There's a girl I know for about 1.5-2 yrs. Got a serious problem out there because (saw her today, she asked me to meet her) I just can't kiss her. For most of the time I treated her just like another friend, but from about 1-2 months I started to think that she might be what I'm looking for at the moment and that's why I would like to push it forward before it's too late (I beliveve I do look like a total puss right now, because I've showed that I like her in this particular way). She's not SHB, or even HB - I know many more attractive women, but she's kinda cutie and we have common interests, we like similar music etc., nevermind - I'd just like to be with her. I'm really into society, reading loads of books regarding Psychology, even NLP, but can't move on with a girl I like, I mean what the hell? If I am almost sure she finds me attractive why do I hesitate when I should just kiss her? How can it be explained? Feel pathetic right now. Greetz and sorry for my English.

Next time when you're talking to her do the following things.

1. Make sure you're sitting next to her.
2. Slow down the pace of your talking whilst you are increasing the amount of eye contact. (she should maintain the Eyecontact)
3. Slowly take her hand. Move your indexfinger into the inside of her hand. (she should move her fingers around your's. It's like your hands are already making love).
4. Stop talking and move you're face close to hers. Go 90% up to her's. She has to do the last 10%. (If she does not do the last 10% and stands still. Just hold for three seconds and bridge the last 10%) by yourself.
5. Just kiss; the automated parts of the brain will take over.

Troubleshooting: what if things go wrong?

Just try it. If she gets mad or moves her head away. She will give some negative comment on your action. Lesson learned, thats not failure. Trust it me it will make you feel stronger. What's up man??? She thinks she can just be social with you without you making a move? Now way dude, you are a player and an alpha male so you grab something that is in within firing range right?

I'm 28 and 3 years into the game. I kiss close regularly now but I still think it is more exciting then getting naked for the first time and getting her pussy wet haha!

Good luck, let me know how it went. You should never be ashamed for trying to love or fall in love with someone. Think about it!

Greetz Buccaneer.

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Buccaneer - thanks for your reply.

I know how to lead to kiss situation, I'm just wondering WHY my brain blocks me before doing it. It's not that I'm afraid of rejection (she totally likes me - invited me to her prom sometime ago, proposed meeting yesterday) because I will not get it (I mean it would be really strange). Does it mean that on some subconscious level I am not sexually interested in this girl? I need to say that I'm not some creepy AFC weirdo, I know how to be attractive and as far as I am concerned I am attractive, goodlooking man, but not doing what I'm supposed to do for next time just makes me unhappy and wonder why can't I overcome.

Meeting some other girls would work great I guess, but I would like to make things work between us - feel like I would be a little bit pissed of if she gets into relationship with some other guy right now. I know, that sounds stupid, because there are loads of women and she is not that hot, but still, these are facts lads, I would be pissed off.

Also, she really often mentions some guy from her class that I know and there are two options - either she is into him, or she tries to make me jealous or both at the same time.

Maybe it's just that we both feel we like each other, would like to try to be together, but since we know ourselves for some time, we're, or rather I am (since it's kinda my job to kiss her first) afraid to make this significant step? Would like to pick up your brains guys. Maybe the only thing I need is some balls, less thinking and rationalising. Looking forward to hearing from you guys, thanks.

Hmmm... Then you should have posted that. Sounds to me like you have some serious inner game problems...

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