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Just a quick update. Went to mate's house party. Trying to be social. Spoke to one girl. And a few mates. Then i go home cos i'm not feelin it and low on cash. Get a phone call to find out one of my mates fell off the balcony and is either dead or broken his neck! Wtf. If that isn't a sign to live for the moment then i don't know what is. Fucking hell?

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I can't fucking believe this! Just found out today the guy died from the fall.

Basically he was sitting on the balcony, which is three stories high.

He slipped, fell backwards and fell on his head. There was a pool of blood around him and he died with his eyes wide open. My mates were going absolutely AWOL. One started screaming, crying and being sick...

I feel pretty ill...

Carpe Diem.

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Damn, sorry to read about this man, my condolences. Take care, these are the toughest moments in life.

Goals for this week.

1. Open Bus stop girl and attempt to number close her.
[Hey come here a second. You look familiar. [pause] Chilli-white? I saw you at chilli white

2. Try to number close girl and the job centre.
[Yeah, how's my C.V looking? Really, when's your lunch break? I know this is bit random but fancy getting a cup of coffee sometime... Yeah Ok give me your number.

3. No porn.

4. Tomorrow, open 20 people either by cigarette opener or others I will write down.

Objectives I have acheived
-Quit smoking
-Done all my washing by myself
-Made all my evening meals myself.
-Done my own washing up.
-Created and made plans to help my no-job situation.
-Applied for volunteer work.
-Done gym every other day now 1 stone heavier wooh!

20 Openers

1. Excuse me do you have the time?
2. Mate do you have a spare cigarette?
3. Excuse me where is the nearest cash point?
4. Excuse me, where is the train station I'm not from around here.
5. Hey you guys been busy [shop]
6. You look bored, how's signing up customers going? [shop survey assistants]
7. I just thought I'd come and say hello because you look bored.
8. Excuse me where is the meat section.
7. Listening to anything good [girl on ipod].
8. That book looks interesting... please... it's not twilight
9. Where you running too... [Girl on treadmill at the gym.]
10.I've not seen you around are you new... [Gym]
11. Heeey Simran right? I added you on facebook? So I guess we finally meet I'm ______ [Girl at gym]
12. Just had to say I love ______ [item of clothing.]
13. Woah sorry to bother you but, just looking for a good children's toy store for my brother... Any ideas.
14. Now, this is terrible weather isn't it?
15. Hey has 22 bus been. Oh no I guess I'm gonna be late again.
16. Don't you hate buses... There always get here at the wrong moment.
17. Coffee or hot chocolate? I'm asking if you're a coffee or hot chocolate girl?
18. [Job centre] Hey does it bore you having to check the same things over and over again.
19. [job centre] I'm surprised you can keep smiling... You have a nice smile, but this job must be seriously tedious... Are you hoping to do something else.
20. [KFC] I'll have a number 20... Oi no cheating and looking up there, you should have that shit memorised by now... hey I remember you, you said you go ____ uni haha.

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Haha I really enjoy number 9 of your openers. Rather witty if you ask me.

I do worry about number 19 and 20. Try remember work topics are not a highly exciting thing to chit chat about and lastly try limit your choice french words. From experience opening with swearing is rarely a healthy choice. The number 20 joke is good though!

Also man you have my condolences. Times like these where pushing on is hard, good to see your still aiming to hit high again!

Dorky-

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Wow, these journals are getting pretty impressive. To all those knuckle heads who think going out to sarge with no f'ing idea and no f'ing plan = 'natural game', keep an eye out for tweeby's thread. Writing material implants these thoughts to memory. The process of writing material makes 'thinking this way' a habit. Improv comedians are funny on stage DUE TO PREPARATION, not because they jumped on stage hoping for the best.

The math: If you create/write material, you're bound to create a few zingers as well as a few bombs. This is why it's a good idea to write as much as you can. Hey, it's an extra few minutes.

Start creating tasks and plugging them into a calendar. Keep going . . . this is good.

So today, was just my regular walking through town doing cold approaches. Got two smokes and got opened by a girl at the mall. Managed to keep the conversation going for five minutes. Then i went to the art gallery with a sketch pad. That was pretty relaxing. Improvements need to try out the openers and approach girls i desire. Thanks for all the replies.

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Good idea Tweeby!
It's good to share your openers. I have some too written in my notepads but I've been using the same one for now. I'll post them too and force myself to use others!

