Hey guys,

I have been an AFC all my life with 0 action, and at age of low 20's decided its time. Here is my first report and could use help.

So I met this girl and followed what I had read exactly. I even used the cube game on her (which is AMAZING!).

This girl seemed really into me. She said she wanted to hangout and at the bar was all over me. I was doing a lot of kino and she was reciprocating.

Our second meeting, we were at a club (again all over me) and it was easy isolating cause she only knew me. After more talking on the comfort level I think, I tried K-close (first attempt in my life).

She backed away and said she is in a nonexclusive relationship and seeing someone else on the side and would feel weird kissing many people. Being an AFC, I sort of reacted with a cold shoulder and took her back to the concert (was secluded in a table).

Eventually, we went home and I just dropped her off at her home and kept the cold shoulder. She texts me the next morning that we should hang out again (said she wanted to kiss me) and thats she is still figuring who she likes. I basically said that I have no interest in hanging with a girl who doesn't know what she wants (in a nicer way) because I am still learning the ropes and didn't know what else to say. She replied with that she understand and is really sorry how it is ending.

I am wondering if there is a reset button and what should I do if anything at this point? Overall I am pretty proud of myself though.

My only advice is to study up on shit tests and ASD. She admitted to being nonexclusive so she had no reasonable objection. It is manditory that a women put up some token defense so that you will respect them. You could have just said "shut the hell up and kiss me" with a smile on your face and it would have been good. She called because she really did want to kiss you and was shocked that you fell for her token resistance. Next time go for it bro.

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But, kick ass job!!! Isn't sarging a hoot!

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Im with jits on this should have just plowed through it. that was the definition of ASD. my recommendation drive on to the next girl keep your head up and know your doing everything right.

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I am definitely gonna go for the next girl, but I feel like I can keep my options open with this girl also if I play my cards right. No? Not desperate or anything but felt like I spent a ton of energy and got really close to not just keep plowing on this one while keeping my options open.

plus its only been 24 hours.

Call her up and say "I'm gonna pick you up on friday, wear something cute."

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^ Thanks for the advice.

Did that. She said she is busy with school a little bit and is not sure if she will have time to go out. I am pretty sure at this point just gotta move on? right?

Honestly, learned so much from this experience...going out again tonight to improve my game.

yes, just keep trucking. If she was genuinely busy and not just IOD then she will get in touch with you. Then rinse and repeat.

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Hey,

So not to bring this topic back from the dead, but she started to chat with me online the other day about how disrespectful the other guy was and how she is a fool. I really didn't think anything of it, especially because we are on spring break this week.

Does this mean when we get back, I should pounce on the chance, or just leave it alone from my end? And if so whats the best strategy?

Thanks again for all your help guys. I am taking notes on my mistakes so I don't do the same thing twice.

Just play it as "well you had a shot with me but you blew me off. "
Just push hard and pull a little then just push/pull like normal.

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Well she's in a open relationship, and still interested in you, so that means that she seriously considers having sex with you. So far so good.

She didn't want to kiss you, but IMHO pretty well and openly explained the reason for it. I'd say be Alpha, don't make it an huge issue like an AFC, accept her reasoning (as it's pretty reasonable to me) and try again the next time (without enforcing anything).
WHEN she's ready she'll go for it too, if that takes too long she indeed doesn't know what she wants, but I doubt that will happen if you play it cool and don't get too excited if a certain evening ends in a k-close, f-close or not.

Thanks for the advice Jits138 and Rethnu. I will try that, and keep you updated.

Hey guys,

So lets say we have a meetup scheduled about 5 days from now (shopping), but I am trying to figure out if there is something I should continue to do in the meantime to make her/keep her excited about it? I want to seem like i have shit to do (which I actually do...haha), but at the same time want to make sure that helping me pick out clothes (i find girls love doing that), isn't a chore for her?

Any advice?

dont talk to her at all until the day that you have a date. for real

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