| I've been improving my life a lot recently, and I've managed to do it without alienating my old friends for the most part. This was mainly just getting my life in check and building my confidence and finding out who I want to be.
Anyway one night I decided to go to this house party at the last minute. I took the plunge and decided I wanted to be a very sociable person and meet people.
Usually I just stand in a corner and talk to 2-3 friends the whole night, but this night I was totally stress-free and truly peaking my social interaction skills.
It went so well, I just knew exactly what to say and didn't give away any hint of insecurities, I met 30+ people, made many new friends, talked to lots of girls who kept touching me and sending me interest off the charts, and ended up getting laid (my first time, too!).
There was no canned material, openers, closers.. Just me being witty, funny, secure and appearing awesome and confident to these people. Also, the last thing on my mind was getting pussy, so I was pretty shocked to get it.
After this I've been fired up to be a much more sociable person as when I get into this 'zone' or 'mood' I feel like nothing in the world can stop me, and nothing can stand in my way of reaching my goals.
Anywhom, I've put it down to my stress free attitude I somehow triggered that night which gave me this immaculate ability to play fun.
Problematically.. I can't seem to re-trigger it at will, it's like a mindset I can attain on certain days but sometimes simply cannot! I find I think too much about stuff all the time without relaxing and this causes a wealth of problems to spring up which I then find I need to mentally solve and this is sort of like a chain reaction.
I can fly through alcohol on nights out and pretend that I'm stress free but I know that people can tell it's not genuine stress-free behaviour and my nights go less swell when this happens (I'm simply not social).
I think the ultimate fix for me would be to permanently rid myself of stressful scenarios, but as an entrepreneur I have a responsibility, almost, to live a more hectic life than most.
Right now my nights out are very hit-and-miss, sometimes I am really chilled and get immense success, where I can essentially walk up with a grin to any random girl or guy and instantly make friends and portray myself as genuinely interesting (I am genuinely interesting). Other times I feel like the whole room is aware of my tenseness, and I am practically unable to talk to anyone.
I've considered philosophy, world view, brainwave entrainment and religion in researching ways of releasing stress, but I thought I'd post here in case one of you wonderful fellows has an antidote to massive stress/ overthinking or have experienced similar to what I'm talking about.
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