossip by now from my cousin/their group.

Could also be a lie because she kinda said it in a way as if she's trying to make me jealous. Anyway, havn't really said anything in ages to her since then ... I replied to that message with something casual, asking about when I can get cheap entry in the club (cuz of her promoting) and ended it there really.

Lol, thoughts? I guess I fucked this one up, not sure how though?