It really bothers me, I mean who do they think they are??? They are so special they can't even be bothered to call or text as basic curtesy for someone elses time and consideration wtf....Yes I'm venting because I just got flaked on..... They should be appreciative that a cool guy even wanted to spend time with them. Instead I get the yeah call me tomorrow to confirm and what do I get - of course straight to voicemail with no text or return call.....and no I am not some sort of weird creeper and I didn't say anything stupid or blow up her phone.

I know I know, plenty of fish in the sea on to the next one and all that, but it still stings when it happens and my wound is fresh. How do you guys deal with this? Am I the only one this drives crazy!!!!

Your not alone, I'm being flaked or lead on as we speak. It pisses me off for about a day then I just get over by the next. It'd be nice to have several options going so you truly just don't care instead of trying one girl at a time. Oh well. Just keep your head up.

Didn't have many occasions like that but I got flaked on once about 3-4 months ago. But it didn't bother me much. I was newbie at whole PU stuff back then and also was bit drunk (was celebrating my new job contract) so I knew I messed up. But I saw this girl like last month on some private home party. At first I felt embarrassed and was bit quiet but then it turned out we got some thing in common. I didn't try even to arrange Day 2 but only focused on rebuilding my image and I think I did fine and next time she won't see me as this pushy needy guy who was drunk once and hit on her. Also I didn't confront her about not texting me back (quite frankly, I deleted her number ). Why would I care?

IMO, girl flakes on You when You didn't get her attracted to You in a first place. It means You messed up something EARLIER. And You shouldn't care about her at this point. Think about it, high value guy doesn't have time to get pissed at some flake since he has many options already (and if You don't, fake it 'till you make it).

Or maybe think about it this way. They're missing out on meeting great person, not You .

Cheers,
Mav-

I hear you but I don't necessarily assume it was anything I did. When you shift your schedule around to hang out with someone because they said you should hang out I don't think it is too much to ask to aknowledge someone as a human being. I have a lot of job and personal responsibilities I could have been doing. IMO a lot of hot chicks are too self absorbed in themselves or the games they play to get this and it frustrates me. This is why I never chase women. One flake and your number gets deleted.

I totally agree and I'm with you on that, however do take into account the rare legit circumstances like if she lost her phone or a family emergency ect. Obviously she'd tell you asap if she cared.

Still, If you wouldn't care there would be no such topic in a first place.

Good that You delete their number straightaway. That'll teach them to respect You and Your time. If she won't try to hook up another time then You know she doesn't really care but if she does then no worries, she'll call back. That is if You built enough attraction before.
Perhaps don't think of them as HOT chick. Think about it that You're hotter than she is and she should be the one trying or missing out. That's the vibe You need to put out there IMO.

I'm by no means expert (Yet! I hope) but that's how I understand being the high value guy.

Mav-

And if your not hotter than she is, do what I do, go to the gym and workout 5 times a week. I get a natural high and you feel better about yourself + you look better over a few months time and eventually you really will be hotter than she is. Make changes in your life to be truly better. It takes a while and its hard not to dwell until then. I'm in the same boat but I find I get over it and move on usually the next day or 2 depending on how into the girl I was when it use to take days to a week when I was a much younger AFC.

Let it all out.
For one don't let it effect you for one. Allowing it to effect you will only make things worse. Besides that work on raising the girls interest in you. As the number one reason why a girl will flake is she isn't that interest in you. Say all you want about you doing nothing, but if her interest is not high enough she will flake.

For me, it seems like the past 5 girls I gamed in a row were interested at some point and then suddenly flaked so I assume they lost interest. Yeah it leaves me feeling like there's something inherently wrong with me I don't know about. So I just self-evaluate myself and ask questions to myself like am I good looking? I think I am pretty decent, I'm not a 10 but I'm not a 6 either, girls have come right up to me before ect. what can I do to improve that even more? (go to the gym). Now since looks apparently don't matter as much to women (a lot are turned off by really fat dudes though) what else could be wrong? (money/status) how can I improve that? For me I am finishing college so that will take time to get a high paying job. Unless I win the lottery I can't fix that aspect right away (legally).

Ok so that leaves the other stuff like your personality. I am on the quiet more reserved side but I'm much more outgoing than I use to be as an AFC nice guy teenager 4 or 5 years ago.

But I can always improve, that's where game comes in.

What sucks is the lack of results when you think you did everything right at least for me it is.

So I have just concluded that there could be many reasons why they loose interest many of which is probably beyond your control. She could like someone else, she may not like your hair color, you may not fit her "perfect image" (no guys will). You name it. So with that said, why force something that just isn't meant to be. It's her loss, if you answer positively to a lot of your own questions and think your a great guy, that's all that matters. She missed out.


Now for me, what hurts aside from all that is.

1. I was really into her
2. What if it was something small I said or did that made the difference (I fucked up)
Again that goes to something you can't control since it's the past.

I personally try to be as much as "myself" personality wise that I can while fusing aspects of the game into that. Being the best that I can be and as non AFC as I can while still being me. I don't want to come off fake. Ex. I can nor ever will be able to emulate mystery nor do I want to. I'm not that kind of personality. I probably am closer to Matador If I were to pick a MPUA ideal. However you have to be your own person.

If you game too hard, try to hard, picking up too hard, then your not really being yourself and enjoying the moment I think you come off as too artificial and fake.
I think girls can pick up on that and sense a fake player personality and that could be why too.

The pain eventually goes away the next day, and the sun continues to rise and more opportunities come along eventually although it make take a few days/weeks. I figure if you keep working at it, eventually it'll all work out.

I'm just speculating/rambling but that's what I've thought of my recent flake situations the last few months.

Just my 2 cents.

S