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I haven't read over this thread, but I have an opinion. It comes down to the fact that we have all been socially conditioned to believe men and women are the same, and cheating is equally bad for both.
It is just as bad. If you've agreed to be exclusive with someone you should stay faithful, whether you have a penis or a vagina. End of story
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In reality, men are biologically designed to spread our seed. Higher testosterone has been linked to "unfaithful" behavior in men. Women who cheat will almost always have some kind of justification process taking place during, and after. An example would be: "He doesn't show me enough attention, so it's his fault I'm screwing this guy." A guy on the other hand does not require this. We are driven biologically, and don't have to convince ourselves of a reason to cheat. We may feel guilt before, during, or after, but if we have a high enough sex drive, it will probably happen. A woman doesn't even necessarily have to be "horny" to cheat, she is usually doing it for some type of affirmation, such as to prove she is "still attractive". I'm sure many guys will disagree, but this is a subject I studied intimately while getting my degree, so I have a fair amount of insight.
I do disagree. I've been with girls who have had boyfriends. Good ones that treat them really well. The only reason they would cheat with me is because they're horny and they are sexually attracted to me, just the same as a guy would. I've slept with these girls only to read later on their Facebook statuses "I love my boyfriend so much!". They will always use the "he's not showing me enough attention" excuse, they're really good at coming up with excuses. When I first got with my girlfriend, another girl who wanted to meet me fell out with me. I told my girlfriend this, and she said in these exact words: "she was probably only going to use you for sex, that's why she doesn't still want to be friends with you. I used to do that all the time, lots of girls do.
Then we always twist it around so that it sounds like the other guy's fault, we're experts at that". You're doing their job for them with this post, this is exactly why men are seen to be worse for cheating when in reality both sexes are the same.
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One study that comes to mind was involved a sexual scenario for both men and women: A man (confederate) placed himself at a popular location that brought a wide variety of people to it, to achieve a good random sample. He asked a specific number of women (I believe it was 99) who were deemed "too attractive" for him if they would have sex with him in a location he had nearby, no strings attached. He was turned down 100% of the time.
This same exercise was done with a woman. She approached men who were deemed "too attractive" for her (she was very plain looking), and asked the same question. Now keep in mind the people being approached were not asked if they were in a relationship, but it is safe to say roughly half were. 76% of the males agreed to it. This means that if we assume 50% of males are in a relationship, half of them would cheat (in this study) with a random stranger that is not even considered as attractive as them.
Women will always reject a lot more than men. That's because it's mainly men that approach women, because we're told that's how it's "supposed" to be. Women get used to saying no because they get asked that thing quite a lot and get really tired of it, yet men never get asked that so they will jump at the chance. We have to work hard to get laid, we have to be persistant, that's why men will jump atthe chance of free sex. Only persistant guys get laid, these results are only from the first approaches. Nothing to do with how we're biologically wired. In fact there are other countries where women approach a lot more than men, I'm willing to bet that if you did this study over there the results would be switched around.
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My advice would be: don't screw up a good relationship because of cheating. If you are going to do it, NEVER do it with a friend/relative of your girlfriend/wife. IF you are going to do it, be discreet, do it in another town.
My advice would be: don't screw up a good relationsip because of cheating. If you are going to do it, you're a cunt