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Great stuff Tweeby, I should create something like that soon as well.
I doubt if I would ever game girls that interview me at job centres though. I mean, you're there for a reason (you want a job) and that reason seems to be the most important thing to focus on when you are there. Just my thought, but I agree it can be very tempting to give it a go, when you are actually having a conversation with a HB, even in a situation like that. I can remember this one situation that a HB was interviewing me for a job and asked me about one of my hobbies that I mentioned on my CV. I started talking about it and she responded very well to it. An hour later we were still talking about that particular hobby and I was wondering why this was happening. At some point we cut the conversation and she ended the complete interview and I had a strange feeling, as we hardly talked about the job itself. A day later I received a phone call telling me that I got the job. I would have loved to thank that girl for hiring me after our great conversation. I actually felt I wanted to fuck her to thank her Anyway, of course I never got in contact with her again, but when reading this here, I felt like sharing this with you.

05 March

-Finally achieved something tangible. I've been accepted on the volunteer course to teach Adult literacy and numeracy. I used to do that last year when I was in a job. This is good. I have an activity to keep me busy and give me a sense of achievement.

-Went for an appointment with my shrink yesterday. Talked about the issues I have and my mate's situation. I'm not sure how much she can help me but discussing my issues helps. We talked about Buddhism and self therapy. That was good.

-Was supposed to go the Student Union by myself yesterday but it was too cold. Yes I am full of shit when it comes to excuses.

-I still have a crazy addiction to internet porn. I'm wondering how I am going to manage this? Maybe JUST stopping altogether isn't great. But I go without it for four days... But then just go crazy on the fifth. I was reading Illogic's journal and he has a few ideas that seem interesting.


Strategies
-Allocated myself an hour a day to use the internet and have a list of practical things I need to do.
-Block IP addresses of all known porn sites.
-Delete all downloaded porn.
-Only use my laptop downstairs where the rest of my family are.


Everyday, when I'm not penciled in for sarging, I think of openers I could have used. Like the Bolognese thread...

Went to Nando's and there were two girls sat next to me talking about guys. Could have opened...'Oh not, not guy troubles again!? haha. Well me and my friend have a mega girl troubles!!'

Saw a girl sat on a bench in the park deep in thought? -> 'Hey a penny for your thoughts?'

Saw a girl walking a puppy which ran straight up to me -> 'Nice dog, what breed is it?'


Today
-Today I want to finish my mate's website and business card.
-I also want to start my online portfolio of work, I'm interested in I.T and webdesign so putting it online is a great way to show off my talent. I want to redesign my private tuition card. I don't thing it is great marketing and could be better.

When I go to town to do my approaching ask 20 strangers for a smoke, I will try to hold eye contact and start a conversation. 'Will say it is a nice day and ask what they are in town for.' If I open a girl I will compliment her on an item of clothing.

Also plan to go to a park and chill out there... Read the power of Now.

Things I'm not happy with.


I've not opened the girl at the bus-stop or in the job centre. And I made an excuse for not going to the student union. My motto is carpe-diem. I'm dreaming of the perfect openers and this is affecting my game. Last year I opened and it didn't work out. But I don't regret not doing it because if I didn't open I would have never learned what I know now.

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Hey Tweebs good to see some more coming out.

But remember, as you said. You can think of the best openers/mid convo topics/perfect closers. But until you use them it's useless, remember to test them all. Take notes see what works, post your results in your Journal if you want to. Just make sure you use them, again you can have all the ingredients in the world but unless you make the pie you never get to eat it.

Plus who doesn't want some home made pie

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Tweeb, I just want to suggest something if you are still having approach anxiety.

Go into sets and try to get rejected for just being the natural you.

I really like that you have a lot of openers you can use in situations or opinion openers, but i think one can tend to over think on what to say going back and forth on it when seeing a girl.

Good overall day. Went to a park to chill out. Then salsa in the evenings. Will try to make this more of a habit. Good opportunity to man handle girls. Then we finished in an american style diner. My mate knows some international chicks, the indian one was really cute but too firey for me. Had a good convo, few negs and i did a cold read on all the girls, they loved it. Also i might have some wing girls for my birthday next week! Haha. Nice

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If your goal is to OPEN, then open for the sake of opening and forget all the other aspects of game. Just open and begin a conversation. Go achieve your target numbers and that's that. I'd say that it's less about 'figuring out the perfect opener" and more to do with 'thinking about the unknown' that comes after opening. This too will eventually come to you but for now, get opening . . .

Judging by your previous thoughts on openers you 'could have used', you have an ability for this . . . accept it and go with it.