Last saturday I met a great 9. (23 years old. I am 27). Actualy, she opened me while I was standing in the bar, waitng for my drinks. She challenged me to drink Tequila with her. I told her that i didnt drink that stuff, and turned by back to her and started talking to my friend. She obviously didnt like that, so she came back to me a few minutes later :p The rest of the night in that bar was a easy push-pull game. After the the bar closed, we went to her friens place, and then she asked me to go with her to another after party, wich I did.

(I have to mention that she has a kid who is 3 years old, but that doesnt frighten me.)

I got her number, and we shared a few small kisses throught the night.
We didnt share the night, but on my way homa, she wrote that it was realy nice meeting me, and that we had to do it again, if I wasnt still afraid of her (I used the push pull game: "youre too **** Im afraid of you", and turn away from them)
I answered her: "Of course. Maybe next weekend, if Im not busy.

The day after, she was commenting on my Facebook page.

We have been txting every day, and I have been making fun of her and calling her names I made for her. But I think she is testing me out. She is taking a loong time answering my txts some times.

She has her kid, so there is no chance too meet her this weekend

Im not exsperienced in this sms-game, and now Im afraid that the time before I meet her again will kill my chances, and get me in the friend zone :s

What do I do to keep it interesting, and is there any thing I can do when she takes a long time to answer my txtes? And is there any lines to ask her out, or get her too ask me out without being needy?

What's the problem with calling?

Try just calling and not leaving a message. Don't text any more but leave the "missed calls" sitting on her screen. Eventually she will return one of them, or pick up.

if she is taking a long time to answer your texts, then you need to take longer...

remember your qualifying her not the other way around.

Text Game is fun you just have to leave her on the edge and it sounds like she has you SPAM. I don't know any of the texts you have been sharing so there are a lot of variables but keep everyone posted and I'm sure you"ll get what your looking for...

Don't be afraid to call either

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Trick Artist is right, u need to flip the script..

For example, if she texts something that could be misinterprated (sarcastisc joke perhaps), take your time with texting back. Let her check her msg to see if she sent something weird.

Usually i never text back within the hour (some exceptions ofc) mid-day. After 8 pm, i try to up the tempo, so she goes to sleep dreaming of me. (in weekends, try avoiding texting, because if she's out, then she won't text back any time soon. Usually.. And since YOU want to be the one that is controlling the tempo.. )


You can neg her about some joke she makes as well. If she tries to explain her joke for example, take your time. Make her wait and get nervous for loosing you, because she texted a stupid joke (ofcourse we aren't that stuck up, to ditch someone for 1 bad joke, but don't let her know that ).

Try avoiding texting twice in a row within 48 hours. It may come off as needy, which is the last thing you want to display yourself ofc..


Conker, if she doesn't reply to a missed phone-call, and he calls again, he might loose value in her mind. That's why texting is such a powerful tool in the beginning of any relationship. If played right, she will ALWAYS pick up her phone when you call. (But don't call during 9am-6pm )


CAMo, what I would do:

Send a text somewhere before 7 pm, the earlier the better maybe in your case. Get a text conversation flowing, do not reply within an hour, maybe 2.

After 7pm, try to build up the tempo slightly. Build the conversation to a high-point. Then call.

I don't know the girl. You can just ask her to grab a drink to "enter inside joke between you 2" on a high-point in the phone-call,

or the indirect way of asking out like:
"im going to buy some sneakers saturday, and since i need a female opinion anyway, u should come. Unless u have bad taste..do u have bad taste?" - "response" - "OK, u know (coffeeshop)? Meet me there at 3pm."


It depends on her character which way u should go...

Oh, and don't hang up right after she agrees to go out. Chat for another 5minutes, then hang up. Don't let the 'asking-out' be framed as a big deal, or high-point of the phone-call. It's more a logical thing, because you 2 get along so well.


For text-game, check the topic "How to ask her out by text message?"
Maybe some usefull stuff there

I wrote some more messages with her last night. Some internal humour, and:

ME: Are you going to try to be tough and get me drunk next weekend too?
HB9: Of course I am ;p"

After a few more msg, i was afraid it was going to drag out to a long boring txt conversation, and I was tired and wanted to go to bed :p so I wrote her a short txt:

ME: Just remember to let me keep my drinks IN my glass next weekend :p
(She accidentally pushed over two of my shoots last weekend).
HB9: I'll try to remember that ;p".

That was 12:30pm last night, and I haven't wrote her back yet. I just have too wait and see what she does. If I don't get anything in a couple of days, I was thinking about writing something like this to her:
"You are a bad girl friend. Im removing you from my top 10 girls-list".

when she admits she wants to get you drunk, how can u let it get boring

its a cue for the 'if u think u gonna get in my pants that easy' lines, and start off to turn the texts into a sexual frame..

At least, that's what i would do.

I also text, if its late and i wanna go to sleep something like:

"Anyway, i'm gonna go to bed now. I know u would love to join me, but i need trust, comfort and connection before we go there"

Damn! You're right

I should have picked that up easily. I'm home sick with a fever, so I dont think my brain is fully functional

Well well, motvind to do with that now. I just have to se what tallenes next.

I'll keep you poster on what happends.

A little update:
I still haven't txted her any more. So, she started commenting on my facebookpictures an writing me some comments. Calling me names etc. and now. 3 days after her last txt, her name showed up on my prechious iPhone again :p

I was almost starting to forgeth about her. Have been too busy doing other things.
But looks like we're game one again. The weekend is getting closer

Sounds like u can go for a meet up with her. Gl!