Hi.

First post here from a novice. There's this girl who has shown obvious interest in me. We have a lot of good natured banter going on. She's loads of fun. She started this whole thing about being in the market for a boy toy, etc, but then she comes out with this shit about how it's going to be a challenge, that I'll need to chase her, etc.

How should I deal with this beyond saying something along the lines of boy toys aren't in the business of chasing. etc?

Thanks,

sia

interesting situation. Sometimes if you don't chase girls who want to be chased they give up and move on. In that case, I think it is in your best interest play their game and chase them (just a little) but don't chase too much. Eventually just stop and let them chase you ect. Push and pull basically.

Be fun and playful about it since that is what keeps the girl interested.

I know a lot of PUA says you want her to chase you but I think for the girls who want to be chased, if you do it 50 50 it works out. Just don't jump through too many of her hoops, toss some hoops out there for her to jump through at the same time.

Am I wrong?

or u could have said right from the first second:

"hey buy me a drink first, before u hit on me like that"


if u gonna chase her, u will loose her respect. u will be more attractive if u dont.

just DHV, neg/tease her. Then, when ur value is higher then hers, hit on an other girl (she should see u doing this). U don't have to make out with the other girl, just give other girls ur attention.

She will start trying to get your attention just like any other confident hot girl who is being ignored. Then make her qualify to you. Only give ur IOI on something that u find actually cool or sweet.


See this as a shit test IMO. Are u gonna be her bitch, or are u gonna show her who's boss?

Don't fall for this bullshit that women should be all over you and that they should chase you, it's never going to happen, at least not at first. Guys always need to do the chasing at the start. Obviously you don't want to be needy, so if she starts trying to get you to jump through hoops, buy her drinks/dinners etc. don't do that. You don't want to be her dancing monkey or pay for all of her shit. Don't allow her to control you. But still be persistant, still keep talking to her and escalating.

I struggle with this concept all of the time. I think it was mystery that said in order to get a girl you have to be willing to lose the girl. To be honest it works out a lot of times that I don't chase the girl and I don't get her, but at least I salvage my self respect. Maybe I am wrong though? Maybe girls like guys who chase them full out and wear them down! Anyone try the approach where they just plow? I think some girls are weak and eventually will just give in but I haven't tried it myself.

You have to chase, guys always have to chase at first. Always. We're the ones that have to lead and escalate towards sex, so it makes sense that we chase right?

What makes me laugh is that guys are more interested in looking cool and showing non-neediness by not chasing, they laugh at guys who chase, call them AFCs... Yet the guys that chase are getting laid more than they are.

I'm sure you've heard plenty of guys say "I've been talking to this girl, she has a boyfriend, he's such a needy-AFC lol...". Sure they're laughing at the guy, but whose cock is she sucking at the end of the night? The "needy AFC" chasing guy.

A lot of my approaches I plow until I get a definate no.