Hey,

Anyone got any advice or been through anything similar?

I really think i have a problem, i'm 23 and i've never been with a girl. That being said i have had opportunities, but i think i'm my own worst enemy. In the past when girls liked me i deliberately made them dislike me, i've never liked getting too close to people and now i feel like i can't be bothered when it comes to women, i don't have the energy to deal with them. But i really do like women and i really am only looking for one girl, not 10 or 100 or even a thousand. i feel like i shouldn't waste my time on every girl i see when i'm just looking for one. i'm so messed up. i want to try playing the game but half the time i turn on myself before even playing the game or i feel nothing (no attraction- at all) like 70% of the time. The one and only time i went out for a drink with a girl she mentioned something that reminded me how fragile women were and it sickened me (the 5% of attraction i felt hit zero). I really don't know what's wrong with me, i think i suffer from an offshoot of depression where i lack any emotions towards people.

I think part of the problem may be how i percieve relationships, i find it difficult to understand how someone can genuinely feel love or some form of affection for someone that they haven't known for more than a year or two and i want a relationship with a girl but i don't want the emptyness that builds upto the affection because that's all i ever feel- well that and nothing.

Sorry if i'm talking pure ******** but i don't know what's going on with me, i really, really want to change.

thx for reading and i appreciate any advice

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I feel ya man. It sounds like a personality disorder to me.

Schizoid Personality Disorder: characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary lifestyle, secretiveness, and emotional coldness

If you want to find a needle in a hay, you'll have to search a lot a lot of hay, what I mean to say you have one-its and I don't have any problem with that (once you get married this is considered healthy 'by society':roll:) but in order to find 'the one' you first have to liberate yourself of the tought that there is only one girl for you, because (it may really be), but there isn't just one girl like that there are plenty of them.
You can find one unique person on this planet and if you knock on many doors I bet that you'll find someone who is the same or even better (that refers to her looks, personality traits, behaviour... because that is the thing you're attracted to.)

Anyway I was at your position too, my best advice to you is to go out and start to interacte with people, it doesn't have to be a pick-up, just genreal talk (try newbie mission) to get a boost at your social skills
if you think you're not ready for that try to look up for some RSD videos (inner game stuff ), but eventually you'll have to start talk to people.

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what you are describing is narcissism and you are n...(in the middle of this a girl hit me up and i went to get laid) ot a narcissist. the vast majority of narcissist dont recognize these issues, and are social people. you simply have a connection issue. one of my personal pass times is masturbation. i love doing it and i have never told anyone to not do so, until now. stop playing with your dingy guy. this should help give you motivation to get a connection. and you only wanting one girl is crap man. what happens when she leaves you for the pool boy or your best friend? dont over commit to one girl until she has given you the same commitment. go through 10 girls and then see if you have the same mind set. go have more fun and hang out with people. pick up a new hobby. drink more booze. find something new man. i know your not going to do any of this but you know you need to change and all that is on you. in the end you do what you do.

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and i dont think you have schiziod my step sister has it and she doesnt talk to anyone EVER. not her mom not her dad NOONE EVER.

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Theres different types of Schizoids.

One of which is "The Secret Schizoid"

Secret schizoids present themselves as socially available, interested, engaged, and involved in interacting in the eyes of the observer, while at the same time, he or she is apart, emotionally withdrawn, and sequestered in a safe place in his or her own internal world. So, while withdrawnness or detachment from the outer world is a characteristic feature of schizoid pathology, it is sometimes overt and sometimes covert.

Secret Schizoid individual is able to express quite a lot of feeling and to make what appear to be impressive social contacts but in reality giving nothing and losing nothing, because since he is only playing a part his own personality is not involved.

The one thing that popped into my mind while i was reading this:

I am one those guys like yourself who is always looking for that one girl... the girl that you always think of when you think of what a relationship is, the girl you always think of when you think of the qualities you admire in women. So your constantly comparing everyone to that (technically) non-existant girl. But here is the one thing that puts all that in the back of my head: How do you know if she isn't that girl...

You gotta talk to them and give them the chance, and who even knows you maybe the luckiest bastard in the world and find her . But you wont know unless you socialize with them.

as far as your problem with being seldomly attracted to girls goes i cannot help you. I am sorry for that.

Thx everyone,

I think you guys are right, i might have schizoid or i might not (i do like being alone- i don't like being suffocated by other people- or trying to get people to like me, i genuinely don't care). As for girls, even though i don't care or feel anything i do like socialising at the initial stage, it's weird i like talking to girls until i realise that they like me and then it's like i've won the game and i don't care any more.

I'm messed up and i genuinely think the only cure is going through as many girls as i can till i find the cure, the one that keeps me guessing (have i won or haven't i?), so in a sense all of you guys are right.

Thx

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