So me and my ex we got into a huge fight that lead us breaking up, after that day we had a talk but she said that she was confused, that she didnt want a relantioship like that, I need it to change and if I was going to change. I told her NO. we made out that night hung together 2hours maybe, but still she left saying we broke up.She also tell me she would like keeping contact has friend because losing me would make her more sad. After We had little contact, then something happen I had some serious problem and had to travel to my homeland at that point I thought It was going to be a move permanently, I told her that, after that we got closer I spent the night with her saw her naked we made out but no sex she told me she didnt want to get attached to me since I was going to leave for good. We slept together she said she missed me calling me love and all that crap. She is still on the pill something I know she only start taking because of me she is not the " One Night stand girl" but still she takes it everyday, She told me also and show me the lingerie she had bought and now that i was going to leave she couldnt use with me. Next morning she was saying that she still didnt believe i was leaving that I would comeback and being in that city without me was going to be hard.

When I got bk to my homeland she said that she wishes she would be with me. Asking when i had an answer if I would comeback or not, to tell her right away. After I told her I was coming back she was happy. Two days passed and I ask her if she missed me, and she told me that we werent in relantioship. And I was bit shock I told her we sleep together we made out but she told me I was the who asked to sleep with her and i was leaving that I shouldnt be confused it was special circunstances so i told her ok but dont expect me do be your gay friend. So I didnt tell her nothing for 4 days. She calls at 2am saying she cant sleep(ofc I know its because of me she always tell me when she hears my voice I give her tranquility and I bring peace to her ) asking if I were alive and why I didnt tell her nothing. And if I was mad with her after our conversation. I said no but explain we couldnt be friends or she is my girlfriend or not friends.She then talked about her life saying she got out on a friday going to a very know club here that she enjoyed bla bla and hang out with some friends.


So we didnt resume conversation after that. So I ask her best friend if this breakup is for real and she told me YEAH. but for me its kind odd a girl doing that.

So Should i continue with the non contact or when I go back to the city tell her something.

Ty All

Not to be the bearer of bad news but my assumption is that she slept with someone else and now feels very guilty. It would explain a lot of the erratic behavior and her friend telling you the break up was for real with such certainty. Just move on. Keep her as an FB if that's your bag but don't stay emotionally invested.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

Yeah she friend zoned you, I'd let her be, until she comes crawling back for sex, and then turn her into a FB

She is not that type of girl she will never go crawling back only for sex she will never be FB. Oh well no contact it is.

Don’t want to make you feel bad or anything but EVERY girl is a one night stand girl weather you like it or not I thought that a while back to. She bought sexy underwear and got naked in front of you she isn’t shy by the sounds of it either. So what I would do is freeze her out do not reply to any of her texts for a while or text her at all this way you’re getting out the friend zone and she won’t rely on you to fall to sleep, that shits ok when you’re in a relationship but you’re not. Then when you decided you’ve waited long enough text her something like (Sorry I’ve been really busy etc...) it will have her wondering about what’s more important than her! But dude when she got naked you shouldn’t of asked you should of just grew some balls and seduced her trust me you wouldn’t be in the friend zone right now. Anyway all the best let us know how it goes.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

If she got undressed in front of you...that was when you needed to turn up the heat...she wanted you to take the initiative...no girl will get undressed and then not let you in...she had lingerie..."put that sh!t on...I could die in the plane crash on the way...the last vision I want to have in my head is you on me in this!!!

She is confused and she got a taste of going out, ok...either way, you are giving this girl way too much attention and she knows it...when she throws her..."I want you here, now"...you bite and you bite hard...it's up to you but I would say, let it go unless she can get her sh!t straight...but if she does straighten up...you cant get all needy on her either...you will end up in the same boat you are in now.

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

you didnt pick up too much rapport