Little story of how things have been progressing so far.....

A month ago - Number closed on a random HB8's who was with 4 guys who she said were just here friends. After texting her day 3 she tells me she is not willing to hang out one on one because "she knows how I am and how my friends are" and that she is "only looking for friends". Flakes on texting after that. 3 days later she see's me at the same bar i met her at with this good looking girl who is a friend of mine......She text's me that night 2:30am: "why didn't you say goodbye " Next Day i arrange Date #1 - which she agree's and comes with me one on one, weird rite?.......

Date #1) - Her and I went to local bar for drinks/food.....A few of my friends met me out and a guy friend she works with met us out as well.Not planned at all, but after 5 hours of drinking i was unable to drive her home and myself as well. she had this guy she works with take her home and i arranged for a ride as well leaving my vehicle until the next day!!lol. Surprisingly she acutally opened up alot during our date proving herself to me. We both kinda opened up to each other like a book and were both very sincere and honest.Afterall she still agreed she had fun the next day after everything all this.

Date #2)Satruday- I made initial contact texting, she said already had plans with 2 of her guy friends but she said to head out and meet her anyways. So i did. A buddy of mine came with me and we enjoyed a few drinks with her. Both left late, all in all good time. She was very smiley, happy to see me and fun.


Date#3) I'm lost, I don't know where to go, what to do/when to ask?. Hate to brag but i am so use to closing on first nights or def by date 2's. I just can't seem to get her outa my head.


(FYI - There has been no sex, hooking up/kissing. Just hanging out, which is EXtreemely rare for me)

Somebodys gotta have some advice here.......

Isolate her. No more of this group stuff or other friends meeting up. If she won't agree to going out with just the two of you, you haven't built enough comfort/interest yet.

How would you reccomend asking her on date #3. Invite her out for drinks at a local bar and try to seal the deal late after a night out? I think a "out to dinner" or a hockey game would just turn her away rite? and sound to desperate

Yeah, ask her out for drinks, not dinner.

Take her to a nicer, lounge SPAM type place, not a sportsbar type place, and see where it goes from there.

No friends, and don't get drunk.

And unless things are going amazingly well, don't try to seal the deal the first time out alone. Obviously it's passed the one night stand oppertunity window, so now she sees you as more than a random hook up possibility, so now you're going to have to put in the time and work for it.

Things just move at different speeds with some people...sometimes it's hot and heavy on the first date, other times it takes a while to build momentum. Best sex I ever had was with a girl who I initially thought was very reserved. It took half a dozen dates, but once it happened, we went from being out for pizza one afternoon to her riding me like a pornstar.

Comfort/attraction/interest:

We've hung out twice legitly. However i saw her friday night at the same bar we hung out saturday in a group setting and she talked my ear off when i first saw her, very good vibe, smiling/happy. I can see it in here eyes when i seen her that she's interested. I've texted her very brief since knowing her but when i do....its always right back. She's even told me during our date's about the "investigating'' she's done on me. What' so an so have said about me and such......that would lead me to believe shes curious of me.(i kinda got a bad boy image i guess)

This is where it gets sticky........
-there's no lounge's near me, just local bars/sportbars
-What's a line i could text her to assure its just gonna be us "one on one" and she's the only one invited.


Any feedback would help. I very very rarely ever get butterflies about a girl like this