Hey all... ive been seeing this girl for about two weeks now... When we first hooked up she said she didn't want a relationship, so i was happy because neither did i.

Last night though she sent me a sms "Im starting to really like you"

It seems she wants to take this further, though i just want to keep this casual... What do i do?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated..

When a girl says she doesnt want a relationship, that doesnt mean jack shit.
They have no control over there emotions.

There are sometimes circumstances why they don't want relationships.
Which are barrier defences you need to get around 1st.

so what now???

nothing, she said she didnt want a relationship. if she mentions that she wants to be exclusive with you, bring up what she said. and tell her you like how things are just the way they are. then you can decide weather you want to date her, or just be casual.

Tell her you don't want a relationship and how you like the way things are now
Or keep banging her without bringing it up and having her assume you guys are going to get together...
Not much else you can do

Ignore it in terms of replying to the text. she's really just looking for validation i imagine.

if you want to reply you would do better avoiding the area and saying something about the great day you're having etc...

you retain more value by being the one who decides to make this an ltr or keep it as it is. Let her feel however she feels, if she brings it up when you're together say you're not sure (unless you are) what you want from it or you want to keep it casual for now.

Ok, there are too many retarded replies here for me to just ignore this thread.

She starts to really like you and could possibly want a relationship with you. You, on the other hand, want to keep things casual.

So here's the plan . . .

Ummm . . . TELL HER?

Over and out.

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Agreed.

Be honest with yourself with what you want...if you want casual...state that.

Now, yes...there was one initial response that said women can't control their emotions or feelings with who they start to like or fall in love with. I've been here before many times...it's just sex she says...BS, that statement holds TRUE.

To most women, there is NO such thing as meaningless sex! Especially if you hit it right! It's only natural that she is going to want you more, wouldn't you? Now, that's not a bad thing...but if you don't want the cow if you are getting the milk for free...so to say...don't be surprised if she decides to move to another pasture.

Some girls can stay in a "just sex" relationship and leave it at that...others can't...it messes with their head and they just can't do sex without the relationship...so to stay true to herself, she will cut it off altogether, no friends, no nothing, see ya!!! Now, you can't blame her there...but don't get into a relationship just to keep the sex...that would not be good for either of you.

Keep this in mind before you do say anything...think of what you want...be honest with yourself, if things don't go the way you want...don't bend to please her...what I want to point out is...once you say this...and it doesn't go your way...US guys tend to go back on what we think/say/feel/mean just to keep the pussy because we don't want to lose it or have fear of when we will get another crack at another girl...fk that...don't bend...you don't want a relationship, don't get into one...be happy you had her for this period of time and hope for the best that is to come.

Either way...Im pulling that she says, I want what you want, that's it...but I suppose we will soon see.

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You are overthinking. I would say drop a funny line and add wi somethin like, i wanna see you on xxxxx or something. Few weeks is too early to think so much. But if this just about sex, I would say break it off and let the girl move on.

ex: Is that because i look like XXXX? I wanna so XXXX wi u now.. xxxx tom?

XXXX = something funny that u can relate to.

I .... dont ..... get ..... this!

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@cedius: All your points are valid. But I was simply looking at the problem @ hand. nikPUA wants to keep the girl for around, whatever his reasons are and at the same time don't want to commit.

In my limited experience, I would classify that text as a simple validation, something related to her mood, something she wanted to share, or she wanted to see him. Two weeks is not a lot of time. Again nikPUA is the best judge as he has more context.

So my actions 1. Avoid serious talk --> cos I don't want to.
2. Not make her feel she is wasting her time wi you. She needs to feel she is wanted when she does that. She is justified to feel like that.

Now my example may have been bad. Here are some real life examples.
1. I like you too. -- > this ended exactly 10 days later and it was the girl.
2. Sweetie, I will make you an epic cocktail tonight!. --> We had dinner later that night where she talked about her friend's broken relationship and the type of stuff she is going through.
3. I wanna dance wi you.

I may be wrong. These are strictly my experiences.

Pickasso.

OK...I get it now...It was the example that was not clear to me.

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The real question is, you want to keep it casual or you feel like keeping it casual? If you do not feel like keeping it casual, then evolve with her. I'm not 100% sure about you, but I've been in your situation where I wanted to play it off when in fact I was really liking the girl too. It turned out all lame and stupid because instead of being a real man and acting based on my feelings since the goal was wide open for me, I bullshitted and made it difficult instead.

ignore it
she will be thinking of what your response will be and why you didnt reply back
she will be thinking of you all night
reply back to her eventually
she seems really needy =]