Hi guys, as the title says, I think I have a stress and anger problem. Obviously this fucks me up sometimes with women, even though it's not only women that cause me stress and anger. I get stressed over little things like somebody not texting me back, people looking at me funny, I can't stand being ignored or people avoiding saying what they really think... Any of that stuff happens I kick off, as I just have, and it's just cost me a lay this week.

I get mood swings too, sometimes I'm really chilled out, happy, nothing can bother me... Another time I'm stressed, all you have to do is give me a funny look and I'll lose it... Another time I'm depressed, I hate my life, just don't wanna do anything, suicidle thoughts... It sucks. I really try to stay positive but I just can't.

I want to know what the best way of dealing with it is, without having to go to the doctors, because I don't want to be drugged up. Drugs just mask the problems, I want to fix them completely. Does anybody have any advice?

If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts then you need to go to the doctor. In the case that there is not some underlying chemical imbalance (bi-polar disorder) then it would appear that you are just overly sensitive to anything that threatens your feelings of superiority. These feelings in me are cause by insecurity and self doubt.

In Ekhart Toley's book "A new earth" He uses a good example of the ego.

A waiter brings you cold soup.
If you respectfully let him know that the soup is cold and request hot soup then you are acting truthfully. It's a fact. The soup is cold and you would prefer hot soup.
If you react in this way either outwardly or inwardly
"How dare YOU bring ME cold soup"
Then you are just servicing your ego in some type of misguided attempt to place your worth over that of your waiter (who is just trying to do his job).

If being ignored bothers you it is because it threatens your ego's "truth" that you are too important to be ignored.
If someone not texting you back bothers you it is because you are looking for validation of self worth through their reply.
People looking at you funny??? really???
And people not saying what they think probably incites some type of "Oh, so you are trying to pull on over on ME!!" response.

In eastern philosophies the it is widely regarded that you cannot rid yourself of these egotistic tendencies without first finding your innermost "I am"
Once you find that it is a long process of giving "I am" preference over the ego.

This stuff is super complicated and I have spent most of my life trying to figure it out. I doubt I can even begin to explain on a forum what great scholars have a hard time explaining in 1000's of books. So go buy "A new earth" and "Emotional Intelligence" for a great start.

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great post jits138. Yea pretty much if you have suicidal thoughts at times then the other times you feel o.k your ego is actually behind the scenes working as hard as hell to regulate emotions for you hence anything like someone laughing at you will cause your fragile ego to try recover and fend for you.
Heres a few of the things off the top of my head that have worked for me as i pretty much used to be in a similar situation to you bigtime..

*be busier than you have time to focus on how you feel as your not getting real responces from your feelings just a whole lot of anxiety or depression sensations.
*try EFT tapping theres a video on youtube
*watch loving yourself by louise hay on youtube
*Be humble and live for this day, be present
*be a persistant son of a bitch with improving you life and adopt the language of possibility daily.
*tell your brain to shut the fuk up but thank it for sharing its negative chemicals but refuse to loose.
*Remember that each time you dont endulge in the frustration and depression or insecurity you win.
*read as much as you can make as many friends as you can and do the best you can ,theres no life like it.
*where you are in life is exactly where you need to be to make it happen
*also dont take life to seriously you wont get out of it alive so let your mind drift and think of funny sht .
*Stop all critism of yourself and others and stop any blame.
*GET ALL THE HOT VAGINA YOU CAN.
peace.