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ok so i have no problem k closing escalating etc but once ive isolated and made out with her i suddenly become a mute.
at the moment for me its very difficult for me to get a snl so i tend to just make out and then arrnage for a day 2 some other time.
anyway any tips on the sort of small talk i should make after the k close.should i continue with attraction ? comfort ? escalate more ?
any advice is appreciated
I don't quite get it why you have this problem. Answering that question should lead you to the solution. I believe you have some problems prior to post make out small talk or beliefs or something.
A kiss is not a big deal. It is just a natural thing when things are flowing and when you're escalating properly. Always do some push/pull before the kiss, don't just go forward. After you kiss her just lay back, sit down with her, or go talk to some friends. Keep your first kiss light, stop it first, say That's all you get for now. As for the small talk, you can always do small talk, I don't know why that should be a problem (I hope you're more that a social robot full of routines). You can also ask her When was she first attracted to you (credit to Style). You can do whatever you want (you don't need more attraction, you already have her). Once you make out, you don't have to arrange the day2 right away (she already invested), just get her number, text her that night or tomorrow (don't wait 3 days pretending to be too cool to call her).
Just be in the moment and enjoy yourself. As for SNL, it's a whole different game, I don't think you're quite there yet, but you can always try. There are some great articles about SNLs here somewhere.
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