Setting: Mall
Approach: Direct


I kino her arm during the whole convo.
ss: Hey, you are pretty, I want to get to know you. (I notice she is wears contacts). I like your eyes, are you wearing contacts?
hb7: Yes (smiles). Nobody has approached me like this before.
Her phone rings and she talks to her friend in Cantonese, she says to her friend that a guy doesn't let her go. (LOL)
ss: Hey, I undertand what you've just said to your friend.
hb7: (Laughs) Oh, I'm sorry.
ss: (Laughs) It's OK, you don't need to apologize.
hb7: Are you CBC?
ss: No
hb7: Are you Vietnamese?
ss: No.
My wingman is next to me all the time. He wanted to hear what I say, so I told him to come stand next to me to hear what I say.
ss: (I point to my wingman ). This is my friend, he is waiting for me. I want to get to know you, we can have a coffee, and watch a movie together. Are you interested?
hb7: OK
Pull my cell and # close her.
hb7: Text me
ss: OK


5 minutes later she texts me. I reply to her text every 45 minutes.
hb7: Sorry about that. (About talking in Cantonese to her friend about me not letting her go)
ss: It's ok. Are you going to the mall tomorrow? I'm going to be there.
hb7: No
ss: No problem. Are you free to have a coffee with me? I want to see your colourful eyeballs again.
hb7: lol, I'm at home
ss: Not now, tomorrow.
hb7: I'm doing something tomorrow. I'm going back to China on Tuesday.
ss: (I pull the trigger) Do you wanna have fun before you go back to China.
hb7: I never had and I don't like ONS.
ss: I can make it special for you.
.....No reply....

I like to get some comments or replies about why she refused my offer to have a ONS. I pulled the trigger is because she says she is going back to China.

It was a shit test. You were supposed to basically let her know that it was going to be special, without actually admitting to the fact that your intention was a ONS.


ex. 1

"I don't do ONS"
"[insert some funny 3 words ONS could stand for and ask why she doesn't do it]"

ex. 2

"I respect that. I can't imagine sleeping with someone I didn't have a real connection with."


The first example is a cocky/funny reply where you either manage to appear innocent and ignorant, or you pretend to be and usually girls will keep playing along. If you keep playing this well, then you create lots of sexual tension quickly which works good for quick escalation to closing.

The second example suggests information to anyone within earshot, without actually having to state it to them. The info sub-communicates to a girl is:

- you will respect her boundaries if she makes them clear to you
- you don't sleep with just anyone, only people you have connection with (which increases her feeling of connection to you if it already exists or if it grows later)
- you have high standards (don't sleep with just anyone)
- you intend to build a solid connection with her
- if you don't hit it off, then you don't intend to try to get into her pants, only if its a mutual connection

There's a lot of other things that can be inferred as well, but you get the point. Telling someone that you'll make them feel special doesn't usually work, you have to plant the idea in their head and lead them to it, so that it feels as if they came up with the idea themselves.

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