When you are in the dark valley (where you are at the moment), first of all you can get a bit lost, you can wonder around for ages in the dark getting lost and there seems no way out and no hope and no point (like right now). It was fine in your valley when this girl was there because she had a lantern and all you had to do was focus on her and her lantern of happiness, but this was false security because now she has taken it away, you dont have a clue where you are, where to go next, you dont have a map, and its dark. So you want your girl and her happiness lantern back.
The first step is to stop wandering about in the dark thinking about not having a lantern any more. Instead LOOK UP and see the peaks surrounding you (by definition, every dark valley has peaks).
From where you are the peaks look insurmountable, but if you just keep walking and breathing, one step at a time, one day at a time, you can get there.
Of course there is an alternative which is staying in the dark valley for ever, but you once you've noticed the peaks and start focussing on them and believing you can get there, they do start to seem like the better option.
The good thing about standing at the top of your valley's peak, is its sunny up there so you can stand in the sunshine and you feel so strong like you can conquer the world and you are so proud for making the climb, you look down in valley and wonder why you stayed down there for so long, why you didnt come up here before, and the views are so good you can see whole mountain ranges ahead of you that you can conquer and you believe anything is possible now.
This is where i am now, and remember I started off in the very deep well at the bottom of the very dark valley.
So, what is the point of living - life is about the journey, and the lessons you learn on it - that is the point in living
This girl was just someone with a lantern you met on YOUR journey, she wasnt your destination though - by attempting to maintain communication you are preventing yourself from moving forward, refusing to accept that she is not the final destination, but you and she are on different journeys, you just shared a bit of the same path for a while.
If you try to get her back you will be running backwards on your journey, making no progress and even if you catch up with her, you may be following her down a path that is no good for you and you could get soo lost that way, you will never find your way back and you will not be living your journey - you can waste so many years of your life going the wrong direction - you need to break communication because you need to stand on your own two feet, climb your own mountain without her holding your hand, and find your own happiness lantern - you'll never do that if you keep running after her
Look this may all sound totally theoretical and like nonsense, I dont know, but i've been where you are, and I know for a fact that life can get better and you can find happiness, but one big lesson I learnt is that the best and realest happiness comes from the lantern inside you, not other people's lanterns. that is what will make you an attractive person, that is what will make people want to follow you, your happiness lantern and your smile on your journey, and that is the lantern that other people cant take away or put out.
The good news is you already have a happiness lantern inside you , the bad news is either its run out of batteries or you havent found the on switch (maybe you just forgot where the on switch is?)
So what you also need to do, is figure out, what turns your happiness lantern on - what makes YOU happy - (that is anything else APART FROM a girl) - when you have figured out the things that make you happy - it doenst matter what those things are or how silly or small they seem, keep doing them more and more, and soon your lantern will start to glow
She is not your personal key to your happiness - that lies within you - and once you have that, everything else will come and no one can take it away from you.
No matter how bad you feel right now, as long as you keep breathing and walking and looking up, you will look back one day from a fantastic sunny happy place
I didn't write that so none of the credit goes to me but... I found it very very helpfull. If you do want her back
Freez her out for abit
Delete her facebook
Delete her Number
Meet new women.
Best advice i ever got and i met an amazing person out of it
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CHAT