So I've got this issue...and I'll be the first to admit its not an issue I'm complaining about. In fact, I'd like to maintain this issue as long as possible.

About 3 weeks ago I f-closed an older women (by nine years) I met at a bar after knowing her for 3 hours (see earlier lay report post). I've seen her twice since then purely for sex. She's great in that she's fulfilling a number of my fantasies in one shotgun blast:

- Erotic sex (candle wax, oil, likes it rough)
- Great body...not a lick of body fat
- Ex-stripper (score), current bartender (double score, as I now don't pay for drinks or food at her upscale bar)
- Sexy tattoos up and down her back
- MILF (two kids from a divorce...hope I NEVER meet them)

So far our relationship works as follows: 1) her kids will be with the dad for the night 2) We'll start texting 3) I come over to her place and shag her rotten, spend the night, and leave early the next day.

Now, this is a GOOD thing to have going. I want to keep it casual as I won't "date" this woman (there's another girl I'm dating who thinks we're exclusive). And I believe she's hip enough to want to keep it casual, also. But I'm getting the feeling that she may want to see me for more than just a fuck since the last time we hooked up she did the following:

- Kissed me and held my hand in public
- Had already described me to her friends and co-workers...making it a little awkward when I got to her bar
- Mentioned that she has yet to see me with any of my friends

I have never been in a situation like this before. I'd like to keep seeing her on a weekly basis...no more, no less. If it got to the point where she gave me an ultimatum about escalating the relationship, I'd have to break it off. Anybody got any advice so I can keep this as is for as long as possible?

-Esperanto

Nope no advice
Poor girl I hope she see's the light and realizes she's being used
Do what u like though..........

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So u think you can handle this?

Don't worry, EasyLover, I'm not leading her on and have no intention to. If I can keep it casual, great, if not, oh well. I think she's on the level though.

i'd like to hear some advice on this one as well.

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Honestly with this one, ride the pony till you get kicked off. I'd probably end it soon but end it well. More HB's out there to f-close.

So what's so great about your current girl friend that the ex-stripper doesn't beat hands down?

Don't end it per se. Talk to her about it. Inform her of why you are there in a nice and easy way. I am NOT saying "Let her down easy." I am saying explain things so that you both can continue to get what you want out of this. Let the Xstripper know that you have a steady GF but that she lets you enjoy yourself because she knows that you will come home to her. This will show honesty AND it will not make you look like a total douche AND it will show that you are loyal to your GF without looking like you used the stripper.

Of course, personally, I would have let your GF know that you wanted to see other people in the first place. (And no I don't mean break up with her either) I just mean that having an open relationship means that everybody wins. But that is just me.

EvoJ

I find this ironic. It's ok for you to play games with guys and have them buy you incredibly expensive drinks, but he can't dare have a fuck buddy who's he hasn't deceived one bit?


The game is played both ways my dear. It's one thing if he lies to the women telling them he wants to be exclusive (relationship), but he's not doing that from what I can tell. So what's the problem here?

This situation is different sir.
And as i said I don't care so...........

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So u think you can handle this?

ahahhahahahahha funny shit.

But as far as the topic of the girl. She is in fact a girl and is of course going to want a relationship out of this because she does want her friends think she is just some "hookup buddy" and is being used by you . This is not what you intend but how she will perceive it.

What I would do is make up a story on how you are not ready for relationship because you just got out of a three year blah blah blah. Just tell her you not ready to be hurt again but you still want to see her and wait till the time is right.

Hope this helps.

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Perception is Reality

Why is this different? Only because the means suits your needs? Again, unless he's lying to them, then it's game on. If he's lying to them, then I agree with you totally.

I missed where you said this. Guess that makes two of us then. Cheerios!

Game on.

what the hell is this? Why come to a site just to become upset at what's being discussed. It's like me coming to a site about men who sit down and urinate, why in the hell am I there if I am not one of them. Damn

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i lust for jessica alba, but now since she is preggers. I am lusting for Nicole!!! It's New Year's Day. It was Ben Franklin who said, "Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man."

Oh another guy who clearly cant handle my comments You shouldn't come to a site unless your ready for people like me You'll learn I'll say whatever the hell I want and can care less if your offended.

and don't bother arguing with me on this post I won't respond to u

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So u think you can handle this?

Thats why I don't trust anything that bleeds for 6 days and doesn't die.

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Perception is Reality