so i been talking to this girl on pof and i keep initiating a conversation, and as soon as i go for a number close she stops messaging me

me:Hey I messaged you back and forth for a bit a little while ago and then it just stopped. Were you intimidated by my good looks or was it my decisiveness?

hb8:little bit of both

me:im just a little bit cooler then you are, too bad then

hb8:haha Im just teasing ya . How have you been... ready for the weekend??

me: ive been awesome, even better considering it snowed last night lol,going up to the mountains this weekend to go snowboarding cant wait, whats on your agenda?

hb8wesome!! I've never done any of that besides like sledding haha. I would probably break something knowing me... ! Im just sitting around having a glass of wine with some girlfriends at my sisters house! Tomorrow not too sure about whats going on.

me: tubing is alot of fun too, i love wine! merlot is my favorite, its even better when its homemade

hb8:haha yeah definitely, my dad makes homemade wine so he hooks me up


me: thats awesome, my mom and dads friends they make homemade wine so i drink theirs all the time also its really good, considering they have over 100 gallons, they told me that and my mouth dropped, thats alot of wine

hb8:yuupppp but you know its gonna go fast haha people who make wine..
LOVEEEE to drink it

me: yes! somehow they drink it then its eventually time to make more i dont get it thats alot of alcohol lol

hb8:Hahaha hell they are making it while they are drinking it !! So
how was your night last night??

me: yea they have huge barrels in their basement its awesome, my night was awesome, went to trolley square with a group of friends fell asleep at 3am, then woke up at 6am to go snowboarding, and all my friends were too hungover to go, which kinda sucked but theres always next weekend

hb8:Haha yup!! Yeah me too around 3:30!! AWhhh man sorry you werent able to go, but like you said there is always next weekend. I love the snow but im ready for spring to get here!!

STOPPED MESSING ME BACK FOR A FEW DAYS SO I REINITIATED A CONVO

me:you are the worst messager backer ever!

hb8:AHAHAHA sorrryyy sometimes i come into my inbox and i have like 12 messages so you may be on a page i didnt get to lol. Its so annoying its mostly guys that im not interested in... as in like 53 yr old men lol.

or people who just say... "hi" .... "cutie"... "sexy"... "is that a dog in your picture"... like no its a over-grown cat... lol

how are you??

me: i can count on my fingers how many times i have been talking to a girl on here and somewhere in the conversation she goes, EWWWWW some 50 year old guy just messaged me and he called me sexy!!! lol

hb8:Hahaha yea i love being asked to be someones late night dessert, by far my favorite so far!!

me:sounds a little fiesty dont ya think

hb8:uhmmm yeah... too much for my likingssss

me:yea you dont seem too touchy feely, too bad

hb8:nah i am,just not with a complete stranger, ya know?

me:yea i know what you mean, once your comfortable your more open to that totally understandable

hb8::) Sorry I didnt get back to you last night... I know im horrible!! lol Buttttttt I fell asleep, I was so tired! Anywayssss I hope you have an amazing day!

me: hahaha its cool, i fell asleep also then woke up at 5am for work so i got a good 2 hours lol, but i had an amazing day funny you should say that , how was your day

hb8:My day was just alright, got some bad news but working through it. Tell me about your day I could use something nice to hear.

me:i went to work early this morning then i went out to lunch with the most beautiful woman in my life right now, my mom

hb8:Awhhh thats so sweet! Im glad you had a really good day. I will have a great one tomorrow, my sister is having her baby!!!

me:thats awesome congratulations, is this your first time being an aunt?

hb8:Lol nope 7th such an amazing feeling, how about you
?

STOPPED MESSAGING ME AGAIN FOR A FEW DAYS

me:did you get lost over the internet again?

hb8:lol your too funny, noooo i just had a busy past couple dayss i think you got lost

me:oh stop! I find a lot of attractive girls on here but i'm looking for something a bit more, i have my fingers crossed for you

hb8:Haha oh is that so?? Do you have both set of hands crossed or just one hand?

Yeah I hear yeah about looking for more then just some... "fun" I get alot of offers for that on here, its a bit ridiculous lol. Sooo how was your week??

me: my week has been awesome, do you have facebook?

hb8:yup, ******************

me:thats really italian, idk if i should be excited or really scared

hb8:lol little bit of both!!

STOP MESSAGING ME BACK ONCE AGAIN

me: you really are the worst possible messager backer on this site

hb8:grrr dont be mean to me!! lol

me:why are you having a bad day?

hb8:yes actually

me:this is the second time youve been having a bad day that i talked to you, sounds like you just dont get a good break

hb8:Yes... its been a pretty bad month for me, honestly. But better that im talking to youuuu haha

me:i think i should know you a little better before you try to propose to me or anything like that

hb8:Ahahahaha your too much

me:you don't look like a girl that is intimidated by a guy that she wants

hb8:Haha, well you hit that right on, im definitely not afraid to let someone know ... so they can pick up on what im putting down hahah

me:Well I'm not slow to pick up so you can tell me all about it when I call...you should give me your number now...unless you're too scared?

AND ONCE AGAIN SHE STOPPED MESSAGING ME, IM NOT SUFFERING FROM SEVERE ONEITIS I JUST WANNA KNOW WHAT IM DOING WRONG HERE, I SEEM TO BE GETTING IOI'S AND WHAT NOT THANKS

JFC just ask her out already and don't bother getting a phone number out of her. You don't need one. Name the place and time.

right but she stopped messaging me, so how would i re initiate a conversation?

You did several times and it was pretty embarrassing, its online dating the site is CALLED plentyoffish... that should give you a hint - there are other girls to talk to if shes not responding. It actually seemed like she was into it but your being very needy.

I dont use online dating but some general rules I employ in most of my male-female interactions is I make sure I am the one to end the conversation before it dies out. She is doing this here and its making you want more rather than her-she could be the one whining to you about how your a bad "messeger backer"

Be cool. work on conversational skills (she seems to be changing the subject and you seem to be dragging them out for the most part). Actually BE decisive - dont just say it (TELL her your going to meet up to hang out). Dont talk about boring things like your parent's friends homemade wine... Let her message you back once and a while - wait and dont think about her.

Are you leaving out parts of these conversations? whenever you say shes not messaging you back its after something she messaged you. it would help to see the posts shes not responding too.

Good Luck, let us know how your doing.

It did seem like she was into you but you weren't escalating. You asked for her facebook and it looked like she gave it with the ********** you put there, but then you messaged her back on pof?!

And the times when she said you get lost down the box by 50 year olds, perfect opportunity to say, okay forget this them, what's the best way to keep in touch with you. She'll give her msn facebook tel number whatever.

You had a lot of convo where you just talked about yourself. Find out about her too. I know you're into mystery so give her some little qualification questions.