Guys,

HB9 I was gaming a few months ago after i met her. We got kind of serious over a few months. After a while I figured I didn't need to game anymore because we had known each other long enough and started being AFC. That was a BIG mistake. Anyway, she kind of faded me out as you would expect. She still wanted to "keep me in her life" but didn't want to be sexual anymore. Really shot myself in the foot.

Anyway, shortly after she gets a boyfriend. She was still trying to talk to me regularly. I was mostly just brushing her off, telling her I was busy, talking about other girls to her and stuff for a month or so. Basically went back to gaming. So a few weeks ago she calls me up and begs me to hang out. I decided to and she goes on and on about how she hates her new guy and she's breaking up with him and blah blah blah. I didn't react trying to move in on her or anything. Just played it cool.

She never broke up with him so I figured nothing would come of it no big deal. A week later she asks me to meet up again. We g oout have an awesome night and end up hooking up at the end of the night. We saw each other 5 or 6 more times after that and continued hooking up. This was all still while she had a boyfriend.

Anyway, I got stupid again one night and started saying AFC things. Bam, the next time we go out she sits me down and talks to me about not wanting to continue cheating on her BF blah blah blah. We had a long convo and the same things came up as the previous time and i didn't overreact, just kinda left it be. I'm gonna go back to what happened last time and kinda just leave her alone for a while. I'll give her a month or two then see if she wants to do something out of the blue.

I'm just looking for some solid routines to run in the next month or so to get to her subconsciously. Also need some advice on getting her to get rid of this other guy. Maybe some BF destroyers? Last thing I would need is for that night when we hang out how to get the ball back in my court. Basically, she says she wont cheat, I want to get her to.

ANy advice is greta, thanks fellas.

A couple of things : I don't think you went back to being AFC after a few months; I think you let yourself be yourself around her. And there is nothing wrong with that. And if that wasn't good enough for her, then that's her problem. Sure, you can keep using some PUA skills in a relationship, but IMO you shouldn't pretend to be someone you're not - that will never last.

I'm a bit confused - do you actually want a relationship with this girl or just want to sleep with her? Personally, I would have got rid of her a long time ago - all the to-ing and fro-ing would drive me nuts. Sounds like she just calls you up whenever she wants some attention and you give it to her. Don't worry about the other guy. Just be cool, be yourself, and again-if that isn't good enough for her then move on.

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Agreed, personality I would have stayed away from her. Game other girls and keep her as a friend, display DHV in front of her but don't expect anything.

Whatever you do you must convince YOURSELF that you do not need her. She seems like the type who uses people for their own insecurities.

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