I hate one-itis.

I get it really easily, and this can lead to jealousy depending on the girl.

I'm seeing 2 girls at the moment, however the one in question be a little flaky and wishy washy in terms of meetups. But she does seem to want to hang out a bit more. She's excellent in bed and to be fair quite fun.

However oneitis is creeping in. I want to see this girl more than the other one (the other one is much hotter). But this is how I keep getting into relationships and I've only really just got back into the game.

I'd like to keep her as an FB, but would you guys suggest I backed off for a while and cut contact? I get a feeling she really likes to be in the driver's seat. She has male friends which I get the feeling tag along wanting something more from her but they're clear AFCs (I've seen them in action).

Id back off slightly. Not completely but give yourself space... So you can get your head in the right place...

Sounds like she has a few orbitors hanging around so this type of bird wants a guy who wants her less than she wants him so yea however you can demonstrate this indirectly.Sweep her of her feet, its probabaly what you did at the start to win her compared to the orbiters that shes not sleeping with.makesure she knows you might have a few options in your own orbit perhaps.
chur.

Thanks guys, time to step back and get more women in my life.

This brings up a question...

Is oneitis REALLY that bad?? Something similar is happening to me as well. Out of the 4 girls I'm seeing, there is one that I like the most out of all of them. Its mostly compatibility, we really click you know, naturally. And this seems to be pushing my other targets away (in my mind), they don't matter as much to me as she does. But my question is... If shes very attracted to you, and vice versa, why is this so bad? I mean, I understand what it can do to you, but if you find someone you really like, wouldn't it be best to just roll with it? Personally, I find those are the kind of experiences you learn the most from, the ones that really let you grow.

Perhaps not everyone can be polygamous.... Some people are just Monogamous by nature

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Yeah definately let yourself get into a relationship and be real, passionate, on the edge of your seat, its only when your thinking becomes needy and insecure that it can become unhealthy and oneitis in its severe form can become obsessive love the type where happiness is now dependent on a target person, drive past her house, visit her work,check her phone,become controlling,thinking about her constanly- probably half the guys on maury povich.
I think most of us on the forums are not likely to become obsessive types due to inner game and having options in our lives but definately a guy whos very AFC and has let his guard down and his hurt inner boy needing a mama comes back.

I don't think being in a relationship is a bad thing, but I see one-itis as being a needy/clingy issue which now that I've taken a step back I have observed that's what I was feeling. If I continued down this path I'd be the one chasing and I would just end up unhappy. I'm much happier with options.