I found out why this works in DD double your dating. The best way to always let them have the last word is by dismissing the communication first. They will usually say something after being dismissed and then you simply say nothing. According to DD the important part is that you did the dismissing.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

Anyway, AFCJimmyDoyle isn't ragging on you, you need to stop being so defensive; especially about something that's not even personal to you. I typically agree with most of what D'Angelo says, but I'll warn you that "dismissing" a girl is a good way to show disinterest. Personally, I'd rather err on the side of too much interest because at least then I feel like I made intentions clear; no regrets.

At my advanced age, you get further with girls by investing in them. Time, food, and interest. Being traditional works on most women, being cheap, tricky, and coy works on far fewer.

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31 and still figuring it out.

advanced age? serious?. Anyway, yea I got pretty pissy back then but I was just going through some bullshit. I know you can relate. I feel you on being overly dismissive. Last night I blew out 3 perfectly good sets with over the top rock outs. Me and my boys are still laughing about the blow outs. I appreciate the feedback.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

OK then I suppose it is slightly different and more specific if your are trying to better develop you social awarness as appose to just self-awareness. My point about you arguing or being 'defensive' and judgemental on other people's replies to your topic still stands true. It goes against your experiment totally.

You are trying to develope your emotional intelligence by carrying out specific tests outside of this forum, in order for it to become behavioural, however you are not applying it well on the forums Surely it would be a good idea to carry your tests through onto the forum if you plan on changing yourself?!

Yet so far you have managed to pick up on the smallest things someone has said and took it as a direct attack, turning on them. Going against your social awareness experiment.

How is it going anyway?

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"I guess a little small talks in order here now."

"Do I look like a gentleman to you in this shirt and these pants?"

"I know you from some place."

I don't quite grasp the difference between self awareness and social self(lol?) awareness.I mean,both implies that you're conscious of your ego behavior.Your level of awareness can be better noticed in social circumstances,mostly in a relationship. Look...If I care who ends the conversation first,in 90% of the cases,I am emotionally vulnerable.I am NOT AWARE.
"Fuck my value dropped,she said the last word."
"I wanna keep my value,so I won't reply in spite the fact I have something quite smart to say.She may not answer..."
At least do the contrary-it's better.Make sure you always give the last answer,this will teach you to keep a interaction going.What you do now is protect the ego.

How can awareness can be improved ?

The term in itself says it all,mostly through noticing your behavior patterns.See,most of our behavior is automatic.The idea is to notice when you do certain things and ask yourself if that's what you really want to do/want to feel/what other options are there? The moment you start leaving the stupid routine behavior,your life also may be more fresh and you start to be socially dynamic(understand the range of options you have and do spontaneous stuff).It's like the moment you notice a sport isn't all linear.When you play tennis,instead of just hitting the ball,you think : what if I would hit the ball specifically so the opponent can't catch it.People who go to gym to improve their body should not rely on that.OK everybody likes to look hot,but don't expect you can just be unaware and your strong body will just solve things.People who have a hobby and master it usually are very aware while they are doing it.A good chess player will be very adaptable,a martial artist will be adaptable according to his opponent.That requires of course training-I suggest you should be aware of every interaction you have,even with your parents.I believe it requires quite a lot of will if you gonna stay aware throughout the day.It's a present moment and constant decision.But if you don't do it,if you don't train enough,you will never be as dynamic as you want.
Look at this guy,he may seem like a guy fooling around but he's much more than that
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EWBvdZa_Nno

It's going really well. When I first posted this I was going through some shit as I mentioned. I was in a rather defensive point in my life where there was a lot of attacks coming in form relationships and business dealings. I was definitely hyper-sensitive. The storm has passed now and I believe I am left a better man. On the self awareness side of things everything has gotten much better. I got some excellent tools out of some material I am reading that have helped a lot. ADD makes self awareness hard lol.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

I completely agree with everything you said in the bottom half. It is exactly what I was trying to do with all of the self awareness games I played. I ended up at a meditation retreat with a good guy and he showed me some simple things I could do to improve my self awareness.
If you wanna know why I ended up realizing a need for these drills here is some background. I have ADD BAAAAAAD! I am an extremely hyper active mother fucker. It serves me well a lot of the time but shits all over self awareness. I also spent my life between 14-22 in a punk rock band touring around and pretty much destroying myself. I really didn't give a fuck about anything... especially myself. This obviously breeds a vast array of completely socially unaware behavior patterns.
It's taken me the last 6 years to finally repair the damage that I did in my misspent youth. If someone had told me 2 years ago that I would find the path to the answers I was looking for in the mixed up world of PUA I would have laughed my ass off. In reality misok and doyle calling me out on my ego helped me immensely.

@Doyle: Thanks bro and my tone has changed drastically on this forum since this thread.
@Minsok: 28 ain't old, friend. We are just getting started.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.