so i went out this girl she kept insisting on paying for everything . shes like ur not my bf. i guess her previous bf had hurt her badly and now she says she doesnt believe in love. i didnt let her pay regardless... ...

i actually on the other hand like this girl and actually see myself with her and getting along . ..

give me some advise . what should i do . i am not good with girls .. what should i do say ?

If she recently broke up and says she doesn't believe in love (which is of course temporary, but then the period for Which she feels this way might be long) all you can do is win her over by your actions and not your words. What I'm saying is, without her realizing you're clearly out There with an intention, if she sooner or later realizes things aren't as bad as they seem and that she should give it another try, that's it. It'll work. Be there for her (not in a gay way), be understanding and kind since she's had a bad recent past, but keep the focus on having a fun time with her. Remember, she must SUBconsciously realize what you've realized (we're fit for each other).

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Women are plenty, time is not.

From what i've learned:

girls who are keep telling how bad they were treated are the ones who didn't treat THEIR BF well.

Be careful with those kind of girls. Mostly they are fucked up.

Thats BS...any decent girl would know, regardless of whether you are BF or just getting to know eachother...you don't INSIST on the guy paying just as you wouldn't INSIST that she pay. That's not a good start to say the least...but Im thinking worst case when she mentioned this...did she at least offer once she saw that you were a cool guy?
True but there are those exceptions...my last GF wasn't treated to well by her last BF's...with that, she actually tried to please me and make me happy but mostly, yes...this does hold true...this really depends on how well you come off to her. No Pun intended...but that better be good too!

You aren't good with girls...well, you are here to get good. So far, where are you with her...another date? Did you touch her throughout the date...I sure hope you did because if you didn't, you are just going to be that guy that pays and gets no action. There are good threads in here regarding how to go about situations like this...find them, they are good reads. Do you see or have a connection with her already?

We need abit more info if you want help and if you do post...be honest...don't shy away from the details...if you do, we can't help...be honest.

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

She insisted that she'd pay. She didn't insist on making HIM pay.

But boy if a girl insists YOU pay.. She'd have to be one uncultured turd or a REAL high maintenance babe playing her own game.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

Doh...ok...my fault here...yes...very uncultured.

Split the bill, don't feel obligated to cover it all...that is actually ok.

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

You are in the friendzone and you are an orbiter. An orbiter is someone that chicks keep around to give them attention and affirmation that they are still attractive and able to keep a guys attention.

She is not attracted to you and not into you and the more you pump up her ego by listening to her BF stories and problems and the more you tell her she is great and that her ex is asshole the more her ego is stroked and the less respect and attraction she will have for you.

The way you break out of this is to stop calling/txtng for awhile. If she calls you wondering why you aren't coming around just say, "I want to go out and do something fun and not hear all about your boyfriend problems all the time."

then start teasing her and busting her balls like you would one of your guy friends. Then start flirting with her and making sexual comments and innuendos with her etc.

Don't do anything on her terms but rather only do things on your terms. She may or may not ever be attracted to you but if you do these things you may get some respect from her.

To an extent I agree with what's said above. You don't have to listen to her sad BS and console her like her gay buddy. But the point being missed here is, if that girl is actually emotionally fragile, you can't go about saying things like ''i'm gonna go do something fun and not hear about your BF''. If she's genuine, the need of the hour for her is to gain her faith back in men which she lost thanks to her ex. Now it's unto you if you want to be the one investing his time & energy into convincing her or not. But you can't afford to be straight-up rude to her, I don't think so. She talks about her ex, you change the topic almost instantaneously. Boom. Make it clear you're not interested in that topic but without stating it rudely.

Just keep being the great fun light hearted guy she sees a new world in. & keep your eyes on other women as well. Investment made, returns shall follow.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

+100000000000000000000000000000

This is true.

Bingo. Dealing with this right now after a rough break up. She put it all on her last guy, is with him again now and is now speaking about how "awful" I was. Run far, far away.

5 years later. Moral if the story. She was fucked up.
You were right 100 percent

But you gave it a 5 year run?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

LOL.

Damn man...damn..

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You dug up a 5 year old thread to confirm it? Someone could have saved you 5 years with free advice but you didn't want to listen. Shame on you.