Hey guys!
I have been chatting up a girl I met recently online (I also do a lot of real life sarge dont worry), and I suggested to go downtown some time this week (and told her which days I was available)
She texted me back that she has to figure out when she is available and she invited me to some party on friday.

1) Although I would like to go to her party, this is not the best idea to isolate her as opposed to a date. I am scared to have to deal not only with the girl but also her friends (and many cockblocks) + competition
2) However, if I refuse, I am scared to loose her (and that she wont contact me back for a date)

What do you guys think?

Thanks in advance

Hey,

Have you actually met her in person yet?

Either way, personally - I would go to the party. It shows you have confidence to go to an event where you don't know many people. I recently went to a wedding with no date and the only person I knew was the groom. I ended up meeting loads of people and having a great time (albeit a little drunk!) - She invited you, so she wants you to there. Go with an open mind, relax, have fun, but don't stick to her all night. And if its going badly, you can always leave..

Not yet

Anyone agree with Hobo?

Also, I thought about flirting with other girls during the party, so that she could become a bit jealous (since she is the one who invited me and I did nice dhv online)
Is that acceptable and do you think she could take it the wrong way ("oh he is just like other men, he just thinks with his dick")?

I wouldn't go to it if you want her a lot (at least not without testing her firsT). She just set up a hoop for you to jump like a good doggy, she's testing to see if she can walk over you...You suggested something, she nah that's boring, I got something funner we can do. You have to always be seen as the leader, if you go to this then she'll be the leader, she'll be the one bringing you into HER world (bad)... if you really want to go (which really you DO want to go because you can make her jealous once there), then set up a hoop for her first, hey "all right i'm down, but you have to help me first, I need some new attire for parties like this, more casual items, if you come help me pick out some new outfits at the mall i'll go with you deal?"

make her jump through your hoop first

These are both very good answers, thank you.

However I thought, maybe she is just shy and that could be why she invited me to somewhere with other people??? (sorry to ask so many questions )

This is gonna raise your game going to the party. If you go there, make her friends like you and her attraction for you is going to double!

guys, thanks again, you really helped on this one. I will keep you posted

go to the party man... its a possibility that shes a bit nervous to meet someone online one on one... who knows. either way, go and see what happens.. she invited you, don't worry about competition, work your game and let things work themselves out and see what happens.. you have nothing to lose

I wouldn`t go to the party. I have in the past been in the exact same situation as you are in...and when I chose to go to the party, it never ended well. Women invite dudes they just met to parties for one reason and one reason only...validation. Think about it. Whose gonna be at the party? Her friends and a bunch of guys who want to bang her...get it?

it's a social hoop like I said, don't be her bitch, make her your bitch first then you can go with her.