Me and this girl Dated for maybe 3 days, we went into a relationship pretty quick. why ? cuz i'm 16 it's just what teens do...but anyways ! she pissed me off cause she wasn't being her usual sweet self so i deleted her changed the facebook status and the whole thing. I know how AFC this sounds right now but it gets worst. i eventually answered her texts and when she started saying how it was rude or w.e i apologized and said lets try again. Now we're kinda talking and i'm being a bit of a suckup some times cuz im scared to lose her but she has all the power. she feels she can talk to me w.e way and im scared to get pissed at her cuz i feel like she wont even care and just move on...how do i go about this ? I started off perfectly and she was so whipped on me.

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I'm only 16 but hopefully this helps !

First of all, I wish I was as not-AFC as you are when I was your age ;d

Anyhow, I think it is important to keep your frame strong. I know it sounds like cliche advice, but you are too young to be hung up on one person. If you don't let these things get to you and project strength, maybe you'll get the power back. If not, you risk going AFC. Worse case scenario..? You end up with the girl for a long time, but have a poor and unhealthy relationship as an AFC.

You're 16, bro. If I had your youth and knew about the PUA community, I'd try to not get stuck on a single girl. Of course, that's my 26yr old wisdom speaking, probably.. Just my 2 cents.

Thanks ! This is actually really helpful because i do have that pua bonus that most teens don't so thanks, i will explore my options. Should i be approachable or to kool to talk to and pick the ones i want ?

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I'm only 16 but hopefully this helps !

dude, welcome to life. women are manipulative. it's how they operate. you can't let her get the upper hand.

good luck, and remember (as always) pimp 'dem hoes!

When someone feels his value dropped in a relationship(for example when he is being told a dhv story, or proven preselection) he usually feels threatened and needs reassurance from the other. That's when games begin...because he starts ignoring, acting cold. This behavior is reactive. It is not logically motivated, it is mind made. Egoic behavior such as this also tends to create egoic patterns in your partner's behavior. When someone is angry you tend to react-you may get angry yourself, same here. It's usually better to let some time pass and not react instantly. Also the tendency is to blame the other, not yourself. Always take a good look at why you're doing certain things, observe yourself.You may notice you perform certain actions in fear. Ok perhaps it's hard at the beginning to keep control if you're face to face and you experience some kind of value loss, but when you're not you should struggle to keep control. You have to be a model for your gf of forgiveness and awareness, not act more reactive than her. Words won't help you, words don't inspire people that much, people inspire people.

The key as poet said is to not be reactive. I think it might be already too late for you, because by giving her more attention when she is being negative, she has been subconciously conditioned to be negative to gain your attention (even if it is negative attention).

In the future, what you can do is when she is being negative, "punish" her by being "cold", as in reducing your attention to her (don't withdraw yourself per se; you should rather direct more attention to the other parts of your life and show how you aren't emotionally dependent on her to have a good time - don't get this mixed up with passive-aggressive jealousy tactics) and not "rewarding" her with physical affection (don't go chasing after her, etc.), etc.

Yes, if you want a relationship, you will have to bend sometimes and show that you actually care, but in the beginning, better to stay uncommited and let her invest more emotionally. Also, by simply ignoring her when she is negative and showing affection when she is positive, you can create a relationship that centres around positivity, which is a good thing.

Although it is to late now and we're in a huge fight that i dont think is gonna reverse this info from both of you guys would have helped so much and i can Def. see it helping so much in the future...I can't thank you enough ! !![/quote]

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I'm only 16 but hopefully this helps !