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Basically, you need to be more authentic with her and expect the same from her. Show deeper aspects of yourself and explore if you are really compatible. Dig deep and show her she can feel safe revealing her true self.
No need to neg her 10 times a day, or run routines. Spend time with her doing stuff you really do. You got to go grocery shopping? Take her with you. Slowly start integrating couple like behavior. Hangout with her without the club clothes. See her on the weekends not just during the week.
But never ever get lazy. Anything you did to get her, keep doing it.
This is all good stuff.
In general, the guy she fell for had a bunch of qualities relating to dominance, confidence, humour, sociability, and so forth. The problem with some guys learning "the Game" is that they do routines or tricks that fool the girl into thinking they have these qualities, when actually they don't. As soon as you spend a bit of time with her, she realises you're actually a value-sucking, unconfident, reactive little pussy, and she'll of course leave you in a second. General advice about keeping that dominant alpha frame
1. Fuck her good! She will forgive ALL KINDS of bullshit from you if she's cumming consistently every time she sees you. How do you think those absolute assholes who treat her like shit, disrespect her, don't value or appreciate her, and generally act like retards keep her around so long?
2. DO NO COMPROMISE ABOUT ANYTHING YOU ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT. As soon as you back down and go to the Opera with her even though you hate it, because she whines at you about you guys not spending enough time together, you're FUCKED. People (not just women) will always be testing others' boundaries too see what they can get away with. Women will start a little fight just for the sake of drama. If she gets her way, it becomes a vicious cycle. She'll pick some other fight, and keep going. The longer you say "sorry honey" and relent, the more she will keep pushing you and pushing you, whilst at the same time losing even more and more attraction for you, which will make her angry and you and herself, which will make her pick more fights, etc.
This is YOUR life, she should be goddam motherfucking happy to be even a tiny part of it. She does what YOU SAY, WHEN you say it. No questions asked. You have your own goals and dreams and desires. If you pursue them with passion and ambition, a good woman will nurture them and be there to help and support you. She can have hers too, which you should be appreciative of. But if the two conflict, there is no modifying yourself to suit her. EVER. You only change because YOU WANT to change. Not because she tells you to.
3. Don't spend too much time together. Even if you really really want to, it's important to keep things relatively non-commited at first - maybe once or twice a week MAX. Having a great time, and then not hearing anything from you for a week, really keeps her guessing and thinking and wondering about you. It shows a total lack of neediness as well.
4. Use the 2/3rds rule for calling / texting - Send no more than 2 texts for every 3 she sends you. Again, that's a metaphor for your whole interaction - always make sure she's investing more.
5. Have other shit going on in your life. Whether it's seeing other girls, seeing your friends, starting a business, working extra hard, whatever. Don't always be too available, and always have some fun stories to tell her about what's going on with you when you see her - make her want to be even MORE a part of it.
6. Have FUN. Do stuff because it's fun and exciting and different. Give both her and yourself a memorable experience. That doesn't mean candles and roses and a lavish meal every night, but it can be sneaking into the park at night with a blanket and some wine for a sneaky outdoor sex session, or telling her to pack a bag and randomly take a train out the countryside for a short weekend, out of the blue.
The very first MOMENT things stop being fun - she doesn't enjoy coming to watch your band, or says your friends are dicks, or that club your friend promotes for is too noisy, ask IS THIS WORTH IT? Maybe there is a girl walking along the street today who will absolutely love all your hobbies and interests, won't complain, and is even smarter, hotter and younger?
7. Be willing to walk away at ANY TIME for ANY reason. Sometimes just leaving will get her to stop fucking you around AND be a tool for winning her back and making her more attracted to you.
8. Have other girls. You don't have to agree with me or follow this one if you really truly believe in monogamy (i.e. not just because society says it's the way things should be). I mean, you're a pussy if you don't but whatever!
The thing about making it clear to her that you're not exclusive - that's right, don't LIE or CHEAT - TELL HER that it's open / non-exclusive / polyamorous, etc. as soon as possible (within the first few times of having sex when you start to begin the 'relationship'), is that it frames the whole thing in such a great way.
You are two people just having fun. There is still emotional attachment, but you pledge nothing and expect nothing from each other, apart from showing up on time, being good to each other, and not talking about the specifics of the other people you're seeing. It means it's pointless for her to pick fights, withhold sex as a weapon, and makes you both put the effort in to be on top form for each other.
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