Ok, so its looking like I'm going be in a LTR soon, don't mind kinda wanna learn how to manage one (been doing the one night stand thing for a while). But im afraid of turning into a total AFC so do you guys have any good tips or reading material on managing a relationship (none of mines have lasted more than 3 months).

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The most important thing is keep doing what you've been doing to keep her attracted. Whether that's C & F, occasional negs, teasing, whatever. Don't stop doing that. Sure, the dynamic does change a little, but at least that will keep you from going completely AFC and her getting bored with you.

yeah i realise that, but i havent really done much to get her attention in the first place, atleast i dont think i have, we hung out for the first time last nite, and things just kinda went well i suppose i dunno im a lil confused about the whole damn thing...in my experience easy come easy go, and im worried about getting emotionaly invested in a relatinship that wont work out anyways...ugh things make sense till emotions get in the way, should i call her, no thats not good ill be needy, but if i dont call her she'll think im not attracted and will go and find somebody else..ect

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I agree, it's a delicate act between showing them you care and coming off as needy. Very fine line.

I would say your number one concern ought to be feelings of guilt. There's not a married man alive who hasn't been made to feel guilt for something that he would have otherwise felt absolutely no guilt over. Once they do this, they realize they can manipulate you. Once they manipulate you, they lose sexual attraction for you.

The other big concern I have with an exclusive relationship is deterioration of PUA skills. I believe if not practiced regularly, your PUA skills will decline. If she eventually dumps you, you'll be heart broken with no skills to replace her.

Good luck.

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Whoa, you've spent one night with her and think this is going to be an LTR?

as far as the skills go, im not worried, i've got 4 other girls in rotation rotation right now, and even if this becomes and LTR i do plan on sarging girls, not only to keep my skills in check but to keep her in check as well (gotta make sure to let her now that im not replacable, and that shes not the only thing in my life).

L.A i have a little theory on that, they say girls know if they're fuck you within 3 sec of meeting you, well i believe we (guys) know if we would be willing to have a relationship with a girl withing the first 3 seconds of meeting them.

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LOL. I thought the same thing.

umm..no im not thinking this is gona be an LTR because i spent a night with her, i think this is gona be an LTR because of the txt msg's she sends me every night ever since, its obvious this girl is head over heals for me (however i've been in a similair situation and im trying not to have it fizzle out by being an AFC, a mistake i made the last time around).

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I see your point, but I also see where that could be a dangerous perspective. I do understand that we can look at a girl and think yes or no as far as fucking her and as far as being seen with her, but then you have to look at making her qualify herself to you too.

Now, AFC's would look at an attractive girl and immediatly think "yes I will have her as my g/f. In fact, I WANT her as my g/f", lol.

Lol no, thats not the case at all, the reason i can see a LTR comming is exactly because of the way she qualifies her self, i mean right now shes pretty much treating me like im the best things since slice bread...a pattern i've identified to having lead to every single one of my LTR's, and since i do find her attractive as hell im not exactly opposed to the idea, by no means do i think shes gona be the one i marry or anything like that but i do see this becoming a steady thing for some period of time.

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Well, if she's as cool as you say, you should just go for it then.

Ok so bit of an up date on the girl situation, after some initial drama she comes over, i rented happy feet and got a bottle of chapmaign (well technically sparkling wine since it was from italy). So this is Day 2, were watching the movie, kino escalation is in full motion, (already past the kclose from day 1) but im gettin LMR, she keeps blocking my advances on her breasts. Once the movie is over there is a little bit of an intelude as my roommate and her b/f come home, so we hang out for a few minutes, things are light and casual, they go upstairs to do their thing, and i still havent gotten what i wanted, so whats a guy to do, I decide to just blow, i walk up to her kiss her and grab her by her thighs sand pick her up so shes stradling me , than i just blantatly talke her up to my bedroom lay her down on the bed and keep going, yup no more LMR didnt fclose cause it was her period. She txt's me once she gets home, im only gona quote one

"what power do you hae oer me ? I miss you, Les etoiles sont danes tes yeux, et mon coeur es dans tes main."

(shes french canadian and has a habbit of txting me these cute little msgs in french, bonus points to anybody that can translate cause babel fish sux:P)

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